Guest guest Posted September 5, 2000 Report Share Posted September 5, 2000 In a message dated 09/05/2000 7:13:29 AM Eastern Daylight Time, karhubb@... writes: > The most important thing to me is that I > feel I have recaptured my life...I feel better now than I did 10 years ago. you took the words right out of my mouth (no worry, I have plenty more of them LOL) Barb who needed a fun exercise to get me off the puter chair Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2000 Report Share Posted September 5, 2000 In a message dated 9/5/00 12:35:59 AM !!!First Boot!!!, karhubb@... writes: << I have a feeling that everything will go alot easier now that I have found this great list. >> Welcome WTG on the positive life change!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2000 Report Share Posted September 5, 2000 > Hi Everyone, > I'm , 44 years old, mother to 3 grown children, grandmother to 2 > (with another due next month). My youngest son just started college at Univ. > of DE last week, so my house feels very different these days. I work full > time + at the local Veterinary hospital. My passion (beside taebo) is dogs, > dogs, dogs and dog training. At the moment, I have 6 dogs (have had up to 9 > before)...most are rescues from the animal hospital. Beckett is the pup who > takes nearly every bit of time I have. She is a VERY active 9 month old > Border Collie, and the absolute love of my life (as far as dogs go, that > is!). She and I go to doggie school 2 nights a week, Tues for obedience, and > Wed for agility. We try to practice our lessons for a few minutes every > morning and evening. > I have been wanting to introduce myself to you all for the past few > weeks, but I always chicken out for some reason. I have been doing taebo and > other types of exercises, on and off for about the past year and a half. My > " health kick " started Jan. 1999. I am 5'2 " weighed 150 lbs, smoked 2+ packs a > day and spent ALL of my leasure time on the couch in front of the tv. I > don't know what happened...I just got totally sick of myself. It's been a > long and very hard struggle, but I have lost weight (about 15 lbs), added > about a ton (!) of muscle and have given up smoking for over a year now. I > do my best to drink 2 liters of water every day and eat mostly the right > things. > I have a feeling that everything will go alot easier now that I have > found this great list. You all are so nice and supportive of one another > that it just makes me want to jump in and take part! You have all been > wonderful inspiration for me and for that I thank you. Bye for now, Welcome, . I'm glad you decided to delurk. I can tell already that you will have a lot to add to this group. We can always use another dog lover (I LOVE my German Shepherd and my office is covered with photos of past and present dogs and cats plus some of my husband, LOL). Congratulations on quitting smoking. What a great accomplishment. Elena Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2000 Report Share Posted September 5, 2000 Hi ! Welcome to the group! You and I have so much in common already! We both started Tae-Bo around the same time. I'm 5'1 " but I started out at 183 lbs. I've lost about 21 poundfs of that in the 18+ months I've been doing Tae- Bo. Like you, I had spent all my time on the couch in front of the TV. I can identify with you being sick of what you'd become, I was the same way. I had put on 35 lbs over 3 years from depression. I knew my weight was getting out of hand, but being so depressed, sadly I didn't have the motivation to do anything about it. I'm glad we've both gotten a handle on ourselves. Things can only get better from here on out! Congratulations on quitting the smokes too! Getting healthy is a never-ending struggle, and I also agree that this list can make the journey a lot more fun! It helps to know that you're not the only one going through this and that we share a lot of the same struggles. I'm happy you decided to join us! Ann Marie - who's also from Joisey > I have been wanting to introduce myself to you all for the past few > weeks, but I always chicken out for some reason. I have been doing taebo and > other types of exercises, on and off for about the past year and a half. My > " health kick " started Jan. 1999. I am 5'2 " weighed 150 lbs, smoked 2+ packs a > day and spent ALL of my leasure time on the couch in front of the tv. I > don't know what happened...I just got totally sick of myself. It's been a > long and very hard struggle, but I have lost weight (about 15 lbs), added > about a ton (!) of muscle and have given up smoking for over a year now. I > do my best to drink 2 liters of water every day and eat mostly the right > things. > I have a feeling that everything will go alot easier now that I have > found this great list. You all are so nice and supportive of one another > that it just makes me want to jump in and take part! You have all been > wonderful inspiration for me and for that I thank you. Bye for now, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 22, 2000 Report Share Posted October 22, 2000 In a message dated 10/22/00 7:35:35 PM Eastern Daylight Time, js.tate@... writes: << Hi! I just wanted to drop a note and introduce myself. My name is Joan and I am 36 <gulp!