question on parenting

[Guest guest]

Sondra, is there disagreement between you & your husband as to whether to

let Aimee stay at home or not? Is he thinking she should be more

responsible b/c she had the baby & so her consequence should be that she has

to live on her own?

Even typical girls at that young age are allowed to live with their parents

to have help caring for the baby. As long as she understands that the baby

is her responsibility & doesn't take it for granted, it seems like you &

your husband are helping her with her life. Is the father of the baby

involved? He should be sharing baby caring duties too, not just Aimee &

you. If they are planning on getting married later, & even if it turns out

that they don't end up married, it is still his responsibility, not yours to

take his place.

It may be really good for both of them to take parenting classes to have

info coming from an uninterested third party & not taken as nagging from

mom.

You're in a very difficult situation. I wasn't thrilled when my son got

married at a very young age & had a baby before he was 20. He had lived

with my daughter in law's parents on & off, but now he is happily married

with 2 kids & has finished college. His wife had a good income though to

support them while he finished college & her parents helped them out

financially some too. Instead of us being judgemental, we accepted what

happened & helped them as much as we could. It's a difficult situation for

typicals without the added burden of being AS.

Is there someone who can watch the baby so Aimee can work to bring in some

money? Is there child support? Are the other grandparents involved; can

they help the new parents in any way? It isn't just your family's

responsibilty to take care of the baby either, although society can look at

it as it's the girl's sole responsibility for having gotten pregnant.

Take care,

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Marie