Re: MY MOTHER

[Guest guest]

Nit all mothers are like that...my mother, for example (and this is one of the reasons we do Not communicate nor have we in years, nor Will we) said that while it was wonderful that I was having a child it was a shame that Rob was the father and his "inferior genetics" would taint my child, but hopefully her "superior genes" would be my child's saving grace. I am not kidding, she really said that. She and her "superior genes" btw whose own parents owned a dairy farm. She grew up milking and mucking cows. I guess that makes her superior.

Hugz!~*~Akiba~*~

MY MOTHER

Dear Group,

I do not want to offend anyone but I do feel the need to share this.

I have been thinking about my mom since my last post. She was saying that it was her fault I had MS and that she had been praying and had ask her church to pray with her for God to heal me of my MS and that I should be praying for that too. To this I said "Yes, I know God can heal because He has healed me before. But NO I will not pray for a healing of MS because I feel God allowed me to get MS for a reason." I still feel this way.

I do not know why I feel so compelled to share this but I will not question that feeling. I hope this is of some comfort to someone here.

Happiness and Butterflies

Lynn

your Mom, Sister, Aunt, Gramma or Friend

Live each day as if it is a memory in the making.

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[Guest guest]

Nit all mothers are like that...my mother, for example (and this is one of the reasons we do Not communicate nor have we in years, nor Will we) said that while it was wonderful that I was having a child it was a shame that Rob was the father and his "inferior genetics" would taint my child, but hopefully her "superior genes" would be my child's saving grace. I am not kidding, she really said that. She and her "superior genes" btw whose own parents owned a dairy farm. She grew up milking and mucking cows. I guess that makes her superior.

Hugz!~*~Akiba~*~

MY MOTHER

Dear Group,

I do not want to offend anyone but I do feel the need to share this.

I have been thinking about my mom since my last post. She was saying that it was her fault I had MS and that she had been praying and had ask her church to pray with her for God to heal me of my MS and that I should be praying for that too. To this I said "Yes, I know God can heal because He has healed me before. But NO I will not pray for a healing of MS because I feel God allowed me to get MS for a reason." I still feel this way.

I do not know why I feel so compelled to share this but I will not question that feeling. I hope this is of some comfort to someone here.

Happiness and Butterflies

Lynn

your Mom, Sister, Aunt, Gramma or Friend

Live each day as if it is a memory in the making.

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[Guest guest]

Nit all mothers are like that...my mother, for example (and this is one of the reasons we do Not communicate nor have we in years, nor Will we) said that while it was wonderful that I was having a child it was a shame that Rob was the father and his "inferior genetics" would taint my child, but hopefully her "superior genes" would be my child's saving grace. I am not kidding, she really said that. She and her "superior genes" btw whose own parents owned a dairy farm. She grew up milking and mucking cows. I guess that makes her superior.

Hugz!~*~Akiba~*~

MY MOTHER

Dear Group,

I do not want to offend anyone but I do feel the need to share this.

I have been thinking about my mom since my last post. She was saying that it was her fault I had MS and that she had been praying and had ask her church to pray with her for God to heal me of my MS and that I should be praying for that too. To this I said "Yes, I know God can heal because He has healed me before. But NO I will not pray for a healing of MS because I feel God allowed me to get MS for a reason." I still feel this way.

I do not know why I feel so compelled to share this but I will not question that feeling. I hope this is of some comfort to someone here.

Happiness and Butterflies

Lynn

your Mom, Sister, Aunt, Gramma or Friend

Live each day as if it is a memory in the making.

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[Guest guest]

hopefully her "superior genes" would be my child's saving grace.

***Um, that sounds just a tad bit like Hitler's eugenics theory - about there being a *master race*.

Didn't work then, doesn't work now, sorry your mom is that ridiculous~

Amy

[Guest guest]

Yeah, she actualy believes herself perfect, and she can do no wrong, and EVERYTHING that went wrong in her life (even stuff from before I was born) is MY fault..and where would she be if I hadn't messed her life up so?

What about the things she did to me? The lies? The utter betrayal? I suppose I *made* her do it? OF course...She is perfect, I am nothing but flawed...guess her superior genetics didn't rub off on me (Thank God!!!)

Anywhoo...she is well out of my life and that's where she will remain. I do not need that aggravation, nor does my family need that massive negative drain.

Hugz!~*~Akiba~*~

Re: MY MOTHER

hopefully her "superior genes" would be my child's saving grace.

***Um, that sounds just a tad bit like Hitler's eugenics theory - about there being a *master race*.

Didn't work then, doesn't work now, sorry your mom is that ridiculous~

Amy

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Sharon,

You are right. I need to give Mom a

break. It is hard for me to see my children in turmoil or pain.

Shouldn’t be any different for her.

