Guest guest Posted October 15, 2005 Report Share Posted October 15, 2005 , I'm so glad you asked this question. This has been a biggie for me - BELIEVING what I was saying. I remember when I first joined this group and started saying and writing affirmations. I didn't believe most of the things I was saying, not at all!! It has taken a while, but now I realize that the longer I try not to judge what I am saying and just keep saying it until it becomes a part of me - I do start believing it. I remember one day after work, driving down the road on my way home, and my world was just practically falling apart. I was crying so hard I could hardly see to drive! I started saying " All is well " " All is well " over and over and over. Well, I knew that all really was not well. But it was a very long drive home and I said it over and over all the way home. By the time I got home, I still didn't believe all was well - but I was soooooo much calmer and could even greet my family with a smile. Now for some reason, when things start getting me down, all I have to do is think " All is well " and it brings a smile to my face. I've always had a problem loving myself and wondering how in the world anybody else could love me. So I'm real big on affirming that " I am a wonderful person " " I am loved " etc. I even affirm how beautiful I am!! I have come SO far in finally accepting me for who I am and I actually love myself now - warts and all...LOL My personality and physical faults are not faults at all - they are all part of my uniqueness - and my life is exactly the way its supposed to be for now. In March I had brain surgery and had half of my head shaved. So to not look like a punk rocker I cut it all off. I had long beautiful hair and I've never been a vain person, but gosh I missed my hair. I hated looking in the mirror. One day while standing by my husband at the sink while I was taking medicine (I never get tired of telling this story - and most of you have heard it before) I said " Do I look as ugly as I feel? " My husband said " The fact that you are alive makes you the most beautiful person in the world!!! " That changed my whole attitude. Now my hair is growing out and sticking out all over the place and I look like Clay Aiken - but I am alive and I am beautiful. I still miss my hair and every once in a while start feeling sorry for myself. But I am alive and I still get to watch my wonderful little girl grow up and I get to feel this wonderful Fall weather and watch the leaves turn brilliant colors, and I get to experience the wondrous magic of Life!! And so now, when I say " All is well " , even if all hell is breaking loose around me, I BELIEVE all is well. Because it really is!! So my advice to you and everyone that has trouble believing: keep saying and writing and thinking affirmations anyway. Even if you feel stupid (it was extremely hard for me to look in the mirror and say " I am beautiful " after believing for years that I was ugly!!) The longer we focus on the positive - the easier it is for us to allow the positive into our lives. Blessings, In a message dated 10/15/2005 5:39:56 PM Central Daylight Time, a4d@... writes: You know how they always say BELIEVE in what you're saying .... Um, how? Does this come with repetition and meditation and time? I mean, if life has pretty much dealt you a whole wack of oranges, it's tough to believe that you're going to get strawberries now. And you're right about the helping others in this group -- it is a wonderful feeling to help someone along their way. To me, it got extreme on the dumping and rare on the helping yourself/affirming the positive. But, yes, there's no better feeling than caring for and helping another life -- human, animal, plant ... Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark, in the hopeless swamps of the approximate, the not-quite, the not-yet, the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish, in lonely frustration for the life you deserved, but have never been able to reach. Check your road and the nature of your battle. The world you desired can be won. It exists, it is real, it is possible, it is yours. ~ Ayn Rand ~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 15, 2005 Report Share Posted October 15, 2005 , I'm so glad you asked this question. This has been a biggie for me - BELIEVING what I was saying. I remember when I first joined this group and started saying and writing affirmations. I didn't believe most of the things I was saying, not at all!! It has taken a while, but now I realize that the longer I try not to judge what I am saying and just keep saying it until it becomes a part of me - I do start believing it. I remember one day after work, driving down the road on my way home, and my world was just practically falling apart. I was crying so hard I could hardly see to drive! I started saying " All is well " " All is well " over and over and over. Well, I knew that all really was not well. But it was a very long drive home and I said it over and over all the way home. By the time I got home, I still didn't believe all was well - but I was soooooo much