>. I had a great time doing tae-bo last year but because of my busy schedule, I got off track. >> Welcome Joan! What tapes do you do? Do you have the original set? Maybe treating yourself to some of the new, live tapes would help your motivation? We are glad to have you join us!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 22, 2000 Report Share Posted October 22, 2000 In a message dated 10/22/00 6:35:35 PM Central Daylight Time, js.tate@... writes: << i! I just wanted to drop a note and introduce myself. My name is Joan and I am 36 <gulp!>. I had a great time doing tae-bo last year but because of my busy schedule, I got off track. I really want to get back to it, but am having trouble getting myself motivated. I was doing the advanced tape, but right now I'd be happy doing the basic one all the way through. Joan >> Well Joan, make yourself happy and get down to business on that Basic tape..Well to the group..I to am 36 and will be 37 (yikes) in December..I kinda decided that I want to be in better physical health by the time I'm 40 then I was when I was younger!!! The hard part about any type of workout program is staying with it in the long haul...for that you have to really want it and dig deep...I was just reading an article on this today..how people seem to find ways out of it..I'm too busy, I'm stressed out (nothing destresses better then exercise)..my kids, I " m sore etc..the list goes on..but, the reality is that to keep it a part of your life..You have to make it a part of your life..find what works best for you..for me, early morning workouts before work seem to work best..I am now tuned into setting my alarm and getting outa bed..now in all honesty sometimes I'd love to sleep in and its hard to motivate myself..so sometimes I jump on here quick and get a boost from everyone and then get to it..or I conjure of my " vision " of where I want my live, my body, my health to be..and that works..so anyways, didn't mean to ramble on here..I really just wanted to welcome you and say congrats to getting back in the groove....You can do it!!! Kathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 22, 2000 Report Share Posted October 22, 2000 Joan welcome to the group!!!! I hope you fiond some motivation, energy and time-tips here. I know I have!!! << Hi! I just wanted to drop a note and introduce myself. My name is Joan and I am 36 <gulp!>. I had a great time doing tae-bo last year but because of my busy schedule, I got off track. I really want to get back to it, but am having trouble getting myself motivated. I was doing the advanced tape, but right now I'd be happy doing the basic one all the way through. Joan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 22, 2000 Report Share Posted October 22, 2000 Welcome Joan!!!!!!! One thing I use to suggest to people who have "fallen off the wagon" is to remember what got them started doing Tae-Bo in the first place and how they felt while doing it. I don't know if you have any of the live tapes, but that might be something too. The music is "old school" and it's like being in a class with . Plus you can work out with many of us: Lucie (BL5), (New Live 4 Pack Basic and Advanced), Me and Patty H (BL10). Sandie, Tae and Bo who has been able to be an inspiration and motivator both on and off line to many Introduction Hi! I just wanted to drop a note and introduce myself. My name is Joan andI am 36 <gulp!>. I had a great time doing tae-bo last year but because ofmy busy schedule, I got off track. I really want to get back to it, but amhaving trouble getting myself motivated. I was doing the advanced tape, butright now I'd be happy doing the basic one all the way through.JoanAs Deb has said: "Fitness is a journey and it begins with the first step.""This isn't about weight loss, it's about enlightenment" -Visit our new vault site http://taeboon.isportsdot.com/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 22, 2000 Report Share Posted October 22, 2000 , Thanks for the welcome. I have the original set of videos and had worked my way up to the advanced tape. I really liked it although there was a part in the floor work where says " I like what you're doing right now! " and what I was usually doing was laying on the floor dead! ;-) I'd was thinking about getting the live tapes, but decided that it would make a great Christmas gift. I just need to get my body moving at 5 am so I can get it done before the rest of the family is up. Joan > > Welcome Joan! What tapes do you do? Do you have the original set? Maybe > treating yourself to some of the new, live tapes would help your motivation? > We are glad to have you