Why is it that I can’t seem to apply

these principals to my own MOTHER?

Westie

From:

MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of Sharon Marsden

Sent: Sunday, September 25, 2005

9:46 AM

To: MSersLife

Subject: RE: MY MOTHER

I can understand your mother's thinking though and I don't think it's

all self-centered. I understand because I have gone through the same

thinking myself. Yes, I have MS. But I have gone through the whole

thing about " what did I do to my kids??? and my grandkids??? "

My daughter and my son both have neurological problems--Challis is here on the

group and it seems that she has MS. My grandkids have a variety of

neurological/neurobiological problems and I often think that it came from me

and therefore it's my " fault " . I think it's normal for a mother

to have those feelings. Now if a mother obsesses on it or if it truly

turns into a " look at me--I feel so bad about my children--so LOOK AT

ME " kind of thing... lol... then that's different.

A little bit of a mother's feeling of guilt is normal I think. A

lot of it is different and not helpful, is it???

Sharon

Westie

wrote:

I agree with Akiba on the guilt issue.

Death and “dis~ease” have been in our world for a very, very,

long time.

Although we may not understand why we were

blessed with this situation, the way we live with MS is a big

testimony to others of our faith, courage,

and integrity.

It’s hard to move past the WHY ME? Harder still for family that have

guilt thinking they “gave it to you”.

My Mother also struggles with this and I

find her to be a little self-centered in that thinking.

It’s not all about ME in this life.

I choose to think that my life plan is being altered to use the best

parts

of the MS me in a way that shows love and

value in this world.

WestieLuv

From:

MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of Akiba

Sent: Saturday, September 24, 2005

11:49 PM

To: MSersLife

Subject: Re: MY MOTHER

It is her fault?

Howzzat?

I posted this to my

blog not long ago:

I'm going to write this, and there will be typos, because it is

late and I am tired, but oh well...

I Bless my MS. Why? Because of it I have met So many wonderful people that I

would have never met without it. I am SO fortunate that mine is quite quiet, I

have not gotten the symptoms So many MS'ers have, I can still drive, walk

unaided, basically my main symptom is the crushing fatigue and occasional

numbness. I know I have the least intrusive of all the MS's, and for that I am

grateful beyond words.

[end blog copy]

I feel that those of who have MS have a singular blessing...we have a

" dis~ease " that teaches Patience and understanding. I think we are

here to learn it so we can, in turn, teach it. It is a unique challenge, and

the people I have met through it are my new, and in many ways my true, family.

There's a reason we were chosen for this. Maybe your Mother needs to pray more

for herself, so she can let go of this self-imposed guilt.

MS shows us how to appreciate what we have, yes we mourn what we have

lost but we learn to adapt and appreate or daily blessings.

Hugz!

~*~Akiba~*~

MY

MOTHER

Dear Group,

I do not want to offend anyone but I do feel the need to share this.

I have been thinking about my mom since my last

post. She was saying that it was her fault I had MS and that she had been

praying and had ask her church to pray with her for God to heal me of my MS and

that I should be praying for that too. To this I said " Yes, I know

God can heal because He has healed me before. But NO I will not pray for

a healing of MS because I feel God allowed me to get MS for a reason. "

I still feel this way.

I do not know why I feel so compelled to share this but I

will not question that feeling. I hope this is of some comfort to someone

here.

Happiness and Butterflies

Lynn

your

Mom, Sister, Aunt, Gramma or Friend

Live each day

as if it is a memory in the making.

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Sharon (MSersLife creator/owner)

“One

minute it's a giant cabbage and the next, ka-boom! You've got cole slaw all

over you. "

V.R. , Palmer, Alaska,

where Cabbages grow huge

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[Guest guest]

At least she has self-confidence? LOL

HUGS,

Challis

Nit all mothers are like that...my mother, for example (and this is one of the reasons we do Not communicate nor have we in years, nor Will we) said that while it was wonderful that I was having a child it was a shame that Rob was the father and his "inferior genetics" would taint my child, but hopefully her "superior genes" would be my child's saving grace. I am not kidding, she really said that. She and her "superior genes" btw whose own parents owned a dairy farm. She grew up milking and mucking cows. I guess that makes her superior.

Hugz!~*~Akiba~*~

[Guest guest]

At least she has self-confidence? LOL

HUGS,

Challis

Nit all mothers are like that...my mother, for example (and this is one of the reasons we do Not communicate nor have we in years, nor Will we) said that while it was wonderful that I was having a child it was a shame that Rob was the father and his "inferior genetics" would taint my child, but hopefully her "superior genes" would be my child's saving grace. I am not kidding, she really said that. She and her "superior genes" btw whose own parents owned a dairy farm. She grew up milking and mucking cows. I guess that makes her superior.