calmer and could even greet my family with a smile. Now for some reason, when things start getting me down, all I have to do is think " All is well " and it brings a smile to my face. I've always had a problem loving myself and wondering how in the world anybody else could love me. So I'm real big on affirming that " I am a wonderful person " " I am loved " etc. I even affirm how beautiful I am!! I have come SO far in finally accepting me for who I am and I actually love myself now - warts and all...LOL My personality and physical faults are not faults at all - they are all part of my uniqueness - and my life is exactly the way its supposed to be for now. In March I had brain surgery and had half of my head shaved. So to not look like a punk rocker I cut it all off. I had long beautiful hair and I've never been a vain person, but gosh I missed my hair. I hated looking in the mirror. One day while standing by my husband at the sink while I was taking medicine (I never get tired of telling this story - and most of you have heard it before) I said " Do I look as ugly as I feel? " My husband said " The fact that you are alive makes you the most beautiful person in the world!!! " That changed my whole attitude. Now my hair is growing out and sticking out all over the place and I look like Clay Aiken - but I am alive and I am beautiful. I still miss my hair and every once in a while start feeling sorry for myself. But I am alive and I still get to watch my wonderful little girl grow up and I get to feel this wonderful Fall weather and watch the leaves turn brilliant colors, and I get to experience the wondrous magic of Life!! And so now, when I say " All is well " , even if all hell is breaking loose around me, I BELIEVE all is well. Because it really is!! So my advice to you and everyone that has trouble believing: keep saying and writing and thinking affirmations anyway. Even if you feel stupid (it was extremely hard for me to look in the mirror and say " I am beautiful " after believing for years that I was ugly!!) The longer we focus on the positive - the easier it is for us to allow the positive into our lives. Blessings, In a message dated 10/15/2005 5:39:56 PM Central Daylight Time, a4d@... writes: You know how they always say BELIEVE in what you're saying .... Um, how? Does this come with repetition and meditation and time? I mean, if life has pretty much dealt you a whole wack of oranges, it's tough to believe that you're going to get strawberries now. And you're right about the helping others in this group -- it is a wonderful feeling to help someone along their way. To me, it got extreme on the dumping and rare on the helping yourself/affirming the positive. But, yes, there's no better feeling than caring for and helping another life -- human, animal, plant ... Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark, in the hopeless swamps of the approximate, the not-quite, the not-yet, the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish, in lonely frustration for the life you deserved, but have never been able to reach. Check your road and the nature of your battle. The world you desired can be won. It exists, it is real, it is possible, it is yours. ~ Ayn Rand ~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 15, 2005 Report Share Posted October 15, 2005 You know how they always say BELIEVE in what you're saying .... Um, how? Does this come with repetition and meditation and time? I mean, if life has pretty much dealt you a whole wack of oranges, it's tough to believe that you're going to get strawberries now. And you're right about the helping others in this group -- it is a wonderful feeling to help someone along their way. To me, it got extreme on the dumping and rare on the helping yourself/affirming the positive. But, yes, there's no better feeling than caring for and helping another life -- human, animal, plant ... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 17, 2005 Report Share Posted October 17, 2005 , Stay tuned!! I've been going through mounds and mounds of paperwork lately cleaning out my home office, and came across something that might answer your question here. I'll go type it up and send it later tonight. Hugs, PJ Ford wrote: You know how they always say BELIEVE in what you're saying .... Um, how? Does this come with repetition and meditation and time? I mean, if life has pretty much dealt you a whole wack of oranges, it's tough to believe that you're going to get strawberries now. And you're right about the helping others in this group -- it is a wonderful feeling to help someone along their way. To me, it got extreme on the dumping and rare on the helping yourself/affirming the positive. But, yes, there's no better feeling than caring for and helping another life -- human, animal, plant ... http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/AffirmationstoDe-Stress A positive thinking, positive affirmations support group, discussing ways to cope with the stresses of daily life. Come aboard! PJ and Gang Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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