Re: Co-Owner poses question for group

[Guest guest]

My answer is NO.

I think others would have been leaving, myself included. The

discussions were getting out of hand and were making me uncomfortable

and very worried about some. I strongly believe in God. I have so-so

views on politics, and I have mixed feelings about suicide. I feel

that your rules posted for the group were more than fair and

definitely welcome.

I think you will get a lot of answers similar to mine.

Keep up the good (but difficult) work.

((((Hugs)))))

a

> Hello all... New and Old.

>

> Now I've come to notice that I've ruffled a few feathers over the

> last few days. And I've come to the grand conclusion that several

> members have left due to that fact.

>

> Now I pose this question.

>

> Had I not in acted several rules which by my means I didnt find to

be

> harsh or out of hand had I left those out of my discussions and

just

> let the group run as it has been, letting little fights explode

into

> big ones would I still have the same members leaving?

>

> I answer that as a no. I know that sometimes rules are unwanted but

> sometimes minor rules are needed for structure.

>

> Please understand this is a support group. And support is what we

do

> best around here. Giving each other a shoulder to cry on, A friend

> that understands our pain,depression and other issues. Someone that

> will listen to us and understand.

>

> Now I understand this whole heartedly myself and am one to come

> forward when my days been bad or have had the worst pain ever.

>

> Thanks for listening

>

> Vicki/ Co-Owner

[Guest guest]

Thank You a. (( Hugs )) I thank you for you kind words of

support.

Love and Prayers

Vicki

> > Hello all... New and Old.

> >

> > Now I've come to notice that I've ruffled a few feathers over the

> > last few days. And I've come to the grand conclusion that several

> > members have left due to that fact.

> >

> > Now I pose this question.

> >

> > Had I not in acted several rules which by my means I didnt find

to

> be

> > harsh or out of hand had I left those out of my discussions and

> just

> > let the group run as it has been, letting little fights explode

> into

> > big ones would I still have the same members leaving?

> >

> > I answer that as a no. I know that sometimes rules are unwanted

but

> > sometimes minor rules are needed for structure.

> >

> > Please understand this is a support group. And support is what we

> do

> > best around here. Giving each other a shoulder to cry on, A

friend

> > that understands our pain,depression and other issues. Someone

that

> > will listen to us and understand.

> >

> > Now I understand this whole heartedly myself and am one to come

> > forward when my days been bad or have had the worst pain ever.

> >

> > Thanks for listening

> >

> > Vicki/ Co-Owner

[Guest guest]

Always remember Dash, that even if things cant be discussed on the

group. Sometimes a one on one setting is best. If you feel the need

to talk to someone please feel free at any time to reach out. There

are many of us that are willing to talk

Vicki

> It must be hard to run a group. I know that when something

negative begins it is hard to stop. I have always tried to " fix " the

problem or avoid it. In this case, I for one felt very helpless,

and concerned for the one person. I don't know what is right or

wrong as for what can be discussed on list. I have not posted about

it til now, remaining quiet as not to add to the trouble on list.

>

> The depths of despair that someone sinks into is incredible and it

hurts my heart. To have no answers is so in itself depressing. To

outlaw people to express their despair .... perhaps someone (not me)

should have a support group for that discussion... but that is

probably a fancy fantasy of mine...

>

> No easy answers. ((((((((hugs)))))))))) dash

> Co-Owner poses question for

group

>

>

> Hello all... New and Old.

>

> Now I've come to notice that I've ruffled a few feathers over the

> last few days. And I've come to the grand conclusion that several

> members have left due to that fact.

>

> Now I pose this question.

>

> Had I not in acted several rules which by my means I didnt find

to be

> harsh or out of hand had I left those out of my discussions and

just

> let the group run as it has been, letting little fights explode

into

> big ones would I still have the same members leaving?

>

> I answer that as a no. I know that sometimes rules are unwanted

but

> sometimes minor rules are needed for structure.

>

> Please understand this is a support group. And support is what we

do

> best around here. Giving each other a shoulder to cry on, A

friend

> that understands our pain,depression and other issues. Someone

that

> will listen to us and understand.

>

> Now I understand this whole heartedly myself and am one to come

> forward when my days been bad or have had the worst pain ever.

>

> Thanks for listening

>

> Vicki/ Co-Owner

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

dear roberta,

i agree w/you but in a totally different way. my religion isn't

christian (no i'm not a satan worshiper, just not christian), but i

still believe in god. but, my religion is my business and so are my

political views. this is a discussion board for fibro, not who i

vote for or how i pray to god! the suicide comments should have been

directed to a suicide hotline. what if it were discussed wrong and

somebody ended up taking their life? we would feel responsible and

it's not our place b/c we aren't trained suicide councelors. i

understand what the person was going thru. but nobody here could

really help her. i just hope thru other channels, like a suicide

hotline, her pcychotherapist or shrink to avoid having to do take

her own life. but, if a person has to, most times they will no

matter what anybody says.

so i agree w/you and vicki!

nancy in reno

> My answer is NO.

> I think others would have been leaving, myself included. The

> discussions were getting out of hand and were making me

uncomfortable

> and very worried about some. I strongly believe in God. I have so-

so

> views on politics, and I have mixed feelings about suicide. I feel

> that your rules posted for the group were more than fair and

> definitely welcome.

> I think you will get a lot of answers similar to mine.

> Keep up the good (but difficult) work.

> ((((Hugs)))))

> a

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