Re: The Ridiculous Things BP Parents Say

[Guest guest]

Amen!

My nada is on the warpath against " oppression " , meaning not getting her way

instantly.

After she spent a night in jail (the first time), she went on and on about how

oppressive it was. You couldn't do what you wanted to do and you are constantly

dominated by men (the deputies). She seemed very shocked by the whole

experience- but not vulnerable in any way of course. She swears that all the

inmates were misunderstood and oppressed by the police and that, like her, they

were framed.

I was confused at first, and then amused. I asked her what she expected jail

to be like. She couldn't wrap her mind around not being able to do whatever she

wanted. They were evil for limiting her freedom. Oppression...ha!

Adria

julieanngiles wrote:

My personal favorite is:

" I refuse to allow people to abuse me anymore... "

Of course this so-called " abuse " is simply any denial of her many selfish

whims...if

everyone doesn't drop EVERYTHING for her, well then they are abusing her.

>

> Whether to enlighten or make us laugh, I thought it would be

> entertaining to start a post of " ridiculous things our BP parent(s)

> have said. " Here is my contribution:

>

> " You only let us come over when it's convenient for you! "

>

Problems? Ask our friendly List Manager for help at @....

SEND HER ANY POSTS THAT CONCERN YOU; DO NOT Respond ON THE GROUP.

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Mother” (Lawson) and “Surviving the Borderline Parent,” (Roth) which you can

find at any bookstore. Welcome to the WTO community!

From Randi Kreger, Owner BPDCentral, WTO Online Community and author SWOE and

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[Guest guest]

Adria,

Wow, that is an interesting story about your mom being in jail and her

perspective of it. It's like she had no concept of what punishment is? = break

the law - go to prison = having your freedoms taken away. Thanks for sharing

that as it gave me a new perspective on how they don't get action and

consequences to the point of jail.

Greg.

Re: Re: The Ridiculous Things BP Parents Say

Amen!

My nada is on the warpath against " oppression " , meaning not getting her way

instantly.

After she spent a night in jail (the first time), she went on and on about how

oppressive it was. You couldn't do what you wanted to do and you are constantly

dominated by men (the deputies). She seemed very shocked by the whole

experience- but not vulnerable in any way of course. She swears that all the

inmates were misunderstood and oppressed by the police and that, like her, they

were framed.

I was confused at first, and then amused. I asked her what she expected jail to

be like. She couldn't wrap her mind around not being able to do whatever she

wanted. They were evil for limiting her freedom. Oppression.. .ha!

Adria

julieanngiles <julieanngiles@ yahoo.com> wrote:

My personal favorite is:

" I refuse to allow people to abuse me anymore... "

Of course this so-called " abuse " is simply any denial of her many selfish

whims...if

everyone doesn't drop EVERYTHING for her, well then they are abusing her.

>

> Whether to enlighten or make us laugh, I thought it would be

> entertaining to start a post of " ridiculous things our BP parent(s)

> have said. " Here is my contribution:

>

> " You only let us come over when it's convenient for you! "

>

Problems? Ask our friendly List Manager for help at BPDCentral (DOT) com.

SEND HER ANY POSTS THAT CONCERN YOU; DO NOT Respond ON THE GROUP.

To order the KO bible " Stop Walking on Eggshells, " call 888-35-SHELL

() for your copy. We also refer to “Understanding the Borderline

Mother” (Lawson) and “Surviving the Borderline Parent,” (Roth) which you can

find at any bookstore. Welcome to the WTO community!

From Randi Kreger, Owner BPDCentral, WTO Online Community and author SWOE and

the SWOE Workbook.

[Guest guest]

ROFL!!!!!!!!!

> > >

> > > Whether to enlighten or make us laugh, I thought it would be

> > > entertaining to start a post of " ridiculous things our BP parent

(s)

> > > have said. " Here is my contribution:

> > >

> > > " You only let us come over when it's convenient for you! "

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I have 3 favorites from my nada here they are in no particular order…

1 " You kicked me to the curb! "

2 " This is my last letter! " (she wrote this maybe 250 times)

3 " I gave birth to you! " Well now I owe her my life! And when she

gets really crazy she even tells her family she also gave birth to

my children to! WOW How does this work? Surprisingly they still

don't think she needs to be in an institute! LOL. These posts are

great and they keep lifting my spirits thanks for starting this and

thanks to all who have shared in this thread! Love Lizzy

> > > >

> > > > Whether to enlighten or make us laugh, I thought it would be

> > > > entertaining to start a post of " ridiculous things our BP

parent

> (s)

> > > > have said. " Here is my contribution:

> > > >

> > > > " You only let us come over when it's convenient for you! "

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

1. " I deserve some respect, I'm your mother "

2. " Can't you see that you are the most important person in the world to

me? "

3. " You are no longer part of my family "

4. " Why do you do things to hurt me? "

5. " Why can't we have a relationship like other mother's and daughters? "

AND MY PERSONAL FAVORITE..........

