RE: DOUG

[Guest guest]

I think that your approach is the correct one. My son knows that

there is a problem between his grandmother and parents/other family

members. However I will sit down with him soon and discuss it in more

detail, framing what I say in terms of her illness - not that she is

inherently " bad " .

thanks,

Doug

> We all

> learned about BPD together and what the symptoms are. We have all

> talked to the therapist together. Our therapist once said the

signs of

> a dysfunctional family were not talking about things and hiding

> facts...how true! 11 is plenty old enough to understand pain and

> illness and its effect on others. Your son will meet people along

the

> way that have BPD and other mental problems, so the sooner he

learns the

> signs, the better he can build his own boundaries.

>

> Ilene

>

[Guest guest]

I think that your approach is the correct one. My son knows that

there is a problem between his grandmother and parents/other family

members. However I will sit down with him soon and discuss it in more

detail, framing what I say in terms of her illness - not that she is

inherently " bad " .

thanks,

Doug

> We all

> learned about BPD together and what the symptoms are. We have all

> talked to the therapist together. Our therapist once said the

signs of

> a dysfunctional family were not talking about things and hiding

> facts...how true! 11 is plenty old enough to understand pain and

> illness and its effect on others. Your son will meet people along

the

> way that have BPD and other mental problems, so the sooner he

learns the

> signs, the better he can build his own boundaries.

>

> Ilene

>