Re: Inquiry:Neo is a control freak who can't stand anything but his own ideas

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Hahahahaha... You're funny! )

Zenbear

The way you are in this discussion, reminds me of our past discussions

months ago.

My worksheet:

I am pissed that Zenbear continue to expose my stuff and that in order to

see your beauty, I have to do the work.

Zenbear is afraid to do the work.

Zenbear is afraid to be wrong.

Zenbear is afraid to let others be right.

Zenbear won't admit the possibility of another's reality until they admit

his possibility.

Zenbear is a know-it-all who knows nothing.

Zenbear cares more about being right than about other people.

I want Zenbear to stop arguing with Elena and do the work on every point he

made.

I want Zenbear to contribute to this group by presenting worksheets and the

results of his investigation.

Zenbear should stop talking about other's reality and focus on his own.

Zenbear can't know another's' reality.

Zenbear is a f*** coward who doesn't have the balls to be wrong, admit he

doesn't know squat or to do the work.

Zenbear's isn't neo. Not even close. If he were, he wouldn't debate

anything with anyone.

I don't to ever read these kinds of email from Zenbear.

Zenbear should make it easy for everyone and just admit he's wrong.

I am doing this just to get Zenbear to see my viewpoint.

I really don't want to do the work

Wow big worksheet.

Steve

Re: Inquiry:Neo is a control freak who can't stand

anything but his own ideas

>

> Neo, Honey, You are... a control freak.

> and if you care to respond to this email, would you kindly do so in

> the format appropriate to this discussion list: Inquiry of 4

> questions and a turnaround.

>

Hey Elena,

There is no rule that the discussion has to be in the form of an

Inquiry. Some people like to post their Inquiries, others don't. Some

peolpe enjoy discussing the questions themselves and others don't.

May I ask what you realised from your Inquiry about me?

Did you by any chance see that the thought of me as a control freak

was the cause of your feeling of anger? Actually I had NOTHING to do

with your feelings, they were ONLY caused by your thoughts. Someone

with different thoughts would have felt quite differently.

Eventually you get to see that its all just your projection (story).

The only qusetion is do you want a happy story or a nightmare.

Still loving you to bits ...

Neo

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" zenbear01 " wrote:

>

> Did you by any chance see that the thought of me as a control

freak

> was the cause of your feeling of anger? Actually I had

NOTHING to do

> with your feelings,

Ultimately this is true Neo. As with a pedophile, the pedophile

did nothing wrong. At this point says - mind you I am not

condoning what the pedophile did. If he knew a better way to

realize love do you not think that he would behave differently?

The same is true for Neo, Steve, and myself - and everyone on

this board. If we knew differently, we would behave differently. I

think this is why is so clear that you simply sit

non-judgementally and do not tamper with the mental beliefs of

another. You simply stay in your center and focus on you, your

needs, your resistance, your judgements so that you can remove

the barriers to love within your self

Then we forget and begin again - until we remember....

>

> Still loving you to bits ...

This doesn't sound loving to me at all....Jan

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> apparently has a habit of going inside

> to see if what someone says to her is true for her.

> Might be worth a shot.

Hi Abra,

Yes, I can find it

I am a control freak sometimes. I am also often not a control freak.

Always good to look inside. Thanks for the reminder

Loving you to bits ...

Neo

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>

> My worksheet:

> I am pissed that Zenbear continue to expose my stuff and that in

order to

> see your beauty, I have to do the work.

> Zenbear is afraid to do the work.

> Zenbear is afraid to be wrong.

> Zenbear is afraid to let others be right.

> Zenbear won't admit the possibility of another's reality until they

admit

> his possibility.

> Zenbear is a know-it-all who knows nothing.

Hey Steve,

Thank you for this. I can find it all

Yes, you are right I am afraid to do the work sometimes.

I am afraid to be wrong sometimes.

I am afraid to let others be right sometimes.