join us!! > > > eGroups Sponsor > > > As Deb has said: " Fitness is a journey and it begins with the first step. " > " This isn't about weight loss, it's about enlightenment " - > > Visit our new vault site http://taeboon.isportsdot.com/ > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 22, 2000 Report Share Posted October 22, 2000 Welcome to the group Joan, you will find a lot of support here. Doris --- Joan & Stace Tate wrote: > , > > Thanks for the welcome. I have the original set of > videos and had worked my > way up to the advanced tape. I really liked it > although there was a part in > the floor work where says " I like what you're > doing right now! " and > what I was usually doing was laying on the floor > dead! ;-) I'd was > thinking about getting the live tapes, but decided > that it would make a > great Christmas gift. I just need to get my body > moving at 5 am so I can > get it done before the rest of the family is up. > > Joan > > > > > Welcome Joan! What tapes do you do? Do you have > the original set? Maybe > > treating yourself to some of the new, live tapes > would help your > motivation? > > We are glad to have you join us!! > > > > > > eGroups Sponsor > > > > > > As Deb has said: " Fitness is a journey and it > begins with the first step. " > > " This isn't about weight loss, it's about > enlightenment " - > > > > Visit our new vault site > http://taeboon.isportsdot.com/ > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 23, 2000 Report Share Posted October 23, 2000 In a message dated 10/22/2000 10:56:28 PM Eastern Daylight Time, js.tate@... writes: << I just need to get my body moving at 5 am so I can get it done before the rest of the family is up. >> Joan, try making a promise to yourself to work-out, even if just the 8 minute work-out BEFORE signing on a pre-selected 3 or 4 days a week Barb who has found puter addiction can be an obstacle to doing Tae-Bo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 23, 2000 Report Share Posted October 23, 2000 In a message dated 10/22/2000 7:34:35 PM Eastern Daylight Time, js.tate@... writes: << Hi! I just wanted to drop a note and introduce myself. My name is Joan and I am 36 <gulp!>. I had a great time doing tae-bo last year but because of my busy schedule, I got off track. I really want to get back to it, but am having trouble getting myself motivated. I was doing the advanced tape, but right now I'd be happy doing the basic one all the way through. >> Welcome, Joan! I agree with everyone that you need to start with baby steps and concentrate on what you are accomplishing now, rather than what you used to do. The important thing is that you are starting taebo again! We will give you tons of support here. Elena Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 23, 2000 Report Share Posted October 23, 2000 > I had a great time doing tae-bo last year but because of > my busy schedule, I got off track. I really want to get back to it, but am > having trouble getting myself motivated. Joan, Welcome to the group and congratulations on getting back into Tae- Bo! We all fall off track every now and then....it happens to almost everyone at some point in time along their journey, so please don't beat yourself up about that Try not to think about what you used to be able to do, cause that will usually involve negative thinking...like " Oh, I used to be able to do the advanced and now I can barely get through 10 minutes of the basic....I'm so much weaker than I used to be " or something like that! And that will make you quit every time! Try to focus on the positive stuff.....focus on what you are doing this time around and forget about where you used to be. Be proud of every step you take towards your goal. Set a goal for yourself and make sure it is something realistic! If you find the basic tape is too strenuous right now, then start off by telling yourself that you will do 15 minutes of the workout, 3 or 4 days a week. Next week, shoot for 20 minutes and slowly work yourself up to the full workout! Or maybe break the workout up into 2 workouts...do 15 minutes in the morning and 15 minutes when you get home from work! It's still just as effective if you do it that way, and you might be able to talk yourself into getting out of bed at 5am a little more easily if you know you only have to do 15 minutes Take it slow and be proud of what you are doing, even if it seems like something really small! Baby steps will get you to your goal a lot quicker than big, huge steps....cause you're more likely to stick to it if the changes you make are small and doable Good luck! I look forward to hearing more from you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 24, 2000 Report Share Posted October 24, 2000 In a message dated 10/24/00 8:27:25 AM Eastern Daylight Time, js.tate@... writes: << I did actually do the basic tape yesterday after work and picking up the kids and as I sit here typing this, I just finished the basic tape at 5:25 a.m.! Yup, I got up early today! Day 2 of my 21 dc and on my way to day 3!! >> Great job Joan!