Guest guest Posted September 28, 2005 Report Share Posted September 28, 2005 Thanks . So glad to see you posting again. And Congrats on your newest blessing! Tristajerry plows wrote: Trista, Perfectly put Trista wrote: lynn, I for one am not offended. I think I know where you are coming from. I sincerely believe that difficult things come into everyones lives at some point. We may not like it or understand it, but it brings us growth and teaches us lessons we may not have otherwise learned. My 2 oldest boys have Autism. It has been hard and I have grieved over it. But, I would not wish them to be anyone other than themselves. I would not wish them cured. That would change who they are. Their disability has taught me so much and helped me find love and made our family whole. I was a single mother and met my sweet husband, who fell in love with me and my boys. No one would ever guess that they aren't his flesh and blood. That has created a bond so great between us all. To find someone who was so selfless to take on a single mom with 2 special needs kids is not an easy thing. I am blessed. I am ill, but I am blessed. I no longer have to parent alone, and now I don't have to go through this illness alone. If I wasn't ill, I wouldn't need to depend on him as much. I used to be very prideful and hated to need anyones help. Now I see that I am not a burden. We do for eachother out of love and caring. I have become a better person, because of all the hardships I've had in my life. lynn, you can turn MS into a blessing in your life. You are an inspiration to others when you encourage them, when they think you should feel defeated. You decide what your life is like. I appreciate you. Trista Lynn wrote: Dear Group, I do not want to offend anyone but I do feel the need to share this. I have been thinking about my mom since my last post. She was saying that it was her fault I had MS and that she had been praying and had ask her church to pray with her for God to heal me of my MS and that I should be praying for that too. To this I said "Yes, I know God can heal because He has healed me before. But NO I will not pray for a healing of MS because I feel God allowed me to get MS for a reason." I still feel this way. I do not know why I feel so compelled to share this but I will not question that feeling. I hope this is of some comfort to someone here. Happiness and Butterflies Lynn your Mom, Sister, Aunt, Gramma or Friend Live each day as if it is a memory in the making. Take care always, Trista "Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved." - Helen Keller Yahoo! for GoodClick here to donate to the Hurricane Katrina relief effort. Yahoo! for GoodClick here to donate to the Hurricane Katrina relief effort. Take care always, Trista "Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved." - Helen Keller Yahoo! for Good Click here to donate to the Hurricane Katrina relief effort. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 28, 2005 Report Share Posted September 28, 2005 I said I wasn't going to do this but I have to because reading this is dredging up some very old issues of mine. I was my mothers firstborn, and the firstborn grandchild on both sides. I was the child of two parents that were never home and essentially I was raised my grandpa and aunts on my mom's side and my grandparents on my dads side. My father was an alcoholic who was only sober long enough to go buy his beer for the day and my mother spent her days in her bedroom on the bed crying over the unhappiness and misery in her life. My sisters came along, 3 years later for one and almost 11 years later for the other and suddenly the "perfect" family was born. The problem was ME, I was not cute, pretty, think, dainty, or any of the other qualities that would have endeared me to anyone's heart. Picture if you will an dancing elephant, that was me. I was shuffled from house to house and told that I should prepare myself to be a teacher or nurse because no man would ever want something like me. My father dressed me in clothes much to old for an adolescent, my mother dyed my hair colors never seen on an 11 year old all in attempt to make my appearance more palatable to them. As I got older, things improved to the point where I was no longer referred to as "Hey" or "Here girl" or any combinaton of mine and my sisters names. I knew that I was never going to amount to anything in life and really didn't know why I kept struggling through it. I was unhappy, sad, and desperate for change. My parents were growing apart, they had interests elsewhere and the children were not part of those interests. At 16 I left home with the determination that I would prove them all wrong. I finished high school on my own, got a scholarship to Syracuse University where I got my degree and graduated with a 3.8GPA. I got a job and met a man I fell in love with, married, and started a family. I am the one tho that was going to amount to nothing. The truth is I am the only one with a husband, with a home, with the means to support myself, with children that