BFL Mentoring & Motivating

[Guest guest]

,

Hi. I'm a BFL'er of about 3 years.

Like yourself (except to some much further extremes), I have had a weight

management problem all my life. I had tried and failed at continual diets

and fad programs all my life, resulting in a net larger and larger me.

When I started BFL, I was carrying in excess of 180 pounds of excess fat,

had minimal muscle, was in relatively very poor health, and was ~ 2x your

age. I was thinking that surgery may be my only option. Fortunately, that

was not the case.

I won't say I am in my ideal condition as I have bobbled up and down as much

as 45 pounds from my recent 30 year sustained low weight, but, overall, I

feel like I am in better shape than when I was wrestling and weight lifting

in high school.

As for your personal claims of being unmotivated and undisciplined...

At your earliest convenience, be sure to take some personal, very revealing,

naked truth photos of yourself: revealing & naked not in a perverted sense,

but in a way that does NOT have you covering up or shifting your extra

cushioning from the view of the camera.

Reviewing these pictures can be VERY motivating as a practice alone. You

don't need to share these photos, but, if you do, you will find that even

more incentive to press even further and harder ahead.

You will also need to look deep inside for your " why " . What is your reason

for wanting to make this change? The reason MUST be yours and yours alone.

It can NOT be anyone else's reason and (I feel) this reason must make you a

better person.

If you can get started and stick with the program for the initial 4 weeks,

the metamorphosis that takes place in your appearance, energy, attitude,

spirit, and life in general will turn into additional motivation for you.

You will have friends AND strangers that only see you in passing start

making comments about how good you look and these goodwill gestures can be

banked and saved for the eventual plateaus.

The good nutrition and fitness behaviors you learn get further refined and

become part of your life. BFL becomes your lifestyle. You will you're your

day around exercises, you will plan your meals, and you will plan and look

forward to the special events to use your " free days " .

As a result, you will be stronger, more energetic, and healthier (though you

may not really appreciate the health until you are in your 40's or 50's).

You will suddenly gain the willpower needed to control your own destiny.

You will display more leadership and will begin to stand out more so from

amongst your peers. You will be bubbling with your own enthusiasm and will

want to share your experience and your excitement with the world.

This is not to say you will not have personal challenges, family or work

life crises, or other events that come from no-where and can knock you down

off your feet. This simply means that you will be better positioned to

accept, recover from, and adapt to life's chaos.

And a closing comment, that anyone and everyone on this board has heard me

say repeatedly and has become my personal life's mantra: Remember...

Progress, not perfection! We are human and are certainly not perfect in

what we set out to do. When we have the minor setback; the unexpected over

eating, the occasional alcoholic beverage, or the eventual missed day of

exercise, learn from the mistake and get right back on track. Don't use the

minor speed bump, or even a major pot hole as an excuse to lose sight of

your " why " .

I wish you success as you move forward to enjoy your new lifestyle. We'll

all be looking forward to your progress reports and pictures.

... You can do it! We can help.

Cordially yours,

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Holowko, CPA, CCP

PO Box 444

Lafayette Hill, PA 19444-0444

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Telephone:

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E-mailto:gholowko@...

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Remember... Progress, NOT perfection!

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[Guest guest]

,

Thanks for your encouraging and motivating words.

Janna

>

> ,

>

> Hi. I'm a BFL'er of about 3 years.

>

> Like yourself (except to some much further extremes), I have had a

weight

> management problem all my life. I had tried and failed at

continual diets

> and fad programs all my life, resulting in a net larger and larger

me.

>

> When I started BFL, I was carrying in excess of 180 pounds of

excess fat,

> had minimal muscle, was in relatively very poor health, and was ~

2x your

> age. I was thinking that surgery may be my only option.

Fortunately, that

> was not the case.

>

> I won't say I am in my ideal condition as I have bobbled up and

down as much

> as 45 pounds from my recent 30 year sustained low weight, but,

overall, I

> feel like I am in better shape than when I was wrestling and

weight lifting

> in high school.

>

> As for your personal claims of being unmotivated and

undisciplined...

> At your earliest convenience, be sure to take some personal, very

revealing,

> naked truth photos of yourself: revealing & naked not in a

perverted sense,

> but in a way that does NOT have you covering up or shifting your

extra

> cushioning from the view of the camera.

>

> Reviewing these pictures can be VERY motivating as a practice

alone. You

> don't need to share these photos, but, if you do, you will find

that even

> more incentive to press even further and harder ahead.

>

> You will also need to look deep inside for your " why " . What is

your reason

> for wanting to make this change? The reason MUST be yours and

yours alone.

> It can NOT be anyone else's reason and (I feel) this reason must

make you a

> better person.

>

> If you can get started and stick with the program for the initial

4 weeks,

> the metamorphosis that takes place in your appearance, energy,

attitude,

> spirit, and life in general will turn into additional motivation

for you.

> You will have friends AND strangers that only see you in passing

start

> making comments about how good you look and these goodwill

gestures can be

> banked and saved for the eventual plateaus.

>

> The good nutrition and fitness behaviors you learn get further

refined and

> become part of your life. BFL becomes your lifestyle. You will

you're your

> day around exercises, you will plan your meals, and you will plan

and look

> forward to the special events to use your " free days " .

>

> As a result, you will be stronger, more energetic, and healthier

(though you

> may not really appreciate the health until you are in your 40's or

50's).

> You will suddenly gain the willpower needed to control your own

destiny.

>

> You will display more leadership and will begin to stand out more

so from

> amongst your peers. You will be bubbling with your own enthusiasm

and will

> want to share your experience and your excitement with the world.

>

> This is not to say you will not have personal challenges, family

or work

> life crises, or other events that come from no-where and can knock

you down

> off your feet. This simply means that you will be better

positioned to

> accept, recover from, and adapt to life's chaos.

>

> And a closing comment, that anyone and everyone on this board has

heard me

> say repeatedly and has become my personal life's mantra:

Remember...

> Progress, not perfection! We are human and are certainly not

perfect in

> what we set out to do. When we have the minor setback; the

unexpected over

> eating, the occasional alcoholic beverage, or the eventual missed

day of

> exercise, learn from the mistake and get right back on track.

Don't use the

> minor speed bump, or even a major pot hole as an excuse to lose

sight of

> your " why " .

>

> I wish you success as you move forward to enjoy your new

lifestyle. We'll

> all be looking forward to your progress reports and pictures.

>

> ... You can do it! We can help.

>

> Cordially yours,

>

>

>

>

>

> - - - - -

> Holowko, CPA, CCP

> PO Box 444

> Lafayette Hill, PA 19444-0444

> - - - - -

> Telephone:

> - - - - -

> E-mailto:gholowko@...

> - - - - -

> Remember... Progress, NOT perfection!

> - - - - -

>

[Guest guest]

,

May I say that reading your post has helped to inspire and motivate me

even more. I was a BFLer until I allowed life to take over and I

forogot about myself again. Well, no more. I am putting ME first. I

have no children, no husband..how on earth did I put others before

myself...lol. Anyway, you are correct about the first 4 weeks. The

way you " morph " is amazing...

Thanks for the words (I know they were meant for but..they are

helping me also.)

Sincerely,

Bobbie Jo (aka Jo)