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 31, 2009 Report Share Posted January 31, 2009 HI Jennine, welcome to the group! I'm sure you will find many sympathetic ears here!! I have two with OCD, ages 12 and 7, and a 13 yr old who doesn't. It is very difficult parenting children with OCD and without it!!!(sigh) Wow! 4 months is a long wait. You don't have anywhere else you could take him before that, until you get in? It is like that here also. The small towns seem to be notorious for that. It is so sad to watch your child change before your eyes, and I know all of us here can understand what you are going through. Has he been diagnosed with Asperger's? Hugs judy ________________________________ To: Sent: Friday, January 30, 2009 4:31:15 PM Subject: Introduction Hello Everyone! My eldest son (10 next week) was recently diagnosed with OCD, depressed mood and GAD. He has 2 younger brothers (4.5 and 2) which he feels are both a curse and a blessing. Our journey to this diagnosis has been a long one. There was something very clearly different about my son from birth, but I did not think very much of it until he started preschool. He was the kind of baby that always wanted me to hold him. If I wasn't holding him, he was crying. He could only fall asleep if he were lying on top of me. Before he was crawling, he recognized books by their binding. He started talking early. He was very clearly disturbed when things weren't in their rightful place. Still, he managed to be a happy child...he was quite adept at controlling his surroundings until he entered preschool at 2 1/2. When I sought help for him early on, his doctors and teachers said there was nothing wrong...he was just gifted, possibly ADHD. It wasn't until last year that we met with sympathetic ears and that was only after my son started saying things like " I wish I were dead. " Over time, I have watched my happy, gifted, curious, confident, creative and outgoing child turn into an angry, frustrated, self-loathing, sad, lonely and fearful child. He has hoarded things (discarded pencils, broken crayons, rocks, sticks, string, garbage, etc.) since preschool. He has been throat clearing since Kindergarten. Socially, he has always struggled. In the last year I began to notice him check and do other unusual rituals. It is a struggle to get him to do homework, projects from cub scouts, and to clean his room. He was diagnosed with OCD, GAD and depressed mood after we were finally able to have him evaluated for Asperger's last October. This diagnosis has opened our eyes and we are starting to see how his behavior is related to OCD. My husband and I struggle with how to parent him and our 2 other children. My eldest is currently going through CBT and, on Monday, we will be placed on a 4 month wait list for him to be seen by a psychiatrist. We are looking into medication for him. We are in this for the long haul. I know we have a long road ahead of us. I feel so badly for my son. I miss that special twinkle in his eye and want him to be happy again. I live in a rural part of Oregon where there are no support groups for children with OCD or for parents of children with OCD, so I am grateful for this list. Best, Jennine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 31, 2009 Report Share Posted January 31, 2009 Jennine, Sorry for the delay in writing I'm on digest and only get one email a day with all the posts in it. Welcome to the group, one good thing I can tell you is it doesn't matter if your in Oregon, this group gives support to anyone with a computer and guess what YOU QUALIFY ;-) You don't have to wait 4 months for some support!!!! You'll find parents just like you, some are starting the journey like you, some are in the middle of the journey like me with an 18 year old. Each person/parent has their own thoughts and advise. I'm glad you found this place and I hope you'll find some peace knowing that you are not the only one dealing with a child with OCD. As far as you Son, I'll tell you all is not lost, your email was so sad about how he use to be happy. Please Please don't give up hope already. My sons OCD became a problem at age 6 or 7, at that time we went to a Dr and he put him on Zoloft, we got our son back, he went from having to wash his hands for what seemed like hours to where the medicine provided enough help to where his OCD didn't control his life. That worked for several years and then we switched to Prozac, it again helped enough to move the OCD from major to minor and provided him the relief to live and enjoy life. I'm not saying it's all about meds, meds might help but one also needs to explore Con Behavior Therapy as the father of a child that used only meds and then got to 16 and refused to take them anymore, and refused any help and went into a cave, I wish so much I had explored CBT so he learned the tools to fight and win over his O's and C's. As a result I say when they are young get them as much exposure to CBT and possible. Learn from my mistake So there is hope, you son will not be lost and unhappy forever!!! I promise you'll have good moments and times, you've just got to get over the hill. OK on your Dr, Holy Cow 4 months, wow!!! I guess there is no other doctor around??? Some might say to ask his primary care dr about a low dose zoloft but I'm found since SSRI got linked to increase chance of suicide thoughts, some Ped Docs don't feel comfortable doing this. Others can share their thoughts. Lastly being in Oregon has good points 1) The Wilderness and the Trees, I'm a horse lover, I want to ride my Horse is OR before I die 2) It's not crowded LOL The bad point is sounds are though this isn't much help around. What town do you live in, I can get you a list of counselors that specialize in OCD treatment, you just might be surprised to find one close to you. If you find you are so far way that a therapist is out of the question, there are many self help books, you as the mother can learn and study about it and work with your son in short low strees sessions, basically you become the therapist and help your son learn CBT, it can be done, it may not be best option but when you have no other choice it's worth a try. Lasty, Take care of yourself!!! Be sure to squeeze in alittle ME time, get your hair done, get a massage, go for a walk by yourself, or to a movie with your husband. If you live this 24 hr a day, week in, week out, you'll go crazy, get some time away from the OCD, even if only for 30 mn or an hour. I'm glad you are here and I hope you find it as helpful and I do. This group rocks!!!! Kindy, Tim Wahl Columbia MO > > Hello Everyone! > > My eldest son (10 next week) was recently diagnosed with OCD, depressed mood and > GAD. He has 2 younger brothers (4.5 and 2) which he feels are both a curse and a > blessing. Our journey to this diagnosis has been a long one. There was something very > clearly different about my son from birth, but I did not think very much of it until he > started preschool. He was the kind of baby that always wanted me to hold him. If I wasn't > holding him, he was crying. He could only fall asleep if he were lying on top of me. Before > he was crawling, he recognized books by their binding. He started talking early. He was > very clearly disturbed when things weren't in their rightful place. Still, he managed to be a > happy child...he was quite adept at controlling his surroundings until he entered > preschool at 2 1/2. When I sought help for him early on, his doctors and teachers said > there was nothing wrong...he was just gifted, possibly ADHD. It wasn't until last year that > we met with sympathetic ears and that was only after my son started saying things like " I > wish I were dead. " > > Over time, I have watched my happy, gifted, curious, confident, creative and outgoing > child turn into an angry, frustrated, self-loathing, sad, lonely and fearful child. He has > hoarded things (discarded pencils, broken crayons, rocks, sticks, string, garbage, etc.) > since preschool. He has been throat clearing since Kindergarten. Socially, he has always > struggled. In the last year I began to notice him check and do other unusual rituals. It is a > struggle to get him to do homework, projects from cub scouts, and to clean his room. > > He was diagnosed with OCD, GAD and depressed mood after we were finally able to have > him evaluated for Asperger's last October. This diagnosis has opened our eyes and we are > starting to see how his behavior is related to OCD. My husband and I struggle with how to > parent him and our 2 other children. > > My eldest is currently going through CBT and, on Monday, we will be placed on a 4 month > wait list for him to be seen by a psychiatrist. We are looking into medication for him. > > We are in this for the long haul. I know we have a long road ahead of us. I feel so badly for > my son. I miss that special twinkle in his eye and want him to be happy again. > > I live in a rural part of Oregon where there are no support groups for children with OCD or > for parents of children with OCD, so I am grateful for this list. > > Best, > Jennine > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 20, 2009 Report Share Posted March 20, 2009 Thanks BJ for the welcome! When my husband started staying home with , 5 at the time, and our other daughter, Maren (age 3 then), it was another transition time for us as we had just moved and my husband went from working an IT job to working in a church as a music pastor. I went to work full time outside of our home, to supplement his salary. Between the move and the changes in our jobs, went crazy and would ask my husband 10-30 times or more in an HOUR (not exagerating) whether I was going to make it home and whether I would die at my job. He had not been used to being at home and this