Guest guest Posted November 2, 2002 Report Share Posted November 2, 2002 Hi : I am still learning how to try to do it! Many times talking and talking about the person that got me mad helps me to " let go " after I'm all talked out! Many times, when I come up with logical explanations as to why they act like such a jerk -- if I can put them in a category, or make a diagnosis -- make some sort of sense of it, then I can let it go. When it festers, I say to myself " this festering is just like what Nada did! She couldn't let things go! Why do you suppose that is? What should I do differently than she did? " What I've come up with is that if you do certain things, you will not be like Nada!! Here are a few of the things: (1) keep a gratitude journal (2) exercise (3) eat right (4) try to dress nice, etc. (5) do something for " you " every day for at least 30 min.! (6) pray or meditate, do deep slow breathing, whatever. (7) talk to people about things, and don't isolate. Today I said to myself -- I'm concentrating on the negative again (just like Nada!) and I need to make an entry in my gratitude journal! When I do that, it helps me to focus on the good things in my life and not the bad. Good luck , we're all in this together! Barb > Barb and Hania > > I sent a post re someone at work I'm having problems with. I know that my reactions to her are because she triggers something in me, but I don't know what. I read this part of your reponse to Hania and I know this is what I need to learn to do. But I don't know how. How do you distance yourself from these intense feelings.? I would love it if I could and I know I would feel so much better. Are there any tricks you practice? > > And Hania I have a question for you. What is it about you and I that causes us to let these people upset us so much? Is it a reaction to our nada's and is it because of low self-esteem within ourselves that means we worry these people are right, maybe we aren't " good " people? > If it's low self esteem, what do we do? > > > > I'm wondering -- do you think it would help at all if you tried > to distance yourself just a bit from your intense feelings regarding > each incident you just described? > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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