Hugz!~*~Akiba~*~

[Guest guest]

Let's blame YOUR Mother and my dad. Okay? LOL

Our lives are enriched by the diagnoses we've found, in ourselves and our children. You've been a wonderful Grandmother and Mother, supporting and often leading the way. and I both had "special needs" as children, we just didn't know what they were. You managed life well, with more kudos warranted for all the struggles you faced and overcame. And you taught us how to face each thing with dignity and humor. That is your fault.

Love,

Challis

I can understand your mother's thinking though and I don't think it's all self-centered. I understand because I have gone through the same thinking myself. Yes, I have MS. But I have gone through the whole thing about "what did I do to my kids??? and my grandkids???" My daughter and my son both have neurological problems--Challis is here on the group and it seems that she has MS. My grandkids have a variety of neurological/neurobiological problems and I often think that it came from me and therefore it's my "fault". I think it's normal for a mother to have those feelings. Now if a mother obsesses on it or if it truly turns into a "look at me--I feel so bad about my children--so LOOK AT ME" kind of thing... lol... then that's different.

A little bit of a mother's feeling of guilt is normal I think. A lot of it is different and not helpful, is it???

Sharon

[Guest guest]

LOL Alaska is bigger. The bright side? ROFL

Hugs,

Challis

she has an ego the size of texas

Hugz!~*~Akiba~*~

Re: MY MOTHER

At least she has self-confidence? LOL

HUGS,

Challis

Nit all mothers are like that...my mother, for example (and this is one of the reasons we do Not communicate nor have we in years, nor Will we) said that while it was wonderful that I was having a child it was a shame that Rob was the father and his "inferior genetics" would taint my child, but hopefully her "superior genes" would be my child's saving grace. I am not kidding, she really said that. She and her "superior genes" btw whose own parents owned a dairy farm. She grew up milking and mucking cows. I guess that makes her superior.

Hugz!~*~Akiba~*~

[Guest guest]

she has an ego the size of texas

Hugz!~*~Akiba~*~

Re: MY MOTHER

At least she has self-confidence? LOL

HUGS,

Challis

Nit all mothers are like that...my mother, for example (and this is one of the reasons we do Not communicate nor have we in years, nor Will we) said that while it was wonderful that I was having a child it was a shame that Rob was the father and his "inferior genetics" would taint my child, but hopefully her "superior genes" would be my child's saving grace. I am not kidding, she really said that. She and her "superior genes" btw whose own parents owned a dairy farm. She grew up milking and mucking cows. I guess that makes her superior.

Hugz!~*~Akiba~*~

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[Guest guest]

she has an ego the size of texas

Hugz!~*~Akiba~*~

Re: MY MOTHER

At least she has self-confidence? LOL

HUGS,

Challis

Nit all mothers are like that...my mother, for example (and this is one of the reasons we do Not communicate nor have we in years, nor Will we) said that while it was wonderful that I was having a child it was a shame that Rob was the father and his "inferior genetics" would taint my child, but hopefully her "superior genes" would be my child's saving grace. I am not kidding, she really said that. She and her "superior genes" btw whose own parents owned a dairy farm. She grew up milking and mucking cows. I guess that makes her superior.

Hugz!~*~Akiba~*~

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[Guest guest]

Thanks Akiba,

No way do I blame my mother for my life. She did the best she could do and I love her still. She died six years ago at the age of 75 years and 6 days. She felt that she was not a good mother to us but as I see it she was the best mother she could be and I think we all turned out well. We each have our problems and have learnt to deal with them. If we were wollering in selfpity or allowing these problems to overcome us it would be our fault not hers.

HAPPINESS and BUTTERFLIES

Lynn

Akiba wrote:

It is her fault? Howzzat?

I posted this to my blog not long ago:

I'm going to write this, and there will be typos, because it is late and I am tired, but oh well...I Bless my MS. Why? Because of it I have met So many wonderful people that I would have never met without it. I am SO fortunate that mine is quite quiet, I have not gotten the symptoms So many MS'ers have, I can still drive, walk unaided, basically my main symptom is the crushing fatigue and occasional numbness. I know I have the least intrusive of all the MS's, and for that I am grateful beyond words.

[end blog copy]

I feel that those of who have MS have a singular blessing...we have a "dis~ease" that teaches Patience and understanding. I think we are here to learn it so we can, in turn, teach it. It is a unique challenge, and the people I have met through it are my new, and in many ways my true, family. There's a reason we were chosen for this. Maybe your Mother needs to pray more for herself, so she can let go of this self-imposed guilt.

MS shows us how to appreciate what we have, yes we mourn what we have lost but we learn to adapt and appreate or daily blessings.

Hugz!~*~Akiba~*~

MY MOTHER

Dear Group,

I do not want to offend anyone but I do feel the need to share this.

