Sondra...

[Guest guest]

Sondra,

I don't post much here, but I have met you. I drove you and when you

were in the Pittsburgh area a while ago, and we sat opposite each other at

dinner.

Your feelings and thoughts illustrate to me how much damage a single person

can do to someone when they say something wrong. Some person said something

mean to you (I gather) and this is causing you so much pain!

So, I would say, in situations like this, try to remove yourself from the

person and their nasty words and thoughts, and think of positive things. You

have a husband who loves and supports you. You have raised and are

continuing to raise 4 children! All of these people love you (though

sometimes children don't show it) and you are very important to them.

Additionally, you have helped countless numbers of people via this list and

other lists, via your books and CD's, and your presentations. I personally

have been helped by your suggestions and insights into the autism mindset so

much. There were times when I had no idea what my daughter's behaviors were

about, and you were able to help me understand.

I think that you are NOT mentally retarded. The things you write and your

poetry are very intelligent. I am guessing that you don't take standardized

tests (such as IQ tests) well, which is not a surprise, since most people on

the autistic spectrum don't test well. My daughter is having those issues

now, and I know she's smart.

I hope that this email, as well as others you are receiving from this board,

help you understand that you are a very important, intelligent, and

kind person! You have gone through a lot in your life, and experienced some

terrible things, and you have survived and succeeded! I hope that our

support will help you get past the mean words that this person said, and to

keep going forward!

Inna

(from Pittsburgh)