Guest guest Posted December 4, 2004 Report Share Posted December 4, 2004 ine you're right! " When you get into the depths of depression it is hard to get out sometimes " . But get out we do! Time and time again. There's just no keeping us down!!! I am having a hard time with Christmas also. I was reading some email from another group a while ago, this lady was telling all she had done today, how she was decorating for Christmas, wrapping all the presents, putting them under the tree, etc. It did nothing but made me mad! Why? Because I'm sitting here still in my pajamas - have done nothing this morning - and still reeling from the fact that there is no money for Christmas this year! Same as last year AND the year before. Every year I swear that NEXT YEAR WILL BE DIFFERENT! But it never is. So yeah, I'm having a hard time too. But I know in my heart that in the end it will be ok. If not for my 4 yr. old , I would skip Christmas all together. It's all for her, so I'll go to the dollar store, buy some little things I know she'll love, wrap them up and she'll be happy. She doesn't care how much something costs (not yet anyway). And we will talk about being thankful and we'll do things together and I will realize just how good life is. After all, life is what we make it. Blessings at this time of year and ALL year, In a message dated 12/4/04 11:39:56 AM Central Standard Time, shreiman@... writes: > Thanks, I needed that. I need to start thinking more positively again. > When I think positive or rather expect good things I know they come. When > I saw the Christmas tree in my building and look around and all I see is > Christmas decorations it knocked me out. When you get into the depth of > depression it is hard to get out sometimes. pauline > Original Message: > ----------------- > From: RareBreeeze@... > Date: Sat, 4 Dec 2004 11:47:16 EST > To: AffirmationstoDe-Stress > Subject: If You Knew... > > > > > > > <tt> > If You Knew.... > > > > If you knew for certain that you could cause something to happen by > thinking > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 4, 2004 Report Share Posted December 4, 2004 Thanks, I needed that. I need to start thinking more positively again. When I think positive or rather expect good things I know they come. When I saw the Christmas tree in my building and look around and all I see is Christmas decorations it knocked me out. When you get into the depth of depression it is hard to get out sometimes. pauline Original Message: ----------------- From: RareBreeeze@... Date: Sat, 4 Dec 2004 11:47:16 EST To: AffirmationstoDe-Stress Subject: If You Knew... <html><body> <tt> If You Knew.... <BR> <BR> If you knew for certain that you could cause something to happen by thinking <BR> about it, by focusing on it, day after day, moment by moment, what would it <BR> be? <BR> <BR> If you knew without a doubt that you could achieve anything you set out to <BR> do, what would you commit yourself to accomplish? <BR> <BR> If you knew that your life would be an exact out-picturing of your most <BR> deeply held beliefs, what would you believe? <BR> <BR> If you knew that it was impossible to think one way and live another way, <BR> what would you think? <BR> <BR> If you were convinced that there was opportunity in every situation, how <BR> would you live? <BR> <BR> If you knew for sure that every disciplined effort would bring multiple <BR> rewards, how diligently would you work? <BR> <BR> If you knew how to achieve success, what would you do -- right now? <BR> <BR> ~ Ralph Marston<BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 4, 2004 Report Share Posted December 4, 2004 Dear ine, Namaste, These festivals are meant to be a chance for us as a society to show the deapths of our hearts..sadly we are forgetting the essence of these festivals and merely following rituals in an empty, shalow manner. You are not the only one who gets depressed during such times. On the positive side this reflects the sensitivity and heart that you have. As for the depression..you may not be able to come out of the building but I hope you will be able to come out to your this family often..and share. We are here for You. With Much Love, Nachi " I am perfect with my imperfections " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 4, 2004 Report Share Posted December 4, 2004 I believe alot of people have a hard time with Christmas for many differant resaons. For some its loneliness, for some no money and for some bad memories at this time of year. Some people have families that get together and have a wonderful time. Commerialism has went too far and has for years. We see on TV these perfect familys, with decorated houses and lots of presents and happiness all around, but thats only in TV land but it does affect how we want our Christmas to be. People tend to have a vision of Christmas and how they want it to be and become very down or dissapointed when it doesnt turn out that way. you have the right idea I believe with , to be there for her, to talk with her about being thankful, to do things together. To keep the Christen in the Christmas. Sometimes for many differant reasons our lives arnt where we want them to be right now, but they are where there are, so all we can do is make the best of what we do have. The more we realize that the easier things become. I've been at both ends of Christmas ...with fancy, then alone and the past yrs have been sad and depressing for me. I have learnt something from that. You can make the day what you want, with what you have and be happy. Life is what we make it more so that how you wish or believe it should be. It is how it is right now. I know this year San and I will be alone with no family. We dont have much money so there wont be alot of gifts, just a few small things. But gifts can be bought all year long...Not just for one day. Its unfortunate that family will not be with us but its their choice for whatever reason they have chose. I have dealt with the pain and hurt so why continue it. I cant change it. I dont want to