Re: Jan-Re: I lost it today... (1 of 2)

[Guest guest]

Jan, I also have been so dizzy for about a week now. I guess

I'm gonna have to get to dr. Pat,SC

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Jan, You sound very stressed out. You can't care for your husband if you don't

take care of yourself. You are in California...right? In Ariz, we have a state

program called ALTECS...Az long term care ...and we have hired an eldercare

attorney to help in the qualification process. What this means is that mom can

keep her house, her assets and cars by setting up an income annuity. You

should look into an elder care attorney. The stress of having to consider

selling your house must be overwhelming.

My sister-in-law's mother is in a nursing home and they were able to get state

help. I will check into this and get back with you. In the mean time...do

something for you. I know that is easier said than done, but you are creative.

Put it to good use and take care of yourself!

I'll let you know about the care issues.

Be Well! Hugs.

Lynn

> Hi Abby,

> I feel your pain. I think you are doing swell. It's

> really amazing when you think about it, how much we

> can really handle when it comes right down to it.

> Don't beat yourself up so much. You have your own

> family that needs you too, so you're dividing yourself

> up between everyone's needs. You know when people are

> left on their own it's sink or swim. I'm willing to

> bet that your mom will do fine when you go back to

> work. As long as you are there, she is going to lean

> on you, because she can. It is also the teacher coming

> out in you to be prepared. I know, I am the same way.

> I was a teacher for special needs kids. I am the sole

> caregiver of my husband, except for a caregiver that

> comes twice a week for 4 hours on each of those days.

> It is time off for me, but usually I have to grocery

> shop, go to the bank and all the things I can't do on

> the rest of the week, because my husband gets very

> impatient when I have to shop and do other outside

> errands. Everything comes down on me. The upkeep of a

> rather large home inside and out paying the bills,

> bathing and grooming of my husband and me.......The

> whole running a house routine and as you say all the

> calls for whatever other things need tending to.

> For the last three days my balance has been off. My

> equilibrium is gone. We are a comedy in motion. My

> husband was ready to fall and I tried to catch his

> fall, but we both went down, because of my

> equilibrium. We are both alright. Tomorrow I have a

> doctor appointment when his caregiver is here. I think

> it might be stress related. It could be an inner ear

> infection, but I've never had one before. I know what

> you mean. I scream a lot. I lock myself in the bedroom

> and put my head in a pillow and scream. It is good to

> vent. I can't cry anymore. I'm just frustrated and

> angry at this disease and what it has done to the both

> of us. I am starting to clean the house out little by

> little, because I am thinking of selling the house and

> putting my husband in assisted living this spring, if

> things get much worse between now and then I won't be

> able to handle it any longer. The trouble is the money

> on this house will have to go towards his long term

> care and I will have to find a new place to live. It

> saddens me that our life has been disrupted by this.

> It will be a whole new life for me too and a big void

> without my husband with me if it has to come down to

> this, that is why I have to prepare myself and be

> ready to move and put the house up for sale in the

> Spring. So I have a lot to do inbetween trying to care

> for my husband.

> We all have a story to tell about thi

[Guest guest]

Jan:

Did he say why you were getting dizzy in the first place?

Just wondering...

Abby

[Guest guest]

Dear Jan:

I was worried about it as well. If iit continues and you go back, maybe he

should refer you to a specialist. Take care, hugs,

Josie

[Guest guest]

Jan, I began taking Bonine (meclizine),yesterday, I called the pharmacist. Tks,

Pat in SC.

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Pat,

The doctor gave me some medication that is actually

over the counter called, Meclizine, it's supposed to

help with my dizziness. It's for motion sickness and

not a cure. The doctor said the dizziness will go away

eventually. He gave me some exercises to do, laying

down and turning my head from side to side for 15

seconds ea. with a lumbar under my upper back.....Jan

--- Pat Caldwell wrote:

> Jan, I also have been so dizzy for about a week now.

> I guess

> I'm gonna have to get to dr. Pat,SC

>

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> Jan, You sound very stressed out. You can't care for

> your husband if you don't take care of yourself.

> You are in California...right? In Ariz, we have a

> state program called ALTECS...Az long term care

> ...and we have hired an eldercare attorney to help

> in the qualification process. What this means is

> that mom can keep her house, her assets and cars by

> setting up an income annuity. You should look into

> an elder care attorney. The stress of having to

> consider selling your house must be overwhelming.

>

> My sister-in-law's mother is in a nursing home and

> they were able to get state help. I will check into

> this and get back with you. In the mean time...do

> something for you. I know that is easier said than

> done, but you are creative. Put it to good use and

> take care of yourself!

>

> I'll let you know about the care issues.

>

> Be Well! Hugs.

> Lynn

>

>

> > Hi Abby,

> > I feel your pain. I think you are doing swell.

> It's

> > really amazing when you think about it, how much

> we

> > can really handle when it comes right down to it.

> > Don't beat yourself up so much. You have your own

> > family that needs you too, so you're dividing

> yourself

> > up between everyone's needs. You know when people

> are

> > left on their own it's sink or swim. I'm willing

> to

> > bet that your mom will do fine when you go back to

> > work. As long as you are there, she is going to

> lean

> > on you, because she can. It is also the teacher

> coming

> > out in you to be prepared. I know, I am the same

> way.

> > I was a teacher for special needs kids. I am the

> sole

> > caregiver of my husband, except for a caregiver

> that

> > comes twice a week for 4 hours on each of those

> days.

> > It is time off for me, but usually I have to

> grocery

> > shop, go to the bank and all the things I can't do

> on

> > the rest of the week, because my husband gets very

> > impatient when I have to shop and do other outside

> > errands. Everything comes down on me. The upkeep

> of a

> > rather large home inside and out paying the bills,

> > bathing and grooming of my husband and

> me.......The

> > whole running a house routine and as you say all

> the

> > calls for whatever other things need tending to.

> > For the last three days my balance has been off.

> My

> > equilibrium is gone. We are a comedy in motion. My

> > husband was ready to fall and I tried to catch his

> > fall, but we both went down, because of my

> > equilibrium. We are both alright. Tomorrow I have

> a

> > doctor appointment when his caregiver is here. I

> think

> > it might be stress related. It could be an inner

> ear

> > infection, but I've never had one before. I know

> what

> > you mean. I scream a lot. I lock myself in the

> bedroom

> > and put my head in a pillow and scream. It is good

> to

> > vent. I can't cry anymore. I'm just frustrated and

> > angry at this disease