Your Own Worth

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Your Own Worth

By Lee

Master Spirit Coach and Women'sU President

We ask ourselves, " Who Am I to be brilliant, successful, beautiful,

happy, fulfilled? " As nne on says, " ...who are you NOT to

be. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There is nothing

enlightened about shrinking so that others won't feel insecure around

you. We are born to manifest the glory that is within us. It is in

everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others

permission to do the same. " It is in illuminating the possibilities that

gives others hope that they too can shine!

So why do we find it so hard to see our own worth? Only when others

acknowledge our worth, do we start to believe we may have worth. And more

often than not, it's because of what we DO, not who we ARE.

It originates in our childhood. From the very beginning, we are taught to

seek approval and affection from people we care about, especially people

we love. We learn to please others and when we do, we feel good about

ourselves. Unfortunately, this also creates fear - fear of being

rejected, having the affection withdrawn.

As we grow up, the stakes only increase and we take things more

personally and try even harder to fit in to our family's and society's

view of our perfect Selves. So it's no wonder that we have a hard time

valuing ourselves. How can we ever match that perfect version? As

daughter, sister, mother, wife, lover professional? Only when our

'imperfect' self is validated by another, again and again, do we believe

we are worthy. As Claudius nus says, " The person who seeks all

their applause from outside has their happiness in another's keeping " .

How then, do we see our own worth, see the brilliance of our own light?

Getting to know YOU. A woman once said that being with herself was like

being on a blind date. Does this sound like you? Take some quiet time to

get know your Self. Go for a walk in Nature or meditate or just sit in a

room with soft music playing. Get to know your own thoughts, desires, and

dreams. By finding out who you are, you are more able to appreciate your

Self.

Start treating your Self as well as you treat others. Make of list of 5

things you can do for your Self each day that feel good to you. Not

things you have to do or should do; but things that make you smile, or

even make you feel a little guilty at the thought of indulging. Pick ONE

to start with and give this to yourself everyday for a week. Then add

another. Examples might include: read a book for 30 minutes, take a walk,

bubble bath, or dance. You get the idea.

List your special gift and talents, the ones you were born with, not the

ones you've learned along the way. If you don't know, ask your friends

and family and co-workers to tell you.

You may not see your own value overnight, but you will start to

appreciate the incredible being that is YOU and start to see your value,

your contributions to those around you, and ultimately, why you are here.

ACTION ITEMS:

1) Schedule a date with your Self. Mark it in your calendar and plan to

do something fun! Enjoy your time with your Self and get to know YOU!

2) Make a list of 5 Daily Habits for YOU and pick the one to start with

this week. Give this to your Self every day.

3) Make a list of your special gifts and talents. Put it somewhere that

you can see it often. Read it first thing in the morning and before you

go to bed at night.

Lee is a Spirit Coach, a teacher and an author. Her focus is

helping people connect to their core Essence, harness their Inner Wisdom

and apply it practically in their lives. She can be reached at

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