I have been thinking about my mom since my last post. She was saying that it was her fault I had MS and that she had been praying and had ask her church to pray with her for God to heal me of my MS and that I should be praying for that too. To this I said "Yes, I know God can heal because He has healed me before. But NO I will not pray for a healing of MS because I feel God allowed me to get MS for a reason." I still feel this way.

I do not know why I feel so compelled to share this but I will not question that feeling. I hope this is of some comfort to someone here.

Happiness and Butterflies

Lynn

your Mom, Sister, Aunt, Gramma or Friend

Live each day as if it is a memory in the making.

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Happiness and Butterflies

Lynn

your Mom, Sister, Aunt, Gramma or Friend

Live each day as if it is a memory in the making.

[Guest guest]

Thanks Akiba,

No way do I blame my mother for my life. She did the best she could do and I love her still. She died six years ago at the age of 75 years and 6 days. She felt that she was not a good mother to us but as I see it she was the best mother she could be and I think we all turned out well. We each have our problems and have learnt to deal with them. If we were wollering in selfpity or allowing these problems to overcome us it would be our fault not hers.

HAPPINESS and BUTTERFLIES

Lynn

Akiba wrote:

It is her fault? Howzzat?

I posted this to my blog not long ago:

I'm going to write this, and there will be typos, because it is late and I am tired, but oh well...I Bless my MS. Why? Because of it I have met So many wonderful people that I would have never met without it. I am SO fortunate that mine is quite quiet, I have not gotten the symptoms So many MS'ers have, I can still drive, walk unaided, basically my main symptom is the crushing fatigue and occasional numbness. I know I have the least intrusive of all the MS's, and for that I am grateful beyond words.

[end blog copy]

I feel that those of who have MS have a singular blessing...we have a "dis~ease" that teaches Patience and understanding. I think we are here to learn it so we can, in turn, teach it. It is a unique challenge, and the people I have met through it are my new, and in many ways my true, family. There's a reason we were chosen for this. Maybe your Mother needs to pray more for herself, so she can let go of this self-imposed guilt.

MS shows us how to appreciate what we have, yes we mourn what we have lost but we learn to adapt and appreate or daily blessings.

Hugz!~*~Akiba~*~

MY MOTHER

Dear Group,

I do not want to offend anyone but I do feel the need to share this.

I have been thinking about my mom since my last post. She was saying that it was her fault I had MS and that she had been praying and had ask her church to pray with her for God to heal me of my MS and that I should be praying for that too. To this I said "Yes, I know God can heal because He has healed me before. But NO I will not pray for a healing of MS because I feel God allowed me to get MS for a reason." I still feel this way.

I do not know why I feel so compelled to share this but I will not question that feeling. I hope this is of some comfort to someone here.

Happiness and Butterflies

Lynn

your Mom, Sister, Aunt, Gramma or Friend

Live each day as if it is a memory in the making.

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Happiness and Butterflies

Lynn

your Mom, Sister, Aunt, Gramma or Friend

Live each day as if it is a memory in the making.

[Guest guest]

Yes Trista,

You are blessed and you are a blessing. I appreciate you too.

I have been blessed in many ways before and after MS. Life is good and there is much more for me to do and enjoy. I slept most of yesterday and I missed hearing from all my friends here. But I do belief my cold is much better and on its way out. I am still tired and foggy but this will pass.

HAPPINESS and BUTTERFLIES

LynnTrista wrote:

lynn,

..................

lynn, you can turn MS into a blessing in your life. You are an inspiration to others when you encourage them, when they think you should feel defeated. You decide what your life is like. I appreciate you. Trista

Lynn wrote:

Dear Group,

I do not want to offend anyone but I do feel the need to share this.

I have been thinking about my mom since my last post. She was saying that it was her fault I had MS and that she had been praying and had ask her church to pray with her for God to heal me of my MS and that I should be praying for that too. To this I said "Yes, I know God can heal because He has healed me before. But NO I will not pray for a healing of MS because I feel God allowed me to get MS for a reason." I still feel this way.

I do not know why I feel so compelled to share this but I will not question that feeling. I hope this is of some comfort to someone here.

Happiness and Butterflies

Lynn

your Mom, Sister, Aunt, Gramma or Friend

Live each day as if it is a memory in the making.

Take care always,

Trista

"Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved." - Helen Keller

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Happiness and Butterflies

Lynn

your Mom, Sister, Aunt, Gramma or Friend

Live each day as if it is a memory in the making.

[Guest guest]

I was asked recently by my own mother if I felt MS was a 'curse"? My reply was that it has been a blessing because until I was faced with this I took things for granted, didn't see the joy in the little things life has to offer, rushed thru everyday for the payoff, and never really understood what it meant to take time to stop and smell the flowers. Well now I do, I am celebraing every litle bit of life the heavens offer me and I thanked my mom for giving me life so that I could enjoy this gift I have been given.