I am a know-it-all who knows nothing sometimes.

I also do not know anyone else who is not:

afraid to do the work sometimes.

afraid to be wrong sometimes.

afraid to let others be right sometimes.

a know-it-all who knows nothing sometimes.

I am also kind sometimes, thoughtful sometimes, caring sometimes. I

guess that's just what human beings are

Loving you to bits as always ...

Neo

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> > Still loving you to bits ...

>

> This doesn't sound loving to me at all....Jan

Hey Jan,

" Loving you to bits " came from my darling partner, who gave me a hug

one day and just said out of the blue " I love you to bits " . I had

never heard or used that expression before, but it sounded kind of

nice so I started using it.

Sorry that it doesn't sound loving to you, but as you know I can't

control your thoughts. I am whatever you say I am

Luv,

Neo

PS. And yes, I am unloving sometimes. LOL!

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Zenbear

When you write:

Sorry that it doesn't sound loving to you, but as you know I can't control

your thoughts. I am whatever you say I am

I feel uncomfortable and am telling myself that you are making her wrong for

reacting to you. It sounds like a dig for her not enjoying what you write.

I know this is all my story.

I am curious as to what motivates you to say this, knowing that she already

knows this. Are you wanting to trust that you are OK and wanting safety?

or is acceptance in the face of others disagreeing with you?

Steve

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>

> I am curious as to what motivates you to say this, knowing that she

> already knows this. Are you wanting to trust that you are OK and

> wanting safety? or is acceptance in the face of others disagreeing

> with you?

>

Hey Steve,

Yes, I can find it

I do indeed want safety sometimes.

But on the other hand it may have come from the Slim Shady song I was

singing in my head.

" I am whatever you say I am, if I wasn't, then why would I say I

am? " - Slim Shady

Will the real Slim Shady please stand up, please stand up, please

stand up!

LOL now wasn't there a thread recently about asking the real Steve D.

to please stand up.

Luv,

Neo

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" zenbear01 " wrote:

> Hi Abra,

>

> Yes, I can find it

>

> I am a control freak sometimes. I am also often not a control

freak.

>

> Always good to look inside. Thanks for the reminder

>

> Loving you to bits ...

>

>

> Neo

Neo,

thank you for not pointing out the obvious - that I am

in your business. Of course being a control freak

is my type of business too... Cheri Huber has an e-mail

class on projection that just started and I thought

her response to one of the students was interesting.

A participant writes:

Some of the descriptions, though, are of me as I have been, and I

have changed, so that was good news.

CH:

Well, actually, how we are is just how we are and our devotion to

self-improvement is ego's way of making sure we never change. Being

your full potential is the source of compassion — you don't want a

childhood survival system to take that away from you!

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I like that - full potential - sometimes a control freak, sometimes

not.

abra

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CONTROL is a foundation for maturity ask any gardener .

On Thursday, October 23, 2003, at 01:36 AM, abrakadabrabc wrote:

> " zenbear01 " wrote:

>

>

>> Hi Abra,

>>

>> Yes, I can find it

>>

>> I am a control freak sometimes. I am also often not a control

> freak.

>>

>> Always good to look inside. Thanks for the reminder

>>

>> Loving you to bits ...

>>

>>

>> Neo

>

>

> Neo,

>

> thank you for not pointing out the obvious - that I am

> in your business. Of course being a control freak

> is my type of business too... Cheri Huber has an e-mail

> class on projection that just started and I thought

> her response to one of the students was interesting.

>

> A participant writes:

>

> Some of the descriptions, though, are of me as I have been, and I

> have changed, so that was good news.

>

> CH:

>

> Well, actually, how we are is just how we are and our devotion to

> self-improvement is ego's way of making sure we never change. Being

> your full potential is the source of compassion — you don't want a

> childhood survival system to take that away from you!

>

> -----------------

>

> I like that - full potential - sometimes a control freak, sometimes

> not.

>

>

> abra

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