- black and white thinking

[Guest guest]

Hi :

I don't think I'm thinking black and white.

Maybe what the problem is that me and my husband BOTH are stuggling

with emotional problems right now. Each of us has their OWN,

DIFFERENT set of problems. Neither of us can solve the others

problems. Then, we BOTH have to deal with watching the " other "

struggling, and many times stumbling and falling, and -- improving

very S L O W L Y -- and in this society -- everything is supposed

to be instantaneous -- so watching each other S L O W L Y

overcome our emotional problems can be difficult!! And then the fear

of " Will my problems EVER get better? Will HIS problems EVER get

better? "

It's tough.

I'm sure that IS why " other men look better " to me!! I don't know

them -- so they're a blank slate. I can pretend they don't have

their own set of problems, etc.

Well... thanks for listening!!

Barb