Guest guest Posted October 17, 2003 Report Share Posted October 17, 2003 Thanks Shirley. Courage Courage >Just wanted to let you know I am thinking about you. I wish I lived >closer so I could help you get a break. Shirley > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 30, 2003 Report Share Posted October 30, 2003 I'll be thinking of you on Nov. 1!! It'll be good to have that done, eh? Of course, let us know the results when you know them. With Love. > Hi, Courage! > > Before things get completely crazy, I wanted to send you my best for a > wonderful Saturday. I know the events will be wonderful. I will be thinking of you > and Olivia all the while. Have a glass of champagne for me! > > Big hugs, > > Piper > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2003 Report Share Posted November 14, 2003 Thanks so much Coyote. I really hated what was done to my hair and my makeup but time got away from me so I couldn't wash it off or get the can and a half of hair spray out of my hair. I swear my hair was like a football helmet. In the end I didn't mind because looked so very beautiful and it was her day after all. Courage Courage >Hi Courage...I was just admiring the wedding pictures. First of all, >your daughter is beautiful. (LOVE the Autumn leaves shot.) You arent >too bad yourself!! (Are you SURE she's your daughter and not your >sister???) I love the photo with Grandma...you captured a moment in >time where you can just see the total joy on her face. >Hugs to you, Coyote > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2004 Report Share Posted January 10, 2004 Abby: I am glad you are getting closer to your sister. This is wonderful news. Take care to maintain the relationship for the future. I am also happy you are feeling more settled. Not taking care of the house is typical of the depression we all are fighting while taking care of our LO in a condition we would have been horrified of, if anyone had told us this would happen, earlier. I just got my house somewhat organized because, for some reason, I had the Christmas spirit. Now I have to force myself to put away all the ornaments and throw away the Christmas tree by next week. I am happy about your good news. I hope your dad settles about the nh as well. He may need depression medication to help him and everyone around him. Hugs, Josie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2004 Report Share Posted January 10, 2004 Courage: I know all about how our homes just go to the dogs (figuratively in your case - oh, and to the cats too) while we take care of our parents. My house is a disaster or was one. We were lucky enough to find a great cleaning lady who comes in once every 2 weeks and cleans the house for $60.00 (really cheap). I'll be honest - I never clean in between her visits. Doing the dishes and getting my kids to make their beds is about all that gets done. I'm home so rarely and when I am, cleaning and tidying up is the last thing I want to be doing. You also made a good point about how these stressful times can either bring a family together or pull them even farther apart. Believe it or not, my dad's illness has reunited my sister and I. Before my dad was diagnosed with a brain tumor, we hadn't spoken in 3 months. I called him once he was diagnosed and we've been pretty OK since then. I think we both realized this was bigger than our petty argument. My sister stayed home from work yesterday morning and helped us fill in the application for the nh. Even she now knows that my mom's place is neither safe or practical for my father anymore. We ordered a wheelchair yesterday and my mom's hallway is not nearly wide enough to accomodate all the " equipment " that my dad needs now... My father has fallen even more depressed since we've filled out the nh applications. He so doesn't want to go there but I think even he knows that things can't go on as they are. It's all so sad. Nonetheless, I am taking comfort in the fact that things are not nearly so unsettled now... Thanks for the support Courage, ABB Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 13, 2004 Report Share Posted January 13, 2004 Thanks Josie. Unfortuneatly, I am the reverse of you - I have to take large doses of meds to have any effect which drives me mad because doctors look at me and think the opposite. Also, I do believe that those of us taking meds should not take the St. s Wort also - its got to be one or the other and also, one should never stop taking anti-depressants cold turkey - you have to wean yourself off. Just a heads up. Should I ever get off these meds I will perhaps pick up the Wort next time. Courage Re: Courage >In a message dated 1/12/2004 10:06:43 PM Eastern Standard Time, >coyote81067@... writes: > >> I agree with Abby, we have a VALID reason to be sad, but as you said when >> you have depression to begin with you just feel like you are getting sucked >> right under. > >Hi Girls: > >I am sorry you all have depression, of course, you have a reason to have it, >and that makes the medicines you are taking not be so effective. The pills >don't make the reasons for depression go away! They can only lessen their >effect on you. I know you all have tried a lot of stuff, I wanted to suggest St >Joh's Wort. It works for me, I took it when I was in a really deep depression. >It made me a little like a zombie after a while, when I noticed that, I >lowered the dosage (the dosage in the bottle) and by the time I was not taking any, >I was not depressed anymore. I am very sensitive to all medications and >normal doses are overdoses to me, but I thought I would let you know. Take care, >love, > >Josie > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 13, 2004 Report Share Posted January 13, 2004 Thanks Josie. Courage Re: Courage >Just a thought, and encouragement, love, > >Josie > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2004 