nada letter: feedback PLEASE!

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Hi all,

Well, I am back from my extended visit in Oz (14 days...never again).

I wanted to thank you, , for saying that you love yourself for being a

KO...something about that resonated with me and i feel better about myself just

having read that thought you had...thanks!

weird things have been happening lately...i have met two people where I work

who have mothers similar to mine...it has been great gathering support from face

to face conversations (although i do experience a freedom on this site because I

am not emeshed with any of you posters...)

So I wanted to run this by all of you...on the last day of my visit (after not

giving my nada what she wanted: consoling, affirmation that she is pure holy

goodness, affirmation that my father is satan himself, reames of attention...etc

& etc..you all know what i mean i am sure...) she gives me a note with this

written on it...starting with a quote from mitch albom who just wrote a book

about a boy who gets to spend one more day with his dead mother (or at least

this is what my nada tells me the book is about...it may not be at all..)

" I believe that parents, if they love you, will hold you up softly, above

their swirling waters, and sometimes that means you'll never know what they

endured (at this point she inturrupts the quote with an arrow leading to a

bracketed sentance (i tried to, to the best of my ability)), and you may treat

them unkindly, in a way you otherwise wouldn't. But there is a story behind

everything. How a picture got on a wall. How a scar got on your face. Sometimes

the stories are simple and sometimes they are hard and heart breaking. But

behind all your stories is always your mother's story, because hers is where

yours begins " (and then she adds in her own words...) I would like to make

things right again with those I love - however, i am met with closed doors - my

heart is broken - i dont want to waste alot of time - know i love you - Mom

So my question is...what would your reaction be to getting something like this

from your Nada...as i re read it i see how pathetic and sad i feel ... but also

how i know i have to protect myself...any thoughts or feelings or comments would

be great...

take great care of yourselves and thank you for reading this...

laurel ecmc

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