Your Own Worth

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Your Own Worth

By Lee

Master Spirit Coach and Women'sU President

We ask ourselves, " Who Am I to be brilliant, successful, beautiful,

happy, fulfilled? " As nne on says, " ...who are you NOT

to be. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There is nothing

enlightened about shrinking so that others won't feel insecure

around you. We are born to manifest the glory that is within us. It

is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously

give others permission to do the same. " It is in illuminating the

possibilities that gives others hope that they too can shine!

So why do we find it so hard to see our own worth? Only when others

acknowledge our worth, do we start to believe we may have worth. And

more often than not, it's because of what we DO, not who we ARE.

It originates in our childhood. From the very beginning, we are

taught to seek approval and affection from people we care about,

especially people we love. We learn to please others and when we do,

we feel good about ourselves. Unfortunately, this also creates fear -

fear of being rejected, having the affection withdrawn.

As we grow up, the stakes only increase and we take things more

personally and try even harder to fit in to our family's and

society's view of our perfect Selves. So it's no wonder that we have

a hard time valuing ourselves. How can we ever match that perfect

version? As daughter, sister, mother, wife, lover professional? Only

when our 'imperfect' self is validated by another, again and again,

do we believe we are worthy. As Claudius nus says, " The

person who seeks all their applause from outside has their happiness

in another's keeping " .

How then, do we see our own worth, see the brilliance of our own

light?

Getting to know YOU. A woman once said that being with herself was

like being on a blind date. Does this sound like you? Take some

quiet time to get know your Self. Go for a walk in Nature or

meditate or just sit in a room with soft music playing. Get to know

your own thoughts, desires, and dreams. By finding out who you are,

you are more able to appreciate your Self.

Start treating your Self as well as you treat others. Make of list

of 5 things you can do for your Self each day that feel good to you.

Not things you have to do or should do; but things that make you

smile, or even make you feel a little guilty at the thought of

indulging. Pick ONE to start with and give this to yourself everyday

for a week. Then add another. Examples might include: read a book

for 30 minutes, take a walk, bubble bath, or dance. You get the

idea.

List your special gift and talents, the ones you were born with, not

the ones you've learned along the way. If you don't know, ask your

friends and family and co-workers to tell you.

You may not see your own value overnight, but you will start to

appreciate the incredible being that is YOU and start to see your

value, your contributions to those around you, and ultimately, why

you are here.

ACTION ITEMS:

1) Schedule a date with your Self. Mark it in your calendar and plan

to do something fun! Enjoy your time with your Self and get to know

YOU!

2) Make a list of 5 Daily Habits for YOU and pick the one to start

with this week. Give this to your Self every day.

3) Make a list of your special gifts and talents. Put it somewhere

that you can see it often. Read it first thing in the morning and

before you go to bed at night.

Lee is a Spirit Coach, a teacher and an author. Her focus is

helping people connect to their core Essence, harness their Inner

Wisdom and apply it practically in their lives. She can be reached

at @....

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On Wed, 8 Sep 2004 12:07:57 +0530, nachiketan

wrote:

Your Own Worth

By Lee

Master Spirit Coach and Women'sU President

We ask ourselves, " Who Am I to be brilliant, successful,

beautiful,

happy, fulfilled? " As nne on says, " ...who are

you NOT

to be. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There is

nothing

enlightened about shrinking so that others won't feel

insecure

around you. We are born to manifest the glory that is within

us. It

is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we

unconsciously

give others permission to do the same. " It is in illuminating

the

possibilities that gives others hope that they too can shine!

So why do we find it so hard to see our own worth? Only

when others

acknowledge our worth, do we start to believe we may

have worth. And

more often than not, it's because of what we DO, not who

we ARE.

It originates in our childhood. From the very beginning, we

are

taught to seek approval and affection from people we care

about,

especially people we love. We learn to please others and

when we do,

we feel good about ourselves. Unfortunately, this also

creates fear -

fear of being rejected, having the affection withdrawn.

As we grow up, the stakes only increase and we take

things more

personally and try even harder to fit in to our family's and

society's view of our perfect Selves. So it's no wonder that

we have

a hard time valuing ourselves. How can we ever match that

perfect

version? As daughter, sister, mother, wife, lover

professional? Only

when our 'imperfect' self is validated by another, again and

again,

do we believe we are worthy. As Claudius nus

says, " The

person who seeks all their applause from outside has their

happiness

in another's keeping " .

How then, do we see our own worth, see the brilliance of

our own

light?

Getting to know YOU. A woman once said that being with

herself was

like being on a blind date. Does this sound like you? Take

some

quiet time to get know your Self. Go for a walk in Nature or

meditate or just sit in a room with soft music playing. Get to

know

your own thoughts, desires, and dreams. By finding out

who you are,

you are more able to appreciate your Self.

Start treating your Self as well as you treat others. Make of

list

of 5 things you can do for your Self each day that feel good

to you.

Not things you have to do or should do; but things that

make you

smile, or even make you feel a little guilty at the thought of

indulging. Pick ONE to start with and give this to yourself

everyday

for a week. Then add another. Examples might include:

read a book

for 30 minutes, take a walk, bubble bath, or dance. You get

the

idea.

List your special gift and talents, the ones you were born

with, not

the ones you've learned along the way. If you don't know,

ask your

friends and family and co-workers to tell you.

You may not see your own value overnight, but you will start

to

appreciate the incredible being that is YOU and start to

see your

value, your contributions to those around you, and

ultimately, why

you are here.

ACTION ITEMS:

1) Schedule a date with your Self. Mark it in your calendar

and plan

to do something fun! Enjoy your time with your Self and get

to know

YOU!

2) Make a list of 5 Daily Habits for YOU and pick the one to

start

with this week. Give this to your Self every day.

3) Make a list of your special gifts and talents. Put it

somewhere

that you can see it often. Read it first thing in the morning

and

before you go to bed at night.

Lee is a Spirit Coach, a teacher and an author. Her

focus is

helping people connect to their core Essence, harness

their Inner

Wisdom and apply it practically in their lives. She can be

reached

at @....