Sharon Marsden wrote:

I know what you mean Lynn. I feel I was meant to get MS and it didn't just "happen" to me. I don't know that I can describe what I really mean and feel. I have gained a lot, personally, by having MS. Does that make sense?

I have never prayed to NOT have MS. Instead I've prayed for a relief of pain. I've prayed for a relief of symptoms so I could keep doing the things I want to do. I've prayed that my kids won't have MS....

love.. SharonLynn wrote:

Dear Group,

I do not want to offend anyone but I do feel the need to share this.

I have been thinking about my mom since my last post. She was saying that it was her fault I had MS and that she had been praying and had ask her church to pray with her for God to heal me of my MS and that I should be praying for that too. To this I said "Yes, I know God can heal because He has healed me before. But NO I will not pray for a healing of MS because I feel God allowed me to get MS for a reason." I still feel this way.

I do not know why I feel so compelled to share this but I will not question that feeling. I hope this is of some comfort to someone here.

Happiness and Butterflies

Lynn

your Mom, Sister, Aunt, Gramma or Friend

Live each day as if it is a memory in the making.

Sharon (MSersLife creator/owner)

“One minute it's a giant cabbage and the next, ka-boom! You've got cole slaw all over you." V.R. , Palmer, Alaska, where Cabbages grow huge

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I was asked recently by my own mother if I felt MS was a 'curse"? My reply was that it has been a blessing because until I was faced with this I took things for granted, didn't see the joy in the little things life has to offer, rushed thru everyday for the payoff, and never really understood what it meant to take time to stop and smell the flowers. Well now I do, I am celebraing every litle bit of life the heavens offer me and I thanked my mom for giving me life so that I could enjoy this gift I have been given.

Sharon Marsden wrote:

I know what you mean Lynn. I feel I was meant to get MS and it didn't just "happen" to me. I don't know that I can describe what I really mean and feel. I have gained a lot, personally, by having MS. Does that make sense?

I have never prayed to NOT have MS. Instead I've prayed for a relief of pain. I've prayed for a relief of symptoms so I could keep doing the things I want to do. I've prayed that my kids won't have MS....

love.. SharonLynn wrote:

Dear Group,

I do not want to offend anyone but I do feel the need to share this.

I have been thinking about my mom since my last post. She was saying that it was her fault I had MS and that she had been praying and had ask her church to pray with her for God to heal me of my MS and that I should be praying for that too. To this I said "Yes, I know God can heal because He has healed me before. But NO I will not pray for a healing of MS because I feel God allowed me to get MS for a reason." I still feel this way.

I do not know why I feel so compelled to share this but I will not question that feeling. I hope this is of some comfort to someone here.

Happiness and Butterflies

Lynn

your Mom, Sister, Aunt, Gramma or Friend

Live each day as if it is a memory in the making.

Sharon (MSersLife creator/owner)

“One minute it's a giant cabbage and the next, ka-boom! You've got cole slaw all over you." V.R. , Palmer, Alaska, where Cabbages grow huge

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[Guest guest]

I was asked recently by my own mother if I felt MS was a 'curse"? My reply was that it has been a blessing because until I was faced with this I took things for granted, didn't see the joy in the little things life has to offer, rushed thru everyday for the payoff, and never really understood what it meant to take time to stop and smell the flowers. Well now I do, I am celebraing every litle bit of life the heavens offer me and I thanked my mom for giving me life so that I could enjoy this gift I have been given.

Sharon Marsden wrote:

I know what you mean Lynn. I feel I was meant to get MS and it didn't just "happen" to me. I don't know that I can describe what I really mean and feel. I have gained a lot, personally, by having MS. Does that make sense?

I have never prayed to NOT have MS. Instead I've prayed for a relief of pain. I've prayed for a relief of symptoms so I could keep doing the things I want to do. I've prayed that my kids won't have MS....

love.. SharonLynn wrote:

Dear Group,

I do not want to offend anyone but I do feel the need to share this.

I have been thinking about my mom since my last post. She was saying that it was her fault I had MS and that she had been praying and had ask her church to pray with her for God to heal me of my MS and that I should be praying for that too. To this I said "Yes, I know God can heal because He has healed me before. But NO I will not pray for a healing of MS because I feel God allowed me to get MS for a reason." I still feel this way.

I do not know why I feel so compelled to share this but I will not question that feeling. I hope this is of some comfort to someone here.

Happiness and Butterflies

Lynn

your Mom, Sister, Aunt, Gramma or Friend

Live each day as if it is a memory in the making.