6. " Have you joined a cult? "

Enjoy !!

KW

>

>Reply-To: WTOAdultChildren1

>To: WTOAdultChildren1

>Subject: Re: The Ridiculous Things BP Parents Say

>Date: Thu, 02 Nov 2006 14:21:11 -0000

>

>I have 3 favorites from my nada here they are in no particular order…

>1 " You kicked me to the curb! "

>2 " This is my last letter! " (she wrote this maybe 250 times)

>3 " I gave birth to you! " Well now I owe her my life! And when she

>gets really crazy she even tells her family she also gave birth to

>my children to! WOW How does this work? Surprisingly they still

>don't think she needs to be in an institute! LOL. These posts are

>great and they keep lifting my spirits thanks for starting this and

>thanks to all who have shared in this thread! Love Lizzy

>

>

> > > > >

> > > > > Whether to enlighten or make us laugh, I thought it would be

> > > > > entertaining to start a post of " ridiculous things our BP

>parent

> > (s)

> > > > > have said. " Here is my contribution:

> > > > >

> > > > > " You only let us come over when it's convenient for you! "

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

>

>

>

>

>Problems? Ask our friendly List Manager for help at

>@.... SEND HER ANY POSTS THAT CONCERN YOU; DO NOT Respond ON

>THE GROUP.

>

>To order the KO bible " Stop Walking on Eggshells, " call 888-35-SHELL

>() for your copy. We also refer to “Understanding the

>Borderline Mother” (Lawson) and “Surviving the Borderline Parent,” (Roth)

>which you can find at any bookstore. Welcome to the WTO community!

>

>From Randi Kreger, Owner BPDCentral, WTO Online Community and author SWOE

>and the SWOE Workbook.

>

[Guest guest]

1. Pull yourself up by your own bootstraps.

2. Honor thy father and thy mother.

3. You always misunderstand me.

4. You don't need friends when you have family.

Liz

>

> 1. " I deserve some respect, I'm your mother "

> 2. " Can't you see that you are the most important person in the world to

> me? "

> 3. " You are no longer part of my family "

> 4. " Why do you do things to hurt me? "

> 5. " Why can't we have a relationship like other mother's and daughters? "

>

> AND MY PERSONAL FAVORITE..........

>

> 6. " Have you joined a cult? "

>

> Enjoy !!

> KW

>

[Guest guest]

LOL, that is funny and so is a's DH's comment about the punch!

But I thought about this for a moment b/c it made me recall a message that my

mom left on my voice mail. She said that the first radiation treatment in a town

an hour and twenty minutes away, was cancelled b/c of equipment problems. And

she used her famous line, " It broke (but also fill inthe blank, It was a success

b/c) I was scheduled for an appointment. Then I thought, my God, this women

thinks that she is that powerful that she can do that! I've had conversations

with her in the past before n/c about how that is illogical. But I thought of

me as a five year old listening to this over and over about the world and how

powerful my mother was to break things without even being there. As an adult, I

could laugh. As a child, I was amazed and scared out of my mind. Sometime what

seems to be so benign is really malignant.

a, thanks for starting this post.

Greg.

Re: The Ridiculous Things BP Parents Say

To: WTOAdultChildren1@ yahoogroups. com

> Ok. Here's one of my favorite nada stories.

>

> My nada was taking her nightly shower and washing her hair when

> the

> power went out. When she openned her eyes it was pitch black.

> She

> screamed, " Help, , help. I'm blind!!! "

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

KW I have heard the cult one also in fact that is one of the MANY

rumors going around my home town about me thanks to nada!

Sometimes I want to say yes I am in a cult just to trip her trigger!

Wouldn't that be funny! Lizzy

> > > > > >

> > > > > > Whether to enlighten or make us laugh, I thought it

would be

> > > > > > entertaining to start a post of " ridiculous things our BP

> >parent

> > > (s)

> > > > > > have said. " Here is my contribution:

> > > > > >

> > > > > > " You only let us come over when it's convenient for you! "

> > > > > >

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >Problems? Ask our friendly List Manager for help at

> >@... SEND HER ANY POSTS THAT CONCERN YOU; DO NOT Respond ON

> >THE GROUP.

> >

> >To order the KO bible " Stop Walking on Eggshells, " call 888-35-

SHELL

> >() for your copy. We also refer to " Understanding the

> >Borderline Mother " (Lawson) and " Surviving the Borderline

Parent, " (Roth)

> >which you can find at any bookstore. Welcome to the WTO community!

> >

> >From Randi Kreger, Owner BPDCentral, WTO Online Community and

author SWOE

> >and the SWOE Workbook.

> >

[Guest guest]

My nada always uses the Honor your mother to but another one is " I

thought I raised you tuff! " I think we all can figure that on out!