Report Share Posted January 15, 2004 House clean??? I think mine is the local trash heap! LOL My husband doesnt do much to help because he works 60 hours a week. You have inspired me. I think I will see about a cleaning lady. M > >Reply-To: LBDcaregivers >To: LBDcaregivers >Subject: Re: Courage >Date: Sat, 10 Jan 2004 19:54:42 -0000 >MIME-Version: 1.0 >X-Originating-IP: 64.12.97.11 >X-Sender: BBagam@... >Received: from n8.grp.scd.yahoo.com ([66.218.66.92]) by >mc12-f19.hotmail.com with Microsoft SMTPSVC(5.0.2195.6824); Sat, 10 Jan >2004 11:54:55 -0800 >Received: from [66.218.66.96] by n8.grp.scd.yahoo.com with NNFMP; 10 Jan >2004 19:54:47 -0000 >Received: (qmail 12974 invoked from network); 10 Jan 2004 19:54:46 -0000 >Received: from unknown (66.218.66.166) by m13.grp.scd.yahoo.com with QMQP; >10 Jan 2004 19:54:46 -0000 >Received: from unknown (HELO n15.grp.scd.yahoo.com) (66.218.66.70) by >mta5.grp.scd.yahoo.com with SMTP; 10 Jan 2004 19:54:45 -0000 >Received: from [66.218.66.143] by n15.grp.scd.yahoo.com with NNFMP; 10 Jan >2004 19:54:44 -0000 >X-Message-Info: JGTYoYF78jFxc5iI2sLk8CSEimlwemaj >X-eGroups-Return: >sentto-2141318-23539-1073764486-cat86443=hotmail.com@... >X-Apparently-To: LBDcaregivers >Message-ID: <btpla2+10c0qeGroups> >In-Reply-To: <001001c3d715$04a1bf20$1d4fefd8@gaat> >User-Agent: eGroups-EW/0.82 >X-Mailer: Yahoo Groups Message Poster >X-eGroups-Remote-IP: 66.218.66.70 >X-Yahoo-Profile: abbybb1 >Mailing-List: list LBDcaregivers ; contact >LBDcaregivers-owner >Delivered-To: mailing list LBDcaregivers >Precedence: bulk >List-Unsubscribe: <mailto:LBDcaregivers-unsubscribe > >Return-Path: >sentto-2141318-23539-1073764486-cat86443=hotmail.com@... >X-OriginalArrivalTime: 10 Jan 2004 19:54:55.0467 (UTC) >FILETIME=[9E7DD3B0:01C3D7B3] > >Courage: > >I know all about how our homes just go to the dogs (figuratively in >your case - oh, and to the cats too) while we take care of our >parents. My house is a disaster or was one. We were lucky enough to >find a great cleaning lady who comes in once every 2 weeks and cleans >the house for $60.00 (really cheap). I'll be honest - I never clean >in between her visits. Doing the dishes and getting my kids to make >their beds is about all that gets done. I'm home so rarely and when >I am, cleaning and tidying up is the last thing I want to be doing. > >You also made a good point about how these stressful times can either >bring a family together or pull them even farther apart. Believe it >or not, my dad's illness has reunited my sister and I. Before my dad >was diagnosed with a brain tumor, we hadn't spoken in 3 months. I >called him once he was diagnosed and we've been pretty OK since then. >I think we both realized this was bigger than our petty argument. > >My sister stayed home from work yesterday morning and helped us fill >in the application for the nh. Even she now knows that my mom's >place is neither safe or practical for my father anymore. We ordered >a wheelchair yesterday and my mom's hallway is not nearly wide enough >to accomodate all the " equipment " that my dad needs now... > >My father has fallen even more depressed since we've filled out the >nh applications. He so doesn't want to go there but I think even he >knows that things can't go on as they are. > >It's all so sad. Nonetheless, I am taking comfort in the fact that >things are not nearly so unsettled now... > >Thanks for the support Courage, > >ABB > _________________________________________________________________ Find high-speed ‘net deals — comparison-shop your local providers here. https://broadband.msn.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 23, 2004 Report Share Posted January 23, 2004 Courage, Do you have a Cosco in Canada? If you are going to get the M drug for your Dad, I have heard that Cosco prices, at least here in MI, has the best prices around. Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 26, 2004 Report Share Posted January 26, 2004 Thank you Abby! I do it for us all. Courage Courage >Thanks so much for your compassion and your kind words. > >Perhaps the dementia unit would be the best place for my father. >When he was admitted we were happy just to get him in but now we need >to get him in the best place possible in order to get his needs met. > >This disease keeps us constantly second guessing ourselves. Nothing >ever seems settled in spite of our best efforts. > >On a more uplifting note, I came across a website yesterday which had >a letter from you wherein you were imploring the powers that be to >educate the public and the medical profession re: LBD. My heart >swelled with pride and admiration as I read your letter and their >response to you. The name of the website escapes me but your letter >is there and its message is clear. Good for you! You never tire of >doing all you can in the fight against this beast. Pretty awe- >inspiring if you ask me. > >Thanks for fighting the fight! > >Abby > > > >Welcome to LBDcaregivers. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 1, 2004 Report Share Posted February 1, 2004 Good luck Abby. I hope your return to the classroom is a roaring success for you and for your lucky students. I also hope you enjoy every moment of it...you deserve a great day. Lynn > It is my first day back tomorrow. > > I'm trying to get my lesson plans in order - at least for the first > day. There was never enough time or enough motivation to do it in > earnest before today. I'm online now looking for information on > Margaret Atwood's poetry for my Grade 12s tomorrow. > > I can already tell life will be different once tomorrow hits. I > don't know how to do the job so that it's not a nightly haul of > marking and planning. On top of that, I volunteered to teach a new > program called the International Baccalaureate course which I and my > department head are both planning as we go