Sharon (MSersLife creator/owner)

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Trista,

Perfectly put

Trista wrote:

lynn,

I for one am not offended. I think I know where you are coming from. I sincerely believe that difficult things come into everyones lives at some point. We may not like it or understand it, but it brings us growth and teaches us lessons we may not have otherwise learned. My 2 oldest boys have Autism. It has been hard and I have grieved over it. But, I would not wish them to be anyone other than themselves. I would not wish them cured. That would change who they are. Their disability has taught me so much and helped me find love and made our family whole. I was a single mother and met my sweet husband, who fell in love with me and my boys. No one would ever guess that they aren't his flesh and blood. That has created a bond so great between us all. To find someone who was so selfless to take on a single mom with 2 special needs kids is not an easy thing. I am blessed. I am

ill, but I am blessed. I no longer have to parent alone, and now I don't have to go through this illness alone. If I wasn't ill, I wouldn't need to depend on him as much. I used to be very prideful and hated to need anyones help. Now I see that I am not a burden. We do for eachother out of love and caring. I have become a better person, because of all the hardships I've had in my life.

lynn, you can turn MS into a blessing in your life. You are an inspiration to others when you encourage them, when they think you should feel defeated. You decide what your life is like. I appreciate you. Trista

Lynn wrote:

Dear Group,

I do not want to offend anyone but I do feel the need to share this.

I have been thinking about my mom since my last post. She was saying that it was her fault I had MS and that she had been praying and had ask her church to pray with her for God to heal me of my MS and that I should be praying for that too. To this I said "Yes, I know God can heal because He has healed me before. But NO I will not pray for a healing of MS because I feel God allowed me to get MS for a reason." I still feel this way.

I do not know why I feel so compelled to share this but I will not question that feeling. I hope this is of some comfort to someone here.

Happiness and Butterflies

Lynn

your Mom, Sister, Aunt, Gramma or Friend

Live each day as if it is a memory in the making.

Take care always,

Trista

"Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved." - Helen Keller

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I am so sorry. I understand completely. I have both of my parents but it does not make talking to them any easier. So much has gone on and is still going on yet everyone refuses to deal with it realistically. I hope things get easier for you soon.

Westie wrote:

Family dynamics are a real phenomena. I didn’t realize that my relationship with my Mother

was so strained until I lost my Dad. It appears to me that he ran as a “buffer”, Mediator and

always softened things a bit between us. I didn’t see how things had changed until after he passed away.

I was close to my Dad, and I miss him terribly. He died of an autoimmune disease – pulmonary fibrosis.

I wonder what he would have said to help me accept this MS diagnosis.

Mom and I have a hard time being together. It was so easy with Dad and with Mom it’s this exhausting

process that I just don’t feel like tackling.

Luckily, my husband seems to have a rapport with Mom and that helps me.

Westie

WONDER DOG!

From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of Sharon MarsdenSent: Sunday, September 25, 2005 3:42 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: RE: MY MOTHER

Westie:

Family relationships are hard even when they are aren't hard, aren't they??? MSers often have very sensitive emotions and that complicates all relationships. Family dynamics are pretty powerful, huh?

Hugs)))

SharonWestie wrote:

Sharon,

You are right. I need to give Mom a break. It is hard for me to see my children in turmoil or pain.

Shouldn’t be any different for her.

Why is it that I can’t seem to apply these principals to my own MOTHER?

Westie

From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of Sharon MarsdenSent: Sunday, September 25, 2005 9:46 AMTo: MSersLife Subject: RE: MY MOTHER

I can understand your mother's thinking though and I don't think it's all self-centered. I understand because I have gone through the same thinking myself. Yes, I have MS. But I have gone through the whole thing about "what did I do to my kids??? and my grandkids???" My daughter and my son both have neurological problems--Challis is here on the group and it seems that she has MS. My grandkids have a variety of neurological/neurobiological problems and I often think that it came from me and therefore it's my "fault". I think it's normal for a mother to have those feelings. Now if a mother obsesses on it or if it truly turns into a "look at me--I feel so bad about my children--so LOOK AT ME" kind of thing... lol... then that's different.

A little bit of a mother's feeling of guilt is normal I think. A lot of it is different and not helpful, is it???

SharonWestie wrote:

I agree with Akiba on the guilt issue. Death and “dis~ease” have been in our world for a very, very, long time.

Although we may not understand why we were blessed with this situation, the way we live with MS is a big

testimony to others of our faith, courage, and integrity.

It’s hard to move past the WHY ME? Harder still for family that have guilt thinking they “gave it to you”.

My Mother also struggles with this and I find her to be a little self-centered in that thinking.

It’s not all about ME in this life. I choose to think that my life plan is being altered to use the best parts

of the MS me in a way that shows love and value in this world.

WestieLuv

From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of AkibaSent: Saturday, September 24, 2005 11:49 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: Re: MY MOTHER

It is her fault? Howzzat?