sent him into a feeling of not knowing what to do for her to help her. This is when we went to our 2nd therapist who did not do ERP and was not willing to learn it, and felt like we would be able to help her with the tools we were using. We saw him for 4 sessions. I did alot of reading on OCD, but lucky for us, she stabilized after 6 months and we did not at that time, have to use too many of the techniques that I had read about. But we are back to her constant questioning and worrying, and she talks about killing herself even. Thus the call to this new therapist! She has her first session Monday. I had a 2 hour session with her 1 week ago, and really like her but will have to see about the ERP. She has not really used it before but said she is familiar with it and will study it further to try it with her.I do not know if is ready or not for ERP, but am hoping she will be. She is in second grade and is about 1-1 and 1/2 years behind, but at least this year we were able to get her on an IEP. She has caught up some this past six months. Reading is very much a chore for her as she repeats phrases and when there are pictures she stares at them and makes up her own storiesinstead of reading what is on the page. On the bright side she is one of the most creative and imaginative children that her teachers have ever worked with! They are always amazed at how her mind works! They do not see the OCD at school though, they say, (except her teacher says she is always asking her friends whether they believe in God and the teacher has scolded her and spoken to us several times about this.) Sorry for the lengthy history. Thanks again! Sharon ________________________________ To: Sent: Friday, March 20, 2009 12:18:36 PM Subject: Re: Introduction Welcome, Sharon. I'm glad you decided to jump in and introduce yourself. ) Glad you found us and are here too. How was your daughter when your husband stayed home with her? Did he notice lots of OCD issues? Or did it only escalate with this change of you staying home with her? Just curious. Change is always hard for those with OCD. Our son always reacted badly too it too. He seems to have become more accepting of it now that he is older (17). . More flexible in general, which is a relief. The flaring up and calming down of OCD is common. Our son's OCD and waxed and waned to the extreme throughout his life. Sometimes being so bad that he couldn't function at all, yet other times handling things pretty well, with just some quirks. It sounds like you are on the right track for treatment. I hope this therapist works out for you. The ERP is so, so important to them improving. It's great that is ready to do it, that is half the battle right there. . .Their readiness. Let us know how it goes. ) BJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 21, 2009 Report Share Posted March 21, 2009 ********** but will have to see about the ERP. She has not really used it before but saidshe is familiar with it and will study it further to try it with her. ********** Hi, Sharon. I had read, as a suggestion, in one of the books on OCD that I have, that if you cannot find a therapist who knows ERP and has used it successfully before,. . If they are willing (which it sounds like your new therapist is), to have them use a book on OCD, to work through with you, to implement the right therapy. There are a couple of really good workbooks for OCD you might want to try, if that sounds like something you might want to do. They are~ Helping Your Child With Ocd: A Workbook for Parents of Children With Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder by Lee Fitzgibbons and Cherry Pedrick Talking Back to OCD by March I've read both and they are great. They don't cover every possible way that OCD can manifest itself though, and that's where the therapist will have to get creative, but it might help. Just a thought. ) You commented that you didn't know if she was ready for the ERP. Sometimes they are not. And as they challenge the OCD, they can either get feelings of anxiety or just feel uncomfortable, as they fight the urge to do the ritual. But, if they hold out, the feeling eventually subsides, and they win. Once they have control, the thought that drives the need to do a ritual, will subside, and in some cases disappear completely. When they realize that, it gives them confidence to continue to move forward to take on another manifestation of OCD. Sometimes people have to wait for their kids to be ready, but if they are, it can retrain the brain, and is proven to be more effective than any other treatment. You also said. . . ************* They do not see the OCD at school though, they say, (except her teacher says she is always asking her friends whether they believe in God and the teacher has scolded her and spoken to us several times about this.) ************* That could be a form of scrupulosity, which many with OCD deal with. If they are not aware of that being part of her