Re: need advice about pacifier

October 19, 2006

tell him that we (you and him) are going to tie balloons to the pacifier to send

to the babys in heaven then offer him a prize a new toy a favorite movie saw

this on supernanny just a thought to try

Groogan wrote: Help! I made the

mistake of letting my 3 year son go too long with the pacifier. He has always

used it just for sleeping, never outside of bed. We tried dropping it this week,

but it has been a nighmare. In fact, I am sorry to say I have already given in.

Has anyone else been there.. my typical developing two year old is not having a

problem with the same thing. is it an autism thing?

Grooan

October 19, 2006

so funny--- we actually did the " bye-bye-paci party " and tied them to balloons.

but did not try the new toy. will have to find one he doesn't stem on..

thanks

Leigh-Ann wrote:

tell him that we (you and him) are going to tie balloons to the pacifier to

send to the babys in heaven then offer him a prize a new toy a favorite movie

saw this on supernanny just a thought to try

Groogan wrote: Help! I made the mistake of letting my 3 year son go too

long with the pacifier. He has always used it just for sleeping, never outside

of bed. We tried dropping it this week, but it has been a nighmare. In fact, I

am sorry to say I have already given in. Has anyone else been there.. my typical

developing two year old is not having a problem with the same thing. is it an

autism thing?

Grooan

October 19, 2006

My son used a pacifier until he was probably around 8, at night only. THen

he gave it up pretty easily. I would not be concerned about it at his age.

It probably really helps with sleep. It is probably a sensory need he has.

When he is older you can try to replace it with maybe a back rub at night

or using the brushing technique. You can do that now as well.

Actually even typical kids use pacifiers at age 3 so don't worry about it.

I would just go ahead and use it only at night and try in a few years to see

if he will replace it.

need advice about pacifier

Help! I made the mistake of letting my 3 year son go too long with the

pacifier. He has always used it just for sleeping, never outside of bed. We

tried dropping it this week, but it has been a nighmare. In fact, I am sorry

to say I have already given in. Has anyone else been there.. my typical

developing two year old is not having a problem with the same thing. is it

an autism thing?

Grooan

October 19, 2006

,

I worked with a little boy who had the same problem at 5. His pediatrician

told us to just cut the nipple of the pacifier and tell them they were broken.

The first day was rough but that was it. We did have to then make sure the

child could self regulate when they got upset or something.

On a side note - I did the same thing with my NT son at 18 months when he

only wanted to drink from a bottle. One bad day and me not giving in and it

worked.

Groogan wrote:

Help! I made the mistake of letting my 3 year son go too long with the

pacifier. He has always used it just for sleeping, never outside of bed. We

tried dropping it this week, but it has been a nighmare. In fact, I am sorry to

say I have already given in. Has anyone else been there.. my typical developing

two year old is not having a problem with the same thing. is it an autism thing?

Grooan

October 20, 2006

If it has been a nightmare then stop trying to take it away from

him. If it makes him feel better wait a while and try again. If

everything were easy then all children with autism would be potty

trained at the appropriate time. In the big picture of things having

a pacifier at three is not really that big of a deal. He will let go

of it, when he is ready. Try to wean him a little at a time without

such a shock to him of giving it up at once and it will all work out.

Kari

>

> Help! I made the mistake of letting my 3 year son go too long with

the pacifier. He has always used it just for sleeping, never outside

of bed. We tried dropping it this week, but it has been a nighmare.

In fact, I am sorry to say I have already given in. Has anyone else

been there.. my typical developing two year old is not having a

problem with the same thing. is it an autism thing?

> Grooan

>

October 20, 2006

Some people start cutting the pacifier off until finally there is not enough for

the child to even want. I haven't tried this, but my sister-in-law did it with

an NT child

October 20, 2006

,

This is NOT a problem exclusively for children with autism. In fact, my PDD

daughter never wanted a pacifier. My two NT kids were another issue altogether.

They held on to multiple pacifiers at all times, day and night, and would rotate

them. What helped with my son is when one of the pacifiers split. It was

uncomfortable for him and he lost interest in that one, so we put a split in all

of them and said they were all broken. It was uncomfortable for him, but he

stopped asking for his " pippies " in just a few days.

Best of luck,

Aliza

Groogan wrote:

Help! I made the mistake of letting my 3 year son go too long with the

pacifier. He has always used it just for sleeping, never outside of bed. We

tried dropping it this week, but it has been a nighmare. In fact, I am sorry to

say I have already given in. Has anyone else been there.. my typical developing

two year old is not having a problem with the same thing. is it an autism thing?

Grooan

October 20, 2006

Usually, a pacifier for a child is a comfort thing. It could be a sensory

issue for your child. When my son had a pacifier and I was ready for him to

lose it, but he wasn't, I cut off the nipple part. You could tell it

bothered him when he tried to put it in his mouth and there was no nipple on

it, but he carried around the plastic part with him for comfort. Eventually,

they all got " lost " .

Anne

-- need advice about pacifier

Help! I made the mistake of letting my 3 year son go too long with the

pacifier. He has always used it just for sleeping, never outside of bed. We

tried dropping it this week, but it has been a nighmare. In fact, I am sorry

to say I have already given in. Has anyone else been there.. my typical

developing two year old is not having a problem with the same thing. is it

an autism thing?

Grooan

October 20, 2006

Im sure it is an autism thing. Anything they are doing when they regress is

going to be hard to quit Tristan did NOT want to give up his bottle. I cant

remember his age when he finally gave it up but it was far past when he should

have. maybe 4 or older :S thank God those days are over!!! and potty training

LOL dont get me started that was long awaited also

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October 20, 2006

Our son used a pacifier Just like yours until he was 3. Only in bed.

