Re: babysitting to Kathy

[Guest guest]

What a dilemma! Kath, you're torn between the reality of your pain and the love

of that baby (and rightly so)...but I am sure your son or daughter will

understand...you will probably feel worse about having to tell them than they

will hearing it...after all, they are young (as we all were at one time...well,

truth is, I still can't figure out how my young self got trapped in this old

body.) Surely your family knows how you've suffered...and something tells me

that you either volunteered for the job and/or you didn't speak up when they

asked: " Mom, are you sure you are up to this " ?

Warm hugs,

Midge (a new girl)

[Guest guest]

Kathy !! I 'm a normally lurking member , but boy I can so relate

to your delima. See my daughter gave me the wonderful gift of

wanting me to move in with her and her family , to watch her

children. A 6 yr old and a new one , Asley is now 6 months old.

So I excitedly moved from Palm Springs to San Francisco..I've been very happy

here, but I'm like you and suffer from a leg problem ..(

mine is my right ankle and knee from a work injury in 1999)

It's getting increasingly hard to carry my granddaughter and to keep up with all

of the things that need to be done. My daughter keeps on

telling me..Not to do this and not to do that ..But it's hard to

just sit back and not help with the laundry and cleaning.

I'm also

having a hard time finding a Pain Management Dr. the one I had in

the desert was soo wonderful and caring ...but unfortunatley had me

almost to the point of a nerval stimulator before my move.

So I'm on

a huge dosages of Oxycontin and Roxicodone and I'm afraid that the

Dr's here will take one look at me and my list of meds and say " Oh

my God " ..but back to the subject...I'm really torn about

staying on here. Will I be able to keep it up ?? I don't know ?? and

if I can't it will break my heart.

But still my daughter is constanly checking to see how I'm doing, and has mainly

been working nights so that has been easier , and her husband is very

supportive. I sure understand ...but when you are hurting it's real hard to be

a good Grandma. and I sure know that.

Just be honest to the parents, that's best..

DesertSkys