I posted this to my blog not long ago:

I'm going to write this, and there will be typos, because it is late and I am tired, but oh well...I Bless my MS. Why? Because of it I have met So many wonderful people that I would have never met without it. I am SO fortunate that mine is quite quiet, I have not gotten the symptoms So many MS'ers have, I can still drive, walk unaided, basically my main symptom is the crushing fatigue and occasional numbness. I know I have the least intrusive of all the MS's, and for that I am grateful beyond words.

[end blog copy]

I feel that those of who have MS have a singular blessing...we have a "dis~ease" that teaches Patience and understanding. I think we are here to learn it so we can, in turn, teach it. It is a unique challenge, and the people I have met through it are my new, and in many ways my true, family. There's a reason we were chosen for this. Maybe your Mother needs to pray more for herself, so she can let go of this self-imposed guilt.

MS shows us how to appreciate what we have, yes we mourn what we have lost but we learn to adapt and appreate or daily blessings.

Hugz!~*~Akiba~*~

MY MOTHER

Dear Group,

I do not want to offend anyone but I do feel the need to share this.

I have been thinking about my mom since my last post. She was saying that it was her fault I had MS and that she had been praying and had ask her church to pray with her for God to heal me of my MS and that I should be praying for that too. To this I said "Yes, I know God can heal because He has healed me before. But NO I will not pray for a healing of MS because I feel God allowed me to get MS for a reason." I still feel this way.

I do not know why I feel so compelled to share this but I will not question that feeling. I hope this is of some comfort to someone here.

Happiness and Butterflies

Lynn

your Mom, Sister, Aunt, Gramma or Friend

Live each day as if it is a memory in the making.

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[Guest guest]

I am so sorry. I understand completely. I have both of my parents but it does not make talking to them any easier. So much has gone on and is still going on yet everyone refuses to deal with it realistically. I hope things get easier for you soon.

Westie wrote:

Family dynamics are a real phenomena. I didn’t realize that my relationship with my Mother

was so strained until I lost my Dad. It appears to me that he ran as a “buffer”, Mediator and

always softened things a bit between us. I didn’t see how things had changed until after he passed away.

I was close to my Dad, and I miss him terribly. He died of an autoimmune disease – pulmonary fibrosis.

I wonder what he would have said to help me accept this MS diagnosis.

Mom and I have a hard time being together. It was so easy with Dad and with Mom it’s this exhausting

process that I just don’t feel like tackling.

Luckily, my husband seems to have a rapport with Mom and that helps me.

Westie

WONDER DOG!

From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of Sharon MarsdenSent: Sunday, September 25, 2005 3:42 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: RE: MY MOTHER

Westie:

Family relationships are hard even when they are aren't hard, aren't they??? MSers often have very sensitive emotions and that complicates all relationships. Family dynamics are pretty powerful, huh?

Hugs)))

SharonWestie wrote:

Sharon,

You are right. I need to give Mom a break. It is hard for me to see my children in turmoil or pain.

Shouldn’t be any different for her.

Why is it that I can’t seem to apply these principals to my own MOTHER?

Westie

From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of Sharon MarsdenSent: Sunday, September 25, 2005 9:46 AMTo: MSersLife Subject: RE: MY MOTHER

I can understand your mother's thinking though and I don't think it's all self-centered. I understand because I have gone through the same thinking myself. Yes, I have MS. But I have gone through the whole thing about "what did I do to my kids??? and my grandkids???" My daughter and my son both have neurological problems--Challis is here on the group and it seems that she has MS. My grandkids have a variety of neurological/neurobiological problems and I often think that it came from me and therefore it's my "fault". I think it's normal for a mother to have those feelings. Now if a mother obsesses on it or if it truly turns into a "look at me--I feel so bad about my children--so LOOK AT ME" kind of thing... lol... then that's different.

A little bit of a mother's feeling of guilt is normal I think. A lot of it is different and not helpful, is it???

SharonWestie wrote:

I agree with Akiba on the guilt issue. Death and “dis~ease” have been in our world for a very, very, long time.

Although we may not understand why we were blessed with this situation, the way we live with MS is a big

testimony to others of our faith, courage, and integrity.

It’s hard to move past the WHY ME? Harder still for family that have guilt thinking they “gave it to you”.

My Mother also struggles with this and I find her to be a little self-centered in that thinking.

It’s not all about ME in this life. I choose to think that my life plan is being altered to use the best parts

of the MS me in a way that shows love and value in this world.

WestieLuv

From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of AkibaSent: Saturday, September 24, 2005 11:49 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: Re: MY MOTHER

It is her fault? Howzzat?

