Re: very off topic hope this is of not offensive in nature

[Guest guest]

this is lots of words and thinking for me but is of helpful because

many of these words have heared of them and some were of not nice

things done to me as a child. things that feared me and did not have

of words to until much later in the life of me. Still maybe not

right words for many of the things but did be to express it to my

therapist the best could be and he to understood of my words so much

have been able to do fair job of the words.

You are of first to be ever so fair and open to teach of me to this

level and am of thankful it is of much words and yet it triggers

fears, anxeity and confusions in some aspects but it helps me to be

more aware of the things that it seems others to know and never have

been open to teach of me in life. cant ask of the husband as he gets

upset to me when i to ask as he to often says you need not worry of

those things. sometimes though he does be patient and teaches of me/

the therapist of me also says same words of you as in the sex things

between a marriage it is what ever you are of comfortable with , but

to me lack what am of comfortable with because like little to none

of it and so hard to be for me part of an intimate person and this

creates huge barriers in the marriage.

I to also have of physical barriers that prevent me from liking

those things too such as endeomentrosis, tipped uterus, scaring,

cysts on the ovaries and fibroid tumors. I to almost always feel as

if the inside of me is inflammed or swollen so it can hurt to walk

or sit at times espeically when ovulating. when was on cortizones it

all was of calm and I to felt the best ever in life for a short

time.

I too hope this thread is of not offending because didnot bring it

here to offend but not like to be ignorant to many things others

seem to be to know of and it places me at disadvantage and

vulnerabilities.

I to know have not done that matabate things at all in the life of

me excpet once when to check of the fact my private to not had of

teeth as the mother triggered fears to me as a child by to tell me

it will be to bite of me. it was during toilting times of learning

to go to the potty and it caused me to think it has of teeth. i to

later as adult learned it does not i to looked and touched to see

after was told it does not have of teeth to bite of me. I to be to

think it looks like a mouth much though so was unsure to me. Much of

my life due to my literalness it causes me to be to think the words

wer of true to me and never forgetted some of them.

Now as adult i to feel have some more mature awareness of things but

lack still the words or meanings to much and so seeking to gain so

can be more even to peers of my own age.

In many ways if anythings I to hope my words and the sharing on

this thread will be of odd wisdom to help parents to not over

protect of thems child from such knowings in life. because it can be

of to cause more damage long term and more vunerable if they lack

the words or the meanings of them. it is of important I t think for

girls to be exposed to age appropriate (developmental ages) of their

bodies and sexual development. Ester shared much more than my brain

will absorb but the exposure will of the words will be of a begin to

teach of me how to be more safe sexually in life, will help me

understand words or terms others seem to know.

Again if this is of much offensive I to be of sorry.

Sondra

[Guest guest]

Sondra, it is not offensive at all to ask questions of something you don't

know. As you said, it could enlighten us as to how literal minded people on

the spectrum can be. I know I am not on the spectrum, but sometimes I know

I am too black & white & need people to tell me exactly what they mean & not

insinuate or hint around. For instance, I had asked a friend with one

typical child if she could watch Kim & her toddler sister. She gave some

vague responses & I didn't " get it " that she didn't feel comfortable

watching Kim until it finally dawned on me that she was saying " no " . I

don't get some of the social taboos of talking about monetary things either,

like how much your house cost, or your income, & I have to consciously

remember not to ask those kinds of questions. So, even with NT's, there are

levels of what's considered normal. I have always thought of the book " If

you're so successful, why do you feel like a fake? " or something similar to

that is how I feel sometimes, less so now than when I was younger.

Marie

>

> this is lots of words and thinking for me but is of helpful because

> many of these words have heared of them and some were of not nice

> things done to me as a child. things that feared me and did not have

> of words to until much later in the life of me. Still maybe not

> right words for many of the things but did be to express it to my

> therapist the best could be and he to understood of my words so much

> have been able to do fair job of the words.

>

> You are of first to be ever so fair and open to teach of me to this

> level and am of thankful it is of much words and yet it triggers

> fears, anxeity and confusions in some aspects but it helps me to be

> more aware of the things that it seems others to know and never have

> been open to teach of me in life. cant ask of the husband as he gets

> upset to me when i to ask as he to often says you need not worry of

> those things. sometimes though he does be patient and teaches of me/

>

> the therapist of me also says same words of you as in the sex things

> between a marriage it is what ever you are of comfortable with , but

> to me lack what am of comfortable with because like little to none

> of it and so hard to be for me part of an intimate person and this

> creates huge barriers in the marriage.

>

> I to also have of physical barriers that prevent me from liking

> those things too such as endeomentrosis, tipped uterus, scaring,

> cysts on the ovaries and fibroid tumors. I to almost always feel as

> if the inside of me is inflammed or swollen so it can hurt to walk

> or sit at times espeically when ovulating. when was on cortizones it

> all was of calm and I to felt the best ever in life for a short

> time.

