Re: Michiel, , and Margaret

[Guest guest]

> " I'd love to explore this one more because despite what's in the

book, I also

sometimes get stuck with the self-judgments. Also I'm sure

would

respond to an email about specific questions about how to go about

self-facilitation on onesself. "

I'm scared to email . I'm not worthy of her attention - old

story about authority figures.

I'm not sure I have an authentic question for her as I feel she's

only going to say everything she's said about self-judgement which

I've either read or heard along the way. And I still have some

difficulty with the self-judgements.

The other day I was discovering this core belief that I'm useless, a

good-for-nothing. That day I didn't go right into the four questions

on it. I just sat with the thought/feeling " I'm useless " and it was

like well, you know I am. Just letting it in , not resisting it. That

actually felt good. I could see how I lived my life, either in my

mind or physically, trying to prove I'm not useless.

I think I'm going to try this approach for a bit and just see if it

helps every time or if this was just particular to this time.

Congrats to B. and April for being out on your own and living

your fears around this. The only way out is through. Bless you both.

Hugs, Margaret

Dear Michiel, I love your unasked-for advice and will definitely take

you up

> on asking questions in the future. Thank you.

>

> Dear , welcome...Steve's recommendation that you do The Work on

your

> husband and post it for feedback is right on. The best way to make

use of

> this group, in my experience, is to do your inquiry first, and then

utilize

> the loving support of the participants here if you are still

confused, or if

> you want to share your realizations. I'm really glad you found the

book, and

> us.

>

> Dear Margaret, with regards to self-judgment and how best to do it,

LOVING

> WHAT IS, p. 116, has a chapter on this. The example given is " I am

a

> failure. " It's pretty straightforward; one examines one's self-

judgments

> largely in light of what we've come to believe because of society,

family,

> others, religion, etc. ... because we have not " asked us. " She

also

> recommends utilizing " my thinking " in the turnarounds. Is it that

I am a

> failure, or is it that my thinking is a failure, because it fails

to see how I

> am not a failure?

>

> I'd love to explore this one more because despite what's in the

book, I also

> sometimes get stuck with the self-judgments. Also I'm sure

would

> respond to an email about specific questions about how to go about

> self-facilitation on onesself.

>

> Love, Carol