OCD, they should maybe be made aware. She shouldn't be scolded for something her OCD is causing her to do, when she has no other option (yet) of what to do about it. That would be like scolding someone with Tourette's who is yelling our obscenities and not being able to help it. My opinion, anyway. That is where having a therapist can be helpful, because it seems people listen to someone they think is an expert, rather than the parents. Sad, but often true. Let us know how it goes with the new therapist, Sharon. So glad you found us here. ) BJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 21, 2009 Report Share Posted March 21, 2009 Chris- Thank you so much for the advice and tips! We have tried the limiting, and need to start that once again. She had been fairly stable with the questions for awhile but in the last month she has started again and you know while you are going through it it is almost like you forget what worked the last time. So thank you for reminding me to try the limiting again.. She tends to freak when she does not get answers but she will get over it once we set the limit with her. And thanks for the worry box idea. I had read about that awhile ago but it was while she was not writing well (she is very behind in writing as well) and so I thought it would be best to wait on that one, but now she can get along ok, so I will use that. On the reading, that is exactly what we have been doing for the last month or so, alternating between her and I, (I even bought a couple books that mark off when each should read) this has helped quite a bit. Did come to a point where he liked reading? Just curious. It is such a chore for her most of the time. Thanks again! Hope you enjoy the book-let me know. Sharon ________________________________ To: Sent: Saturday, March 21, 2009 8:54:46 AM Subject: Re: Introduction Hi Sharon, have you and dad ever tried limiting her number of questions in any way? Some ideas I've read here over the years are like limiting the number per day or even per hour; having a time (or two) set aside per day for her to ask...or I guess you could have times set aside she couldn't ask; having something like a " worry box " where she can write it down (though she is young) and put the paper in the box, and she can get them out later to read to you. If she knows it's a bossy OCD/worry question, you can tell her you only answer OCD once, etc. OCD affected 's reading. I ended up reading to him. As time went by, I would have him read a paragraph to me, then I'd read, then his turn, etc. It helped him to read out loud, not that silent repeating, etc. Just some thoughts this a.m.! > > Chris > > Thanks for writing. I just wrote a long post with even more details about her constant questioning, but to answer your question about whether she knows what she has, yes, I have tried to talk to her about it and read her Up and Down Worry Hill, and What to do When Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 21, 2009 Report Share Posted March 21, 2009 BJ Thanks for the information. I actually have both of those books and so I will take them to the therapist for her to look at. I have scanned through them and will look at them in more detail as well. I am hoping is up for the task, I know she feels frustrated by what is stuck in her brain. She told us just last night that she wishes things would not get stuck. Her most recent thing is worrying about getting a shot, (brought on by a recent well child check which she did not have to have any shots, but since the appointment that is all she thinks about. To the point of saying she does not want to have a baby when she is older because she does not want a shot. I am serious when I write this, but the phone will ring and every time it does she is thinking she is going to have to get a shot. My husband and I will have a conversation about our bills and she will think she is going to have to get a shot. Her 5 year old sister is tired of her going through this 10-15 times a day, or more, and tries to help her, but gets frustrated- as do we! As suggested and we have done before we will try the limiting and worry box to see if these will help. As far as the religion stuff at school, I knew it was part of the ocd but did not know until I read the book, The Thought That Counts, that this is quite common for ocd, and has a name, scrupulosity. I have told the teacher that I felt this was part of her ocd, but the problem is that the staff and the teacher still say they do not see any of her behaviors as ocd, and her questioning just irritates the heck out of her teacher because she is worried about other kids parents coming back to her about this. I have a conference with her on Wednesday so I will talk to her again about this, and probably bring written info to her regarding scrupulosity. Thanks again for everything. Sharon ________________________________ To: Sent: Saturday, March 21, 2009 12:55:13 PM Subject: Re: Introduction ********** but will have to see about the ERP. She has not really used it before but saidshe is familiar with it and will study it further to try it with her. ********** Hi, Sharon. I had read, as a suggestion, in one of the books on OCD that I have, that if you cannot find a therapist who knows ERP and has used it successfully before,. . If they are willing (which it sounds like your new therapist is), to have them use a book on OCD, to work through with you, to implement the right therapy. There are a couple of really good workbooks for OCD you might want to try, if that sounds like something you might want to do. They are~ Helping Your Child With Ocd: A Workbook for Parents of Children With Obsessive-Compulsiv e Disorder by Lee Fitzgibbons and Cherry Pedrick Talking Back to OCD by March I've read both and they are great. They don't cover every possible way that OCD can manifest itself though, and that's where the therapist will have to get creative, but it might help. Just a thought. ) You commented that you didn't know if she was ready for the ERP. Sometimes they are not. And as they challenge the OCD, they can either get feelings of anxiety or just feel uncomfortable, as they fight the urge to do the ritual. But, if they hold out, the feeling eventually subsides, and they win. Once they have control, the thought that drives the need to do a ritual, will subside, and in some cases disappear completely. When they realize that, it gives them confidence to continue to move forward to take on another manifestation of OCD. Sometimes people have to wait for their kids to be ready, but if they are, it can retrain the brain, and is proven to be more effective than any other treatment. You also said. . . ************ * They do not see the OCD at school though, they say, (except her teacher says she is always asking her friends whether they believe in God and the teacher has scolded her and spoken to us several times about this.) ************ * That could be a form of scrupulosity, which many with OCD deal with. If they are not aware of that being part of her OCD, they should maybe be made aware. She shouldn't be scolded for something her OCD is causing her to do, when she has no other option (yet) of what to do about it. That would be like scolding someone with Tourette's who is yelling our obscenities and not being able to help it. My opinion, anyway. That is where having a therapist can be helpful, because it seems people listen to someone they think is an expert, rather than the parents. Sad, but often true. Let us know how it goes with the new therapist, Sharon. So glad you found us here. ) BJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 11, 2010 Report Share Posted May 11, 2010 Welcome to the group .... Vicki Carlson RN,IBCLC,RLC Private Practice in North Carolina, US To: From: doncon@...Date: Tue, 11 May 2010 18:25:49 +0800Subject: Introduction Hi everyoneI've just joined the group, as I am looking to starting an LC private practice. I sat and passed the exam last year, and since then have been fluffing around trying to work out what to do with my shiny new IBCLC card. I applied for work locally, but with funding cuts, they can't afford an LC, so looks like I'm going to have to go private. I live in a very small regional town with a population of about 3000, yet we are a regional centre, with all the health services that are available for 100km radius.I have four wonderful children aged 15, 12, 8, and 2. I'm looking forward to learning lots from this list. DonconBreastfeeding Counsellor, IBCLC, Australia(read my expressing story here: http://www.lrc.asn.au/forum/viewtopic.php?t=41257 and my weaning diary here http://www.lrc.asn.au/forum/viewtopic.php?t=40015) The New Busy is not the too busy. Combine all your e-mail accounts with Hotmail. Get busy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Guest guest Posted July 9, 2010 Report Share Posted July 9, 2010 Hello Pam, It is so good to see you here on the PP-IBCLC list. Your input will be invaluable as I have enjoyed reading your insightful posts on other lists. Please call me when you get a moment, I have a question for you. Thanks & Welcome Sister, Caruso A Mother's Friend Company Lake Worth, Florida Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 7, 2010 Report Share Posted November 7, 2010 Hello Ladies, I am so excited to be here. I have been a faithful reader of Lactnet for years and love how much support and information you all provide to each other. My background is as a LLL leader for the past 5 years (just retired), WIC BF Peer Counselor for 2 years, and mother of 4 children; 3 fully bf, now 6 up to 16. I plan to sit the exam next July and hope to combine WIC with private practice as my area is in serious need of some non-hospital based lactation support. I look forward to learning from your words of wisdom! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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