along. > > Yet, I feel a mixture of regret and acceptance about going back. I > need to get back to some form of reality. I was far too immersed in > my dad's care which meant that my sister and mom left a great deal on > me. They both know this can not happen when I'm back at work. Plus, > my family has been woefully ignored as I became my dad's primary > caregiver and my mom's staunchest supporter. > > I intend to still be very involved in my dad's care but I will need > to pull back for my own sanity. I'm so saddened by my dad's illness > that I can't take any delight in anything any more. I'm sure you > understand. > > I'm hoping my going back to work will accomplish some semblance of > life before LBD struck. I know, I know....I'm very optimistic. > > In the end if something's gotta give, it'll be work once again. I > stopped working 3 days into the start of school when my dad's illness > became something more than my mom can handle and, if I need to do it, > I'm prepared to once more leave work. > > It's the least I can do for my dad. > > Thanks Courage for remembering and for wishing me well... > > Abby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 1, 2004 Report Share Posted February 1, 2004 Abby, Don't forget to apply for the 6 month compassionate leave if you have to. Please let us know how your first day went. Courage Courage >It is my first day back tomorrow. > >I'm trying to get my lesson plans in order - at least for the first >day. There was never enough time or enough motivation to do it in >earnest before today. I'm online now looking for information on >Margaret Atwood's poetry for my Grade 12s tomorrow. > >I can already tell life will be different once tomorrow hits. I >don't know how to do the job so that it's not a nightly haul of >marking and planning. On top of that, I volunteered to teach a new >program called the International Baccalaureate course which I and my >department head are both planning as we go along. > >Yet, I feel a mixture of regret and acceptance about going back. I >need to get back to some form of reality. I was far too immersed in >my dad's care which meant that my sister and mom left a great deal on >me. They both know this can not happen when I'm back at work. Plus, >my family has been woefully ignored as I became my dad's primary >caregiver and my mom's staunchest supporter. > >I intend to still be very involved in my dad's care but I will need >to pull back for my own sanity. I'm so saddened by my dad's illness >that I can't take any delight in anything any more. I'm sure you >understand. > >I'm hoping my going back to work will accomplish some semblance of >life before LBD struck. I know, I know....I'm very optimistic. > >In the end if something's gotta give, it'll be work once again. I >stopped working 3 days into the start of school when my dad's illness >became something more than my mom can handle and, if I need to do it, >I'm prepared to once more leave work. > >It's the least I can do for my dad. > >Thanks Courage for remembering and for wishing me well... > >Abby > > >Welcome to LBDcaregivers. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 2, 2004 Report Share Posted February 2, 2004 Thanks Courage: I'll keep that in mind. Is that a recently new gov. initiative? As it is, I used up my sick days because once my dad got sick, my blood pressure skyrocketed and I was a mess so my doctor wouldn't let me go back to work. Not that I could have gone back anyway. I'm so glad at least my health woes seem to be a thing of the past. While I was still prepping and thinking I was going to go back to work in a week or so when my dad first became ill, I was a mess. Anyway, I'll let you know how my first day went. At this point, all I want is for it to be over so my anxiety about it will be over too and I can sleep again... Abby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2004 Report Share Posted February 4, 2004 LOL:-) Too bad because you'd be so much richer and more famous and then I could tell everyone that I knew you when... Have a good day, Abby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2004 Report Share Posted February 4, 2004 I think the idea of eating 5-6 times a day sounds excellent but he appears to be refusing food. We've brought him some great fresh fruit (including strawberries and who can refuse those??), some cookies to munch on, some of his favorite candy and some juices. Nothing seems to move him to eat. He looks like a person who is slowly withdrawing from life more and more each day. It's all so sad.. Abby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2004 Report Share Posted February 4, 2004 Abby, Reading you post has made me very hungry. Think I'm going to raid the kitchen before reading the rest of the posts. As for your dad, the NH must see the not eating all the time. I'd pick their brains about it and buy some ensure for my dad. Have a good one Abby, Courage Re: Courage >I think the idea of eating 5-6 times a day sounds excellent but he >appears to be refusing food. > >We've brought him some great fresh fruit (including strawberries and >who can refuse those??), some cookies to munch on, some of his >favorite candy and some juices. Nothing seems to move him to eat. > >He looks like a person who is slowly withdrawing from life more and >more each day. It's all so sad.. > >Abby > > >Welcome to LBDcaregivers. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2004 Report Share Posted February 4, 2004 > As for your dad, the NH must see the not eating all the time. I'd pick > their brains about it and buy some ensure for my dad. > Have a good one Abby, Courage: I intend to pick their brains about this - just as soon as my dad has a less stressful and busy day. Hopefully tomorrow..... Abby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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