>

> I too hope this thread is of not offending because didnot bring it

> here to offend but not like to be ignorant to many things others

> seem to be to know of and it places me at disadvantage and

> vulnerabilities.

>

> I to know have not done that matabate things at all in the life of

> me excpet once when to check of the fact my private to not had of

> teeth as the mother triggered fears to me as a child by to tell me

> it will be to bite of me. it was during toilting times of learning

> to go to the potty and it caused me to think it has of teeth. i to

> later as adult learned it does not i to looked and touched to see

> after was told it does not have of teeth to bite of me. I to be to

> think it looks like a mouth much though so was unsure to me. Much of

> my life due to my literalness it causes me to be to think the words

> wer of true to me and never forgetted some of them.

>

> Now as adult i to feel have some more mature awareness of things but

> lack still the words or meanings to much and so seeking to gain so

> can be more even to peers of my own age.

>

> In many ways if anythings I to hope my words and the sharing on

> this thread will be of odd wisdom to help parents to not over

> protect of thems child from such knowings in life. because it can be

> of to cause more damage long term and more vunerable if they lack

> the words or the meanings of them. it is of important I t think for

> girls to be exposed to age appropriate (developmental ages) of their

> bodies and sexual development. Ester shared much more than my brain

> will absorb but the exposure will of the words will be of a begin to

> teach of me how to be more safe sexually in life, will help me

> understand words or terms others seem to know.

>

> Again if this is of much offensive I to be of sorry.

>

> Sondra

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

If you suffered sexual abuse as a child that would most certainly give birth

to fears that others may not have. It frightens me to hear of these fears

and how it is a struggle for you only because I know my daughter is trying

to heal. Will it ever go away for her? It seems it is something that stays

forever in some way or another. I am truly sorry for you Sondra. But if it

helps, I agree with Kassi - you are a beautiful person and a wonderfully

bright speaker and teacher. I hope I can meet you in person someday.

Re: very off topic hope this is of not offensive

in nature

this is lots of words and thinking for me but is of helpful because

many of these words have heared of them and some were of not nice

things done to me as a child. things that feared me and did not have

of words to until much later in the life of me. Still maybe not

right words for many of the things but did be to express it to my

therapist the best could be and he to understood of my words so much

have been able to do fair job of the words.

You are of first to be ever so fair and open to teach of me to this

level and am of thankful it is of much words and yet it triggers

fears, anxeity and confusions in some aspects but it helps me to be

more aware of the things that it seems others to know and never have

been open to teach of me in life. cant ask of the husband as he gets

upset to me when i to ask as he to often says you need not worry of

those things. sometimes though he does be patient and teaches of me/

the therapist of me also says same words of you as in the sex things

between a marriage it is what ever you are of comfortable with , but

to me lack what am of comfortable with because like little to none

of it and so hard to be for me part of an intimate person and this

creates huge barriers in the marriage.

I to also have of physical barriers that prevent me from liking

those things too such as endeomentrosis, tipped uterus, scaring,

cysts on the ovaries and fibroid tumors. I to almost always feel as

if the inside of me is inflammed or swollen so it can hurt to walk

or sit at times espeically when ovulating. when was on cortizones it

all was of calm and I to felt the best ever in life for a short

time.

I too hope this thread is of not offending because didnot bring it

here to offend but not like to be ignorant to many things others

seem to be to know of and it places me at disadvantage and

vulnerabilities.

I to know have not done that matabate things at all in the life of

me excpet once when to check of the fact my private to not had of

teeth as the mother triggered fears to me as a child by to tell me

it will be to bite of me. it was during toilting times of learning

to go to the potty and it caused me to think it has of teeth. i to

later as adult learned it does not i to looked and touched to see

after was told it does not have of teeth to bite of me. I to be to

think it looks like a mouth much though so was unsure to me. Much of

my life due to my literalness it causes me to be to think the words

wer of true to me and never forgetted some of them.

Now as adult i to feel have some more mature awareness of things but

lack still the words or meanings to much and so seeking to gain so

can be more even to peers of my own age.

In many ways if anythings I to hope my words and the sharing on

this thread will be of odd wisdom to help parents to not over

protect of thems child from such knowings in life. because it can be

of to cause more damage long term and more vunerable if they lack

the words or the meanings of them. it is of important I t think for

girls to be exposed to age appropriate (developmental ages) of their

bodies and sexual development. Ester shared much more than my brain

will absorb but the exposure will of the words will be of a begin to

teach of me how to be more safe sexually in life, will help me

understand words or terms others seem to know.

