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[Guest guest]

, I think the whole group gave loads of great advice and love. I

especially enjoyed reading your post about the death of nada and how

it can bring such peace and healing this is like healing oil to the

soul. I also enjoyed reading Shana's post b/c I really feel much of

the same feelings as she does. I think what your sister was saying

was very cruel. I think Shana was hitting it on the head. I remember

when she said that about the " being selfish " also and I think she is

just speaking many foolish words. I agree a time out and away from

her may be a good idea. Anyways all my love and support and

blessings your way. Love Lizzy

> >

> > Unfortunately, I do not have siblings. The movie mommie deares

> hits very

> > close to home. Although my mother wasn't as crazy as the main

> character,

> > she had similar traits. Shejust laid into me today and I

realized

> how crazy

> > my life hads been for years. Years and years of emotional

abuse.

> I

> > actually laid into her today...I had brought up the memory of my

> mother

> > threatening to hit me. I said, as an 8 year old would, that is

> child abuse.

> > She then said, " if you want to see child abuse, I will throw

you

> down the

> > G.D. stairs and burn you with this cigarette. She didn't, but I

> was so

> > scared of her from that day on. She said today that I must have

> > misinterpreted her. All I could do was laugh. I laughed so

hard

> I cried.

> > How does one misinterpret that? She doesn't claim any

> responsibility or

> > conveniently doesn't remember things. It's distgusting. She

had

> come to my

> > house last week and begged for forgiveness for the things I

> THOUGHT she did.

> > Now, she claims she didn't do those things and I must have

been

> mistaken.

> > I ended up asking her to leave my house and when she didn't, I

> removed

> > myself. Her departing comment was something in the line of you

> are no

> > longer a part of my family...and it sounds like I've joined a

> cult. God

> > give me the strength. Leaning over her coffin sounds pretty

good

> right now.

> >

> > KW

> >

> > >From: " maryec73 " <maryec73@>

> > >Reply-To: WTOAdultChildren1

> > >To: WTOAdultChildren1

> > >Subject: " Mommie Dearest " /Over the edge

> > >Date: Sun, 29 Oct 2006 23:04:00 -0000

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > I watched " Mommie Dearest " today. I haven't seen it since I

was

> a

> > >small child and at that time it was over my head. I just

remember

> my

> > >sisters walking around refering to nada as mommie dearest.

> > >

> > > I did not think while watching this I was really effected by

it,

> > >till the very end when leaned over her mother coffin

and

> > >said she always loved her. Man, that so reminded my of nada's

> > >funeral.

> > >Shortly after that I talked to my sister and she hit all my

> trigger

> > >points. As I have posted in the past, my sister tries to mother

me

> > >and tell me how to live or what I should do. I lost it with her

> > >today.

> > >Emotional melt down. I feel so drained. We were going back and

> forth

> > >and I started losing it on her. I beleive the statement that I

do

> > >not have children and I do not know what a mothers love and

> concern

> > >is for her children. That is something nada always used to say

to

> > >me, and boom-OVER THE EGDE I WENT!!!!

> > >

> > > I started crying and laying into her, then she said to me,

are

> you

> > >talking to me or to our mother. I realized I was talking to my

> nada.

> > >Jan, does say and do some things like nada, even though her

> motives

> > >are pure and well intended, the results are the same. Jan

became

> the

> > >tranference of my angry and pain for my nada. Jan knows now not

to

> > >say those things to me, the pain is to real and close to the

> > >surface. I do believe she has issues of her own to deal with,

but

> > >that is her journey. My God, I was talking right to my nada

today

> > >and let it out on Janet. I think I maybe rambling, but it was so

> > >weird, but it needed to be let out.

> > >

> > >Any one else have this happen?

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

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