Guest guest Posted March 24, 2004 Report Share Posted March 24, 2004 Well, As a mother of one formerly potentially noisy boy, with those social tendencies that we all cannot fathom...I still take your side in this issue. I would feel the same way in your situation. I don't dare say what went through my mind about what I would like to do to a kid with the audacity to knock like that and then try the door. It's pretty violent. I wouldn't do it really, but it still went through my mind. It's like they are cutting a wound open and then rubbing salt in it. I sure hope May gets here quickly and that you can get yourself a nice little house with lots of quiet. I'd love to have a house. The thing that makes me go really ballistic is loud music. Makes me crazy. I have noticed that lots of kids don't get the concept of private property. I had a neighbor with a strange kid...could have been on the spectrum, I suppose...who just walked in our apartment. I scolded him, you can imagine. About kids knocking though, I'm sure you won't appreciate this, exactly, but kids in my " church " all understand the need to knock on a door and waiting until someone answers, and then going away quietly... they get it modelled for them from infancy. :-) I do understand what you said about feeling invaded by *anyone* knocking unexpectedly, by the way. I think what's worse is that my mom used to walk in my apartment without knocking. I really got mad at her for that. Camille > > > I'm sorry about the torture by the kids. Sounds hideous. any chance > > you can move soon? > > In late May, my father retires. I will get half of his Social Security > retirement (my half will be a shade over $800). Under the USDA Rural > Development program, that will qualify me for a mortgage for a house of > up to $42,000. Right now, there are two houses in Casa Grande, AZ > (about 50 miles north of here) that are less than that. I do not expect > those specific ones to be available then (although I can certainly > hope), but hopefully others will. I'll definitely be looking to get one > in that area. > As soon as the stressor is removed, I > calm pretty quickly, although the effects of the sensory load don't go > away quite that quickly. The irony is that my emotional response is a > lot like that of the children that annoy me so... intense while it > happens, but pretty ephemeral. I get really upset over minor things, > but it passes quickly, just as I can get very happy about minor things. > Flipping through the TV channels and seeing a favorite TV show coming on > is joyous, in a way that I presume most people would not understand. I was in the university bookstore today and stopped to look at a huge Mac monitor. Next to it there were these adorable little clear acrylic speakers. The speaker part was shiny metal instead of paper and the whole thing was amazingly cool looking. I had to touch the moving part of the speaker and feel the vibration, then I realized that I might damage it ?? So I put my fingers on the case of the speaker to feel the vibration. I could have done that for a half hour. I made myself stop. I almost bought those speakers. Very cool. Why can't they go home and perseverate on > something? That's what I want to know! To me, extended social contact is a chore, and the last > thing I want to do when so loaded is to engage in activities that mean I > have to endure noise. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2004 Report Share Posted March 24, 2004 wrote: >> And I have no choice but to live around these things, because it >> is illegal for an apartment to discriminate on the basis of >> family status. and Clay responded: >I'm lucky in that, because No kids live here, only seniors 50+ >and the handicapped. It's not kids who make the most noise where I live, it's the " young adults " (in their 20s and 30s). There isn't much noise other than traffic (and sirens) in the colder parts of the year. When the weather warms, however, the " young adults " tend to have parties. They either hang around outside their houses with loud music playing, or they crank up their car stereos and blast the music at the world while they sit at the stop light near my bedroom window. Loud laughter and hollering back and forth to one another tend to peak as the party breaks up (i.e., in the early hours of the morning, when I want to be sleeping). I do have a couple of younger (pre-teen) kids living near me now for the first time in a decade. Haven't had a chance to tell whether they're going to be noisy. I mostly can ignore outside noises until I open my windows. Jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 25, 2004 Report Share Posted March 25, 2004 > > Have you tried modifying " earbud " headphones so they use earplugs, thus both giving you sound (television, mp3s, whatever) *and* blocking out the brats? > I have used the following very successfully under varying conditions. I wear earplugs and then put walkman-style open-air headphones over them. Such a combination serves several purposes: (1) Earplugs muffle the ambient noise (e.g. traffic, grocery store, etc.), (2) You can add music to sooth yourself, (3) You can turn down the music when you need to talk to someone and (4) When you do (3), you are not as badly overwhelmed by the ambient noise. It works for me pretty good! Thanks, Jim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 25, 2004 Report Share Posted March 25, 2004 hey frank... a year or so ago, I say a pair of headphones on the Dr Phil show, that were completey soudn blocking... maybe something like that with the earbuds inside for music or a book on tape, might be a solution for when those kids really get you down. and hey at least your not like me... I have days where I get pissed off at the racket outside my window, but usually my kid is the loudest lol, so I can't say a thing, and i can't use earplugs because I need to be available. (never mind the fact that he doesn't have a volume control on his speaking voice) somedays all I can do is crank up john mayer and dance in the LIVing romm until the kid comes in and tell me to " turn it down mom it's too loud.. " serves them right the little buggers..... dani starfleet7777 wrote: > > > >>Have you tried modifying " earbud " headphones so they use earplugs, >> >> >thus both giving you sound (television, mp3s, whatever) *and* blocking >out the brats? > > >I have used the following very successfully under varying conditions. >I wear earplugs and then put walkman-style open-air headphones over >them. Such a combination serves several purposes: (1) Earplugs muffle >the ambient noise (e.g. traffic, grocery store, etc.), (2) You can add >music to sooth yourself, (3) You can turn down the music when you need >to talk to someone and (4) When you do (3), you are not as badly >overwhelmed by the ambient noise. It works for me pretty good! > >Thanks, Jim > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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