Guest guest Posted May 8, 2008 Report Share Posted May 8, 2008 yep money lies around and i dont need more as i have enough i think i should work more hours.. but id rather not.. so i suppose i do work enough I guess my fear is that in the future i might need more ..but then i guess i could work more or be poor too. i dont feel im worth more money but i may ask at the end of the week. im going to wait and see how i feel.. first. without the story its his money.. i would feel less guilty but i still buy stuff. whose approval.. one of my friends i have decided doesnt like me.. so what? well it doesnt really matter. patty doesnt like me.. i need patty to like me.. no i dont.. if my husband doesnt like me.. im really in trouble.. as hes my best friend.. is that true.. i suppose i could get a dog.. i want something from them..????? i dont think i do want anything.. i guess approval.. but other then that.. i dont think i want anything.. drop the approval.. huh? the ego personality wants approval my friend patty used to cook and clean better than i.. and she got a divorce.. I do all the cooking and cleaning around here but not very well.. so maybe patty was seeking approval from her husband.. and i never have. i guess being a lousy wife for 30 years saved my marriage. i think patty does have a tendency to want to earn or buy approval. ahes always buying people things and she used to for me too but not anymore.. guess im off her friend list.. oh well.. no likes me everyone hates me guess ill go eat worms.. its a song.. rh Loving-what-is , wrote: > > What? Money is stressful? > hm... I can see how it's lying around the whole day, doing nothing, nagging on you while you have to do the whole work... > But you know... there's several ways to get rid of it, you knew? ;-) > > Money is a stressful thing.. > > I work for someone for 10 an hour and i dont work enough > How much would be enough, do you know that? > Whenever the thought that I don't work enough comes up, I ask myself that question. I usually don't find an answer. Which means that my amount of work could well be enough. > Money is the same: Sure, I have debts... (Isn't that an interesting concept? Something you had to give away if you got it...) but do I need money, now? What would I need it for? Money can buy something. As: I need food -> I buy it. But to experience it's absence when you have everything around you you need to live (and even if you don't) is... weird, isn't it? > > to hardly make it but i cant get another job... > you " can't " - How do you " get " a job? Like you get another piece of cake? A sip of water? > A job is a permanent concept. It means that someone (even an inner voice) tells you what he wants you done and you agree that you bank account balance will grow. A number you can look up on the internet... hm... you see a number on your computer screen and you mood rises or you become desperate... Pretty dependend, isn't it? Try writing a number on the screen and projecting it's you bank account... Can you do that, just for fun? Weird... > > and i cant ask for more money... > and that's because... > you don't speak the language? Someone bit of your tongue? You don't know how to put the words together? > I didn't think so. > you can't ask for money. Is that true? whom? > Do you have the feeling you did EVERYTHING you can to get more money? > I didn't think so. > That COULD be, because you don't need it. Or because...: > > i dont feel im worth it. > That's a runner! A real hit. > Even If you don't do anything of the above, do this: how much are you worth? > Do yourself a favour and put a number next to your name. Or a word. > > > that isnt true i make it because my husband works.. > good to know. But even if you do, find what you DO believe. > > > so i live off his money. > " his " money? Do you share a bank account? When the money is on your shared account, who's money does it become? > If he gives you the money, who's money is it? > who would you be without that story? > > > and i could get another job > good to know! > > > - > > my problem is still needing approval.. from everyone. > How do you know you have it? How do you know you don't have it? > What do people have to do for your comfort? > Which people? > > " everyone " ... start somewhere. Who is the first that comes into your mind that doesn't give you ALL the approval you want from him? > The paper boy? > > any ideas on working on that one.. > Oh, sweetheart, soooooo many. > > > I need people to like me.. > > no > > no, but i want people to like me. > Leave away your " but " s. Imagine you would not know that word. It wouldn't exist in your vocabulary. > Define a time (e.g. " one hour " ) and don't use that word for that time. Notice every time you do use it, although you decided not to. Notice how you notice! Increase the length. > > > is that true. > > i thought it was true but really maybe if people dont like me > " maybe " could be the second word... ;-) > try to use " yes " and " no " . > See how that makes a difference. > > > i feel more comfortable.. i can keep my story. > right. and that works for you? > > > i can keep my identity as someone unliked.. and rejected. > > a role since i was very very young. > about time to let it go, ain't it? > It's not yours. > > > really i rejected myself and i see it reflected in people > > around me.. and i know its coming from my own rejection. > Yep, you know, and sometimes you forget. How good are you in realizing it's not true? > > > If people like me i usually think they wont someday or > > i imagine that they dont really like me.. > Right they just want something. Isn't that how it feels? > Good to know it's YOU who wants something from THEM, instead! > And that it's you who can change something about it! > > > i feel spaced in others business, not comfortable in a group > > i end up quitting most groups. > How do you like you are still in this one? > > > i wonder why i do that. > Instead of loosing time with the " why " , use the opportunity to explore the " what " . > > > Without the thought.. i love being alone.. and im so greatful > > im married and my husband is my best friend.. > > I prefer being alone > Great! You have what you prefer! > Always had it. Ain't that a relief? > > so why do i care. > who cares? > And I hear you don't. > > > TA.. I dont want people to like me.. > > 1, i prefer being alone. > > 2. i feel nervous that i will disappoint people > which you can't if no ones around! > > > 3. if they did it would ruin my story of being rejected. > that precious story... > Well, good luck! > Love, > > > > TA i dont want to like people > > 1 more true.. i tend to compare myself > > 2 i tend to be jealous > > 3 i want to impress people which is stressful. > > i prefer to be alone. > > > > TA i dont want to like myself > > been true forever > > i think i should be better.. an ego thing.. so i read self help > > constantly .. > > i read spiritual books but its really an ego thing to be better. > > > > i dont accept myself. > > im in ego and in the pain body / > > > > TA i do want to like people > > sometimes i do > > i have a few friends. > > > > Lesen Sie Ihre E-Mails jetzt einfach von unterwegs. > www.yahoo.de/go > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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