Guest guest Posted June 30, 2004 Report Share Posted June 30, 2004 http://tinyurl.com/38y5u ~ This theory sure works for me! I think we all might explain this to those who are bothered by our gaze aversion. It might help folks overcome their uneasiness as we avert eyes or fight to keep eye contact as our natural impulse is to avert. I do spend a LOT of energy jerking my eyes back to make contact! <g> It clearly uses energy I might better use elsewhere. If I am able to explain that I am processing better with eyes averted or shut, it may well eliminate some friction that I've noticed in people I work with over the years. Definitely will save me some wasted energy in battling my natural impulse to avert! Thanks to Kathleen for this item! <vbg> -Zer -=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=- > Shifty Eyed Children: A shifty-eyed child is a little bit smarter than the rest. A new study shows that children who avert their gaze while adults are speaking to them may in fact be concentrating on taking in the facts rather than being distracted by someone's face. > http://www.broughtonhall.com/Leading_Edge/internal/shiftyeyedc hildren.htm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 2, 2004 Report Share Posted July 2, 2004 > Zer wrote: > >...If I am able to explain that I am processing better > >with eyes averted or shut, it may well eliminate some friction that > >I've noticed in people I work with over the years. Definitely will > >save me some wasted energy in battling my natural impulse to > >avert! However you will spend much more energy trying to convince people of this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 3, 2004 Report Share Posted July 3, 2004 Time? Just to express that I have difficulty processing info if I look into a person's eyes? I don't think that takes long to say. Better than having people think to themselves that I'm being evasive and dishonest or even flirting with them. All that can keep a person from hearing the words that I'm saying. Fretting about what the Other is thinking might even interfere with my own communication. I think I'll just offer the gaze-aversion info early on in any exchange, as I emphasize my interest in giving good attention to the subject at hand. Processing info is a good way to put this, as the world is more and more aware of computer lingo and how processing is a euphemism for thinking. I think this can work for me. I now offer info on Asperger's to people I meet, making it clear that this is a new field for me and I'm just starting to learn. That keeps me from having to elaborate. Anyone can do their own research, should they wish to know more. So far, I hit more denial. People do not want to think that a friend is at all autistic. Most of my friends tell me that EVERYONE has hurdles in life, blah blah blah. I nod my head and proceed with whatever our biz is, letting them own their denial. It's theirs. My own vast RELIEF is my personal delight. Yay for me! -Zer(SoCal Aspy who does not feel quite the burden to 'convince' folks as I used to feel; that burden's a bit much to carry on my new Aspy adventure) > > >...If I am able to explain that I am processing better with eyes averted or shut, it may well eliminate some friction that I've noticed in people I work with over the years. Definitely will save me some wasted energy in battling my natural impulse to avert! > > However you will spend much more energy trying to convince people of this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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