love and cherish me, and with an attitude that belies my upbringing. I was the one that was supposed to be unhappy and that craved attention. Its sad that I am the happy one and I get the only attention I need from my husband and children. I may have been the fat ugly child but I am now the beautiful grown woman that has made a success out of her life. For that I am proud. Akiba wrote: Yeah, she actualy believes herself perfect, and she can do no wrong, and EVERYTHING that went wrong in her life (even stuff from before I was born) is MY fault..and where would she be if I hadn't messed her life up so? What about the things she did to me? The lies? The utter betrayal? I suppose I *made* her do it? OF course...She is perfect, I am nothing but flawed...guess her superior genetics didn't rub off on me (Thank God!!!) Anywhoo...she is well out of my life and that's where she will remain. I do not need that aggravation, nor does my family need that massive negative drain. Hugz!~*~Akiba~*~ Re: MY MOTHER hopefully her "superior genes" would be my child's saving grace. ***Um, that sounds just a tad bit like Hitler's eugenics theory - about there being a *master race*. Didn't work then, doesn't work now, sorry your mom is that ridiculous~ Amy No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG Anti-Virus.Version: 7.0.344 / Virus Database: 267.11.6/111 - Release Date: 9/23/2005 Yahoo! for Good Click here to donate to the Hurricane Katrina relief effort. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 29, 2005 Report Share Posted September 29, 2005 Ya know , the longer I know you the more almost surreal things seem. So many of our experiences are SO similar yet we are so different! BTW Yesterday was my perfecy, flawless mater's 80th birthday. I think. The family didn't bother to inform me of my older sister's passing last November, so they probably will take some psychotic glee in not telling me when she passes either. And, like you, though I was the fat, unwanted kiddo I am also the only one who is married and the only one to have children. And the only fiscally secure one, my other sister now lives with mother and off mother's SBP. The big diff there is I am the youngest of the three (all girls, I went through SO much of my life being told I was the "last blast" for a boy and that father resented me for being not only female, but female with Attitude!) Hugz!~*~Akiba~*~ Re: MY MOTHER hopefully her "superior genes" would be my child's saving grace. ***Um, that sounds just a tad bit like Hitler's eugenics theory - about there being a *master race*. Didn't work then, doesn't work now, sorry your mom is that ridiculous~ Amy No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG Anti-Virus.Version: 7.0.344 / Virus Database: 267.11.6/111 - Release Date: 9/23/2005 Yahoo! for GoodClick here to donate to the Hurricane Katrina relief effort. No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG Anti-Virus.Version: 7.0.344 / Virus Database: 267.11.7/112 - Release Date: 9/26/2005 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 29, 2005 Report Share Posted September 29, 2005 My mom had her 54th birthday on September 11th. I find some of the things that went on when I was a kid laughable now. I have to laugh really or I would spend the rest of my life lamenting the lost years. At least I can take comfort in knowing I am happy now and I know what a satisfying comfortable life is. Akiba wrote: Ya know , the longer I know you the more almost surreal things seem. So many of our experiences are SO similar yet we are so different! BTW Yesterday was my perfecy, flawless mater's 80th birthday. I think. The family didn't bother to inform me of my older sister's passing last November, so they probably will take some psychotic glee in not telling me when she passes either. And, like you, though I was the fat, unwanted kiddo I am also the only one who is married and the only one to have children. And the only fiscally secure one, my other sister now lives with mother and off mother's SBP. The big diff there is I am the youngest of the three (all girls, I went through SO much of my life being told I was the "last blast" for a boy and that father resented me for being not only female, but female with Attitude!) Hugz!~*~Akiba~*~ Re: MY MOTHER hopefully her "superior genes" would be my child's saving grace. ***Um, that sounds just a tad bit like Hitler's eugenics theory - about there being a *master race*. Didn't work then, doesn't work now, sorry your mom is that ridiculous~ Amy No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG Anti-Virus.Version: 7.0.344 / Virus Database: 267.11.6/111 - Release Date: 9/23/2005 Yahoo! for GoodClick here to donate to the Hurricane Katrina relief effort. No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG Anti-Virus.Version: 7.0.344 / Virus Database: 267.11.7/112 - Release Date: 9/26/2005 Yahoo! for Good Click here to donate to the Hurricane Katrina relief effort. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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