That is a big joke right there! Lizzy

> >

> > 1. " I deserve some respect, I'm your mother "

> > 2. " Can't you see that you are the most important person in the

world to

> > me? "

> > 3. " You are no longer part of my family "

> > 4. " Why do you do things to hurt me? "

> > 5. " Why can't we have a relationship like other mother's and

daughters? "

> >

> > AND MY PERSONAL FAVORITE..........

> >

> > 6. " Have you joined a cult? "

> >

> > Enjoy !!

> > KW

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Dear Greg,

One of your posts on another thread reminded me of another nada-ism--one she

used when trying to get me to correct the error of my ways.

*An unexamined life is not worth living*.

How rich!

Liz

11/2/06, G wrote:

>

> LOL, that is funny and so is a's DH's comment about the punch!

>

> But I thought about this for a moment b/c it made me recall a message that

> my mom left on my voice mail. She said that the first radiation treatment in

> a town an hour and twenty minutes away, was cancelled b/c of equipment

> problems. And she used her famous line, " It broke (but also fill inthe

> blank, It was a success b/c) I was scheduled for an appointment. Then I

> thought, my God, this women thinks that she is that powerful that she can do

> that! I've had conversations with her in the past before n/c about how that

> is illogical. But I thought of me as a five year old listening to this over

> and over about the world and how powerful my mother was to break things

> without even being there. As an adult, I could laugh. As a child, I was

> amazed and scared out of my mind. Sometime what seems to be so benign is

> really malignant.

>

> a, thanks for starting this post.

>

> Greg.

>

[Guest guest]

Lizzy,

Mine always said you could say a lot about her, but you had to admit

she raised 'nice' children! But 'nice' in her vocabulary means

'obedient'. Sort of like 'obedient' to the poodle-owner means 'good

dog'. ;o)

Liz

>

> My nada always uses the Honor your mother to but another one is " I

> thought I raised you tuff! " I think we all can figure that on out!

> That is a big joke right there! Lizzy

[Guest guest]

a, that's funny but also really scary!

>

> Ok. Here's one of my favorite nada stories.

>

> My nada was taking her nightly shower and washing her hair when the

> power went out. When she openned her eyes it was pitch black. She

> screamed, " Help, , help. I'm blind!!! "

>

[Guest guest]

Oh! Lizzy, that reminds me of 2 more: " You think you're at the

center of the universe! " --anytime I express a will or a need. and

" That's not how I raised you! " --anytime I express an opinion. Duh!

Can you raise your children to have a certain political outlook or to

be as racist and homophobic as you? I didn't realize that was

brainwashable.

Trish

> > >

> > > 1. " I deserve some respect, I'm your mother "

> > > 2. " Can't you see that you are the most important person in the

> world to

> > > me? "

> > > 3. " You are no longer part of my family "

> > > 4. " Why do you do things to hurt me? "

> > > 5. " Why can't we have a relationship like other mother's and

> daughters? "

> > >

> > > AND MY PERSONAL FAVORITE..........

> > >

> > > 6. " Have you joined a cult? "

> > >

> > > Enjoy !!

> > > KW

> > >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Trish, I can understand that and I like your reply to that my reply

is no reply but if I did reply I would use yours!!! For me and my

nada she just sends stupid emails to me or dh non of which have ever

been responded to in over 4 years so I am not sure why she feels

compelled to write and " tell me what she wasnt going to tell me " . I

am not sure what she even thinks changed like for example I never

have done any thing differently or given her any signals to even

imply that I care so why are you telling me? Like, I wasn't going to

tell you but if you don't blabla than I am taking you to court for

blabla or I wasn't going to tell you because I didn't think you

would care any ways but I almost died this weekend. Just really

really stupid things. Some times she sits on info to try and make me

look bad like when grandnada had cancer she didn't tell me until

months after it was all over so then when I found out I looked

really bad and uncaring. I did call grandnada (despite the fact I

had been n/c for 4 years with her also) and I gave her my sympathies

this was over the summer. The conversation went horribly and I

decided that even if she dies I won't let my self lose too much

sleep over it. I probably won't even go to the funeral because she

was so cruel to me over and over these last years I can't do that to

myself. I am sick of the whole foo. I am sick of it all I want them

to go away. To be honest I hate any line that spews out of her mouth

but I have to laugh sometimes it pulls me through! Love Lizzy

> > > > > >

> > > > > > 1. " I deserve some respect, I'm your mother "

> > > > > > 2. " Can't you see that you are the most important

person in

> > the

> > > > world to

> > > > > > me? "

> > > > > > 3. " You are no longer part of my family "

> > > > > > 4. " Why do you do things to hurt me? "

> > > > > > 5. " Why can't we have a relationship like other

mother's

> > and

> > > > daughters? "

> > > > > >

> > > > > > AND MY PERSONAL FAVORITE..........

> > > > > >

> > > > > > 6. " Have you joined a cult? "

> > > > > >

> > > > > > Enjoy !!

> > > > > > KW

> > > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >