Guest guest Posted July 11, 2006 Report Share Posted July 11, 2006 Ruthie, that's so cool that you're daughter is a happy adult. Does she work or attend college? I hope beyond all that Allie is healthy and happy. Sometimes I get down thinking that she might not have the same life as " NT " people, but then I realize my NT daughters will have heartbreak and sadness just like anyone else. What's the line from Lord of the Rings, " Walking out your door can be a dangerous thing. " ? Debi - Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2006 Report Share Posted July 12, 2006 Debi, Our daughter lives on a working farm that we built for her and for 5 other women with autism. She was never able to develop the skills needed to live on her own, and I was afraid for her not to have friends and a family atmospheres so I built her a place where all of that could happen. It is difficult not having her live with us, however we decided that for her own good if we were to become sick or disabled ourselves or when we die we did not want her to have to make major changes in her life without us being able to support her and aid in any transition she would have to make. I see her on most days and my husband tries to go before work or in the late afternoons and definitely on weekends. She has a large garden, chickens for eggs, goats for milk, rides her horse, and we have a swimming pool that she loves. She goes off campus for outings most days. She has a full and wonderful life with people around her who love her and care for her and that is all we can hope for in any of our lives. If you would like to see a small picture of it, our web site is www.mandysfarm.org. Ruthie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2006 Report Share Posted July 12, 2006 This looks wonderful. My hat is off to you for creating your own place for your daughter's needs. I hope when grows up we will have a place like yours to take her too. Maybe even take her to yours. I will keep this resource. Thanks Diane (' Mom) Re: Re: waking up!/Ruthie Debi, Our daughter lives on a working farm that we built for her and for 5 other women with autism. She was never able to develop the skills needed to live on her own, and I was afraid for her not to have friends and a family atmospheres so I built her a place where all of that could happen. It is difficult not having her live with us, however we decided that for her own good if we were to become sick or disabled ourselves or when we die we did not want her to have to make major changes in her life without us being able to support her and aid in any transition she would have to make. I see her on most days and my husband tries to go before work or in the late afternoons and definitely on weekends. She has a large garden, chickens for eggs, goats for milk, rides her horse, and we have a swimming pool that she loves. She goes off campus for outings most days. She has a full and wonderful life with people around her who love her and care for her and that is all we can hope for in any of our lives. If you would like to see a small picture of it, our web site is www.mandysfarm.org. Ruthie Autism_in_Girls-subscribe ------------------------ Autism_in_Girls-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2006 Report Share Posted July 12, 2006 I remember that now. That's so cool! I think a farm is the perfect place for someone with sensory issues. Calming, yet lots of stuff to do as one wishes. We're planning on selling our house in the next couple of years and buying some land. I have it in my head that *if* Allie needs to stay with us we'll end up with lots of stuff for her to do. In fact, in training her service dog I could see a future in her working with animals. She loves cats. But I got to thinking how much fun it would be for her to show them, we could accompany her to all the shows and she could do all the work. Lol, do I sound lazy or what? Debi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2006 Report Share Posted July 12, 2006 Ok, can I sign Ella up for later.... It sounds wonderful, she is such a special lucky girl! Aimee Im going to check out pics! Ruthie & Robbins wrote: Debi, Our daughter lives on a working farm that we built for her and for 5 other women with autism. She was never able to develop the skills needed to live on her own, and I was afraid for her not to have friends and a family atmospheres so I built her a place where all of that could happen. It is difficult not having her live with us, however we decided that for her own good if we were to become sick or disabled ourselves or when we die we did not want her to have to make major changes in her life without us being able to support her and aid in any transition she would have to make. I see her on most days and my husband tries to go before work or in the late afternoons and definitely on weekends. She has a large garden, chickens for eggs, goats for milk, rides her horse, and we have a swimming pool that she loves. She goes off campus for outings most days. She has a full and wonderful life with people around her who love her and care for her and that is all we can hope for in any of our lives. If you would like to see a small picture of it, our web site is www.mandysfarm.org. Ruthie --------------------------------- Sneak preview the all-new Yahoo.com. It's not radically different. Just radically better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2006 Report Share Posted July 12, 2006 Ok so Allie and Ella will show dogs and cats and live on the farm... Perfect! Aimee Debi wrote: I remember that now. That's so cool! I think a farm is the perfect place for someone with sensory issues. Calming, yet lots of stuff to do as one wishes. We're planning on selling our house in the next couple of years and buying some land. I have it in my head that *if* Allie needs to stay with us we'll end up with lots of stuff for her to do. In fact, in training her service dog I could see a future in her working with animals. She loves cats. But I got to thinking how much fun it would be for her to show them, we could accompany her to all the shows and she could do all the work. Lol, do I sound lazy or what? Debi --------------------------------- Want to be your own boss? Learn how on Yahoo! Small Business. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2006 Report Share Posted July 12, 2006 There's a group here www.breakthroughknoxville.com that's working on a campus setting. Of course, my goal is for Allie to be independent, but the older I get the more I see how dependent we NT independent people are. Like my neighbor, NT family, her husband died when her daughter was 12 mos old. She needs help from others. I help her quite often with her daughter, and she helps me with my oldest, as well as the rest. <g> Debi > > Ok so Allie and Ella will show dogs and cats and live on the farm... > Perfect! > > Aimee > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2006 Report Share Posted July 13, 2006 Diane, Thank you for the kind words. If you would ever like to visit, we love having visitors. Ruthie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2006 Report Share Posted July 13, 2006 Debi, You don't sound a bit lazy to me. All of us spend so much time helping our kids that I think we forget what other people do. I have found animals to be such a benefit to Mandy, but unfortunately so much of the time we are doing therapies and " work " with our kids that we forget to let them do the " normal " things like pets. Ruthie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2006 Report Share Posted July 13, 2006 --- Ruthie, I have read about and been intrigued by Mandy's Farm for years. My beautiful girl will be 10 in Sept. I wondered : Do you already have an extremely long waiting list ? I fantasize about moving to the southwest and having her at your place when she is 21. She is relatively high functioning ie. verbal, independent with many self-help skills but not conversational and not always reliable answering questions. She can ask for what she wants and answer simple questions. I have a hard time envisioning her living independently...but its a long way away. Feel free to email me privately or here. Best regards, jody In Autism_in_Girls , " Ruthie & Robbins " wrote: > > Debi, > > You don't sound a bit lazy to me. All of us spend so much time helping our > kids that I think we forget what other people do. I have found animals to > be such a benefit to Mandy, but unfortunately so much of the time we are > doing therapies and " work " with our kids that we forget to let them do the > " normal " things like pets. > > Ruthie > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 17, 2006 Report Share Posted July 17, 2006 Ruthie, I have known about Mandy's Farm for a few years, and I'm honored to " meet " you. I would like to visit the Farm sometime in the next year. I live in Massachusetts, and I have often wondered if I could start something up here like you did. Land is very expensive around where I am, and I don't have toms of money. I do know several wonderful families with girls, though Did you face lots of obstacles? Melinda, Mom to , 13.5 yrs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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