be sad my children are not with me so I have to choose to change my thoughts when they come in my head. I look at things now differently...whatever I see or hear that people do at Christmas, I am happy for them. If what they do makes them feel happy then I am happy for them, if the neighbor has 20 family members all together then I am happy for them. That is something that means alot to me but I realize it wont happen so I have to accept it. It hurts and has been so very hard on me but I have to accept the way things are, so when sad thoughts come into my head I counteract them with good thoughts. I have too as I HAVE THE CHOICE to be sad, or think of what I do have and the real reason for the season. So this Christmas we will have a resting day and look forward with thanks to a nice meal. It will be a Thankful day for the blessings we do have. I have no decorations up and dont plan on it. It is different without children around. If decorations made me happy then I would put some up. I believe we can make Christmas day a very special day in our own way with what we have. We have choices. Realistic choices of our situations and how we choose to handle them. Do what makes you happy! Blessings and Big Hugs to All... On Sat, 4 Dec 2004 13:36:30 EST, RareBreeeze@... wrote: ine you're right! " When you get into the depths of depression it is hard to get out sometimes " . But get out we do! Time and time again. There's just no keeping us down!!! I am having a hard time with Christmas also. I was reading some email from another group a while ago, this lady was telling all she had done today, how she was decorating for Christmas, wrapping all the presents, putting them under the tree, etc. It did nothing but made me mad! Why? Because I'm sitting here still in my pajamas - have done nothing this morning - and still reeling from the fact that there is no money for Christmas this year! Same as last year AND the year before. Every year I swear that NEXT YEAR WILL BE DIFFERENT! But it never is. So yeah, I'm having a hard time too. But I know in my heart that in the end it will be ok. If not for my 4 yr. old , I would skip Christmas all together. It's all for her, so I'll go to the dollar store, buy some little things I know she'll love, wrap them up and she'll be happy. She doesn't care how much something costs (not yet anyway). And we will talk about being thankful and we'll do things together and I will realize just how good life is. After all, life is what we make it. Blessings at this time of year and ALL year, In a message dated 12/4/04 11:39:56 AM Central Standard Time, shreiman@... writes: > Thanks, I needed that. I need to start thinking more positively again. > When I think positive or rather expect good things I know they come. When > I saw the Christmas tree in my building and look around and all I see is > Christmas decorations it knocked me out. When you get into the depth of > depression it is hard to get out sometimes. pauline > Original Message: > ----------------- > From: RareBreeeze@... > Date: Sat, 4 Dec 2004 11:47:16 EST > To: AffirmationstoDe-Stress > Subject: If You Knew... > > > > > > > <tt> > If You Knew.... > > > > If you knew for certain that you could cause something to happen by > thinking > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 7, 2004 Report Share Posted December 7, 2004 Hello: Thankyou for writing your feelings on this subject. I think its so nice when others throw in their so called 2 cents..Lol..I wish more people would do it. I love reading everyones opinions on differant things. Some people dont realize where their opinions may just help someone else. It may be that one sentence you write that may make someone think differantly about something. I really liked this part of your letter... For those who don't wish to celebrate the day, then DON " T; ain't no law says what you gotta do; consider it a day to relax and do that; Read a book, chill out, get with a couple of like minded folk and do something; But whatever you do, do it and enjoy it for YOU. Thankyou for sharing your thoughts. Hugs Live Long....Laugh Hard....Email Often On Sat, 4 Dec 2004 21:33:00 -0800 (PST), N.A.Crawford wrote: Hello and Good Evening, I am new to this group, and just wanted to put in my two cents; I am not a real hard lover of Christmas; really prefer Thanksgiving cause u eat and your thankful and that's it; Christmas is more for families and if u have family in other parts of the country, or your estranged or of another faith as the Jewish lady spoke on earlier, then you really are caught in something; There was a lady who spoke of sending a Christmas box to a soldier in Iraq; that is such a good idea and I applaud her; I was in the air force stationed in Korea one year, and I really appreciated seeing the Christmas cards that folks sent from the USA; a lot of folk got a kick out of it, but I was just glad that someone cared; I also remembered that same time the Dallas Cheerleaders came and put on a show, and some of the ladies spoke to me as well; now, I know they were there for the guys primarily, but to know they took the time to speak to me in the ladies room no doubt, I never forgot that; cause I was feeling pretty low at that time; For those who don't wish to celebrate the day, then DON " T; ain't no law says what you gotta do; consider it a day to relax and do that; Read a book, chill out, get with a couple of like minded folk and do something; But whatever you do, do it and enjoy it for YOU. Another thing that was brought up in my church today, a lady wanted to do a basket for someone with AIDS; I thought that was such a nice sentiment; Look at someone who DON " T have no one to be with and go to them. There are elderly, the sick, they would love some company; that is the prime time to do something for them; well, that's it for me; I really enjoy the stuff I see on here; I keep printing them up to put in a scrapbook; Have a good one; Lady wrote: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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