We had heard of a trick, used it and it worked. So I share...(fyi - I

would let him relax a little from the first attempt) we told him we

were going to put all of his pacifiers in a baggie and take them to

Toys-R-Us. He would be able to pick out a toy, then pay for it with

his pacifiers. It took both parents because I had to have a little

chat with a teller beforehand while Dad went with ds to pick out a

toy. The teller was great, took the baggie of pacifiers, bagged his

new toy and told him to enjoy. Dad took ds on out and I stayed behind

(said I would catch up in a minute) to pay for the toy. In the

following few days when he asked for his pacifier, we just reminded

him that he had used them to pay for his new toy and we let him hold

his toy while he was going to sleep. If he was having a particularly

difficult time, I would rub his back with firm, rythmic circles that

soothed him (still does). There were very few tears. The theory

behind this (sorry, can't remember which parenting magazine this came

from) is that the child is involved and thinks he is in charge since

he is the one who physically hands over the pacifiers. It was a

really fun experience for us. Hope you find something that works.

P.S. Ds has Aspergers but I don't necessarily think it is an autism

thing.

>

> Help! I made the mistake of letting my 3 year son go too long with

the pacifier. He has always used it just for sleeping, never outside

of bed. We tried dropping it this week, but it has been a nighmare. In

fact, I am sorry to say I have already given in. Has anyone else been

there.. my typical developing two year old is not having a problem

with the same thing. is it an autism thing?

> Grooan

>

October 20, 2006

When my daughter had turned two we helped her put all her 'passies' in a

little gift bag. Then we drove to the hospital and she got to take them to

the babies. Actually, we handed the bag to the nurse that was in the

nursery, but Mia did get to see the babies through the window. I didn't

hear another thing about passies! In fact, this 'giving them to the babies'

worked so well with the pacifiers that we did the same thing with her

bottles about two months later. When we took the bottles the nurse was

great and thanked her for being so nice and such a big girl and then gave

her a package of sippy cups. Later, when she would ask for a bottle we

could easily redirect her by reminding her about her 'big girl cups.'

October 20, 2006

April:

My daughter is going on 4 and also still has her bottle too. It’s the only

way I can get her to take her supplements and the only way I can calm her

down when she has one of her fits. I know we have to get rid of it, but

it’s going to be UGLY. Potty training has been a nightmare since May.

Thanks, it’s nice to know you survived it!

_____

From: Texas-Autism-Advocacy

[mailto:Texas-Autism-Advocacy ] On Behalf Of April Skotnicki

Sent: Friday, October 20, 2006 7:33 AM

To: Texas-Autism-Advocacy

Subject: Re: need advice about pacifier

Im sure it is an autism thing. Anything they are doing when they regress is

going to be hard to quit Tristan did NOT want to give up his bottle. I

cant remember his age when he finally gave it up but it was far past when he

should have. maybe 4 or older :S thank God those days are over!!! and potty

training LOL dont get me started that was long awaited also

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October 20, 2006

Our ASD son is also hyperlexic. I have found that reading stories to

him and allowing him to see things in print help him to be able to

process things. When he was three I found Binkyland. It's a book

that I ordered online that had a great story about sending your

pacifier off to binkyland when you've grown to old for it. We had

been struggling for a year trying to get his pacifier away from him

(actually...he would sleep with three...one in his mouth and one in

each hand!!!). We read the book together each evening for a week and

then packed up his pacifiers together to send them to binkyland. He

never asked for them again! Here's where you can find Binkyland if

you want to give it a try... www.binkyland.com

>

> Help! I made the mistake of letting my 3 year son go too long with

the pacifier. He has always used it just for sleeping, never outside

of bed. We tried dropping it this week, but it has been a nighmare. In

fact, I am sorry to say I have already given in. Has anyone else been

there.. my typical developing two year old is not having a problem

with the same thing. is it an autism thing?

> Grooan

>

October 21, 2006

--- lkbarli wrote:

> Our ASD son is also hyperlexic. I have found that

> reading stories to

> him and allowing him to see things in print help him

> to be able to

> process things. When he was three I found

> Binkyland. It's a book

> that I ordered online that had a great story about

> sending your

> pacifier off to binkyland when you've grown to old

> for it. We had

> been struggling for a year trying to get his

> pacifier away from him

> (actually...he would sleep with three...one in his

> mouth and one in

> each hand!!!). We read the book together each

> evening for a week and

> then packed up his pacifiers together to send them

> to binkyland. He

> never asked for them again! Here's where you can

> find Binkyland if

> you want to give it a try... www.binkyland.com

>

> >

> > Help! I made the mistake of letting my 3 year son

> go too long with

> the pacifier. He has always used it just for

> sleeping, never outside

> of bed. We tried dropping it this week, but it has

> been a nighmare. In

> fact, I am sorry to say I have already given in. Has

> anyone else been

> there.. my typical developing two year old is not

> having a problem

> with the same thing. is it an autism thing?

> > Grooan

> >

> > [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

> >

> My son had his until he was 4 years old and it

pacified him because he had myoclonic seizures daily,

it was hard but we went cold turkey one day and he is

now 6 years old and is attached to his old beat up

pillow. It is diificult for our asd children to let go

of things that comfort them but we know in public and

at school they cant have these items so it is best to

wean them. It is difficult for us and them but they

have great potential and will adjust much more than we

give them credit for.. Good luck

Ruiz

>

October 21, 2006

What would you rec, for a 4 yr. old who does not have the cognitive ability to

understand going to a store, hospital, etc... and " trading " a paci for a toy?

Being a " big boy " means nothing to my son. Thanks,

RE: Re: need advice about pacifier