Again if this is of much offensive I to be of sorry.

Sondra

[Guest guest]

laura it never goes away but at times cycles into intense states and

other days managable and can cope it. it is of a life time to

healing of it. It still is healing for me because still learning of

what it was and why it was of so bad and scary for me. the rapes of

me were very forceful and traumatizing and it leaves many long terms

fears and scars autism or not it impacts the life outcomes in a very

negaitive way and for me it can be more disabling than the autism in

my life for most parts. it is of the very core of my PTSD. but the

best things to help is to find safe among a few people that one can

learn to reach out when the PTSD cycles and so they know they can

have a safe haven to retreat too.

Sondra

In Autism_in_Girls , " " wrote:

>

> If you suffered sexual abuse as a child that would most certainly

give birth

> to fears that others may not have. It frightens me to hear of

these fears

> and how it is a struggle for you only because I know my daughter

is trying

> to heal. Will it ever go away for her? It seems it is something

that stays

> forever in some way or another. I am truly sorry for you Sondra.

But if it

> helps, I agree with Kassi - you are a beautiful person and a

wonderfully

> bright speaker and teacher. I hope I can meet you in person

someday.

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

> Re: very off topic hope this is of not

offensive

> in nature

>

>

>

> this is lots of words and thinking for me but is of helpful

because

> many of these words have heared of them and some were of not nice

> things done to me as a child. things that feared me and did not

have

> of words to until much later in the life of me. Still maybe not

> right words for many of the things but did be to express it to my

> therapist the best could be and he to understood of my words so

much

> have been able to do fair job of the words.

>

> You are of first to be ever so fair and open to teach of me to

this

> level and am of thankful it is of much words and yet it triggers

> fears, anxeity and confusions in some aspects but it helps me to

be

> more aware of the things that it seems others to know and never

have

> been open to teach of me in life. cant ask of the husband as he

gets

> upset to me when i to ask as he to often says you need not worry

of

> those things. sometimes though he does be patient and teaches of

me/

>

> the therapist of me also says same words of you as in the sex

things

> between a marriage it is what ever you are of comfortable with ,

but

> to me lack what am of comfortable with because like little to none

> of it and so hard to be for me part of an intimate person and this

> creates huge barriers in the marriage.

>

> I to also have of physical barriers that prevent me from liking

> those things too such as endeomentrosis, tipped uterus, scaring,

> cysts on the ovaries and fibroid tumors. I to almost always feel

as

> if the inside of me is inflammed or swollen so it can hurt to walk

> or sit at times espeically when ovulating. when was on cortizones

it

> all was of calm and I to felt the best ever in life for a short

> time.

>

> I too hope this thread is of not offending because didnot bring it

> here to offend but not like to be ignorant to many things others

> seem to be to know of and it places me at disadvantage and

> vulnerabilities.

>

> I to know have not done that matabate things at all in the life of

> me excpet once when to check of the fact my private to not had of

> teeth as the mother triggered fears to me as a child by to tell me

> it will be to bite of me. it was during toilting times of learning

> to go to the potty and it caused me to think it has of teeth. i to

> later as adult learned it does not i to looked and touched to see

> after was told it does not have of teeth to bite of me. I to be to

> think it looks like a mouth much though so was unsure to me. Much

of

> my life due to my literalness it causes me to be to think the

words

> wer of true to me and never forgetted some of them.

>

> Now as adult i to feel have some more mature awareness of things

but

> lack still the words or meanings to much and so seeking to gain so

> can be more even to peers of my own age.

>

> In many ways if anythings I to hope my words and the sharing on

> this thread will be of odd wisdom to help parents to not over

> protect of thems child from such knowings in life. because it can

be

> of to cause more damage long term and more vunerable if they lack

> the words or the meanings of them. it is of important I t think

for

> girls to be exposed to age appropriate (developmental ages) of

their

> bodies and sexual development. Ester shared much more than my

brain

> will absorb but the exposure will of the words will be of a begin

to

> teach of me how to be more safe sexually in life, will help me

> understand words or terms others seem to know.

>

> Again if this is of much offensive I to be of sorry.

>

> Sondra

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

today had long time of words with my Dr. Amigo about this topic of

sexuality. I to asked of him why of my own being is never to learn or

have of these thinkings and he to feels it much to be of to me both

equal the autism and the abuse. he to feels since the abuse began when

one would be expected to be in the pre-sexual stages of development.

and this impacted my development much so. it caused me to not develop

in this areas in a typical process as well as the autism developmental

processes as well. he is of going to look for a female professional

to come and teach of the feamles on spectrum in himd practice of

sexuality and development. I to hope this will be of good and helpful

to me. it will teach of terms and things such as the word i to seeked

here. this will be of good.

sondra