I posted this to my blog not long ago:

I'm going to write this, and there will be typos, because it is late and I am tired, but oh well...I Bless my MS. Why? Because of it I have met So many wonderful people that I would have never met without it. I am SO fortunate that mine is quite quiet, I have not gotten the symptoms So many MS'ers have, I can still drive, walk unaided, basically my main symptom is the crushing fatigue and occasional numbness. I know I have the least intrusive of all the MS's, and for that I am grateful beyond words.

[end blog copy]

I feel that those of who have MS have a singular blessing...we have a "dis~ease" that teaches Patience and understanding. I think we are here to learn it so we can, in turn, teach it. It is a unique challenge, and the people I have met through it are my new, and in many ways my true, family. There's a reason we were chosen for this. Maybe your Mother needs to pray more for herself, so she can let go of this self-imposed guilt.

MS shows us how to appreciate what we have, yes we mourn what we have lost but we learn to adapt and appreate or daily blessings.

Hugz!~*~Akiba~*~

MY MOTHER

Dear Group,

I do not want to offend anyone but I do feel the need to share this.

I have been thinking about my mom since my last post. She was saying that it was her fault I had MS and that she had been praying and had ask her church to pray with her for God to heal me of my MS and that I should be praying for that too. To this I said "Yes, I know God can heal because He has healed me before. But NO I will not pray for a healing of MS because I feel God allowed me to get MS for a reason." I still feel this way.

I do not know why I feel so compelled to share this but I will not question that feeling. I hope this is of some comfort to someone here.

Happiness and Butterflies

Lynn

your Mom, Sister, Aunt, Gramma or Friend

Live each day as if it is a memory in the making.

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__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

I am so sorry. I understand completely. I have both of my parents but it does not make talking to them any easier. So much has gone on and is still going on yet everyone refuses to deal with it realistically. I hope things get easier for you soon.

Westie wrote:

Family dynamics are a real phenomena. I didn’t realize that my relationship with my Mother

was so strained until I lost my Dad. It appears to me that he ran as a “buffer”, Mediator and

always softened things a bit between us. I didn’t see how things had changed until after he passed away.

I was close to my Dad, and I miss him terribly. He died of an autoimmune disease – pulmonary fibrosis.

I wonder what he would have said to help me accept this MS diagnosis.

Mom and I have a hard time being together. It was so easy with Dad and with Mom it’s this exhausting

process that I just don’t feel like tackling.

Luckily, my husband seems to have a rapport with Mom and that helps me.

Westie

WONDER DOG!

From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of Sharon MarsdenSent: Sunday, September 25, 2005 3:42 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: RE: MY MOTHER

Westie:

Family relationships are hard even when they are aren't hard, aren't they??? MSers often have very sensitive emotions and that complicates all relationships. Family dynamics are pretty powerful, huh?

Hugs)))

SharonWestie wrote:

Sharon,

You are right. I need to give Mom a break. It is hard for me to see my children in turmoil or pain.

Shouldn’t be any different for her.

Why is it that I can’t seem to apply these principals to my own MOTHER?

Westie

From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of Sharon MarsdenSent: Sunday, September 25, 2005 9:46 AMTo: MSersLife Subject: RE: MY MOTHER

I can understand your mother's thinking though and I don't think it's all self-centered. I understand because I have gone through the same thinking myself. Yes, I have MS. But I have gone through the whole thing about "what did I do to my kids??? and my grandkids???" My daughter and my son both have neurological problems--Challis is here on the group and it seems that she has MS. My grandkids have a variety of neurological/neurobiological problems and I often think that it came from me and therefore it's my "fault". I think it's normal for a mother to have those feelings. Now if a mother obsesses on it or if it truly turns into a "look at me--I feel so bad about my children--so LOOK AT ME" kind of thing... lol... then that's different.

A little bit of a mother's feeling of guilt is normal I think. A lot of it is different and not helpful, is it???

SharonWestie wrote:

I agree with Akiba on the guilt issue. Death and “dis~ease” have been in our world for a very, very, long time.

Although we may not understand why we were blessed with this situation, the way we live with MS is a big

testimony to others of our faith, courage, and integrity.

It’s hard to move past the WHY ME? Harder still for family that have guilt thinking they “gave it to you”.

My Mother also struggles with this and I find her to be a little self-centered in that thinking.

It’s not all about ME in this life. I choose to think that my life plan is being altered to use the best parts

of the MS me in a way that shows love and value in this world.

WestieLuv

From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of AkibaSent: Saturday, September 24, 2005 11:49 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: Re: MY MOTHER

It is her fault? Howzzat?

I posted this to my blog not long ago:

I'm going to write this, and there will be typos, because it is late and I am tired, but oh well...I Bless my MS. Why? Because of it I have met So many wonderful people that I would have never met without it. I am SO fortunate that mine is quite quiet, I have not gotten the symptoms So many MS'ers have, I can still drive, walk unaided, basically my main symptom is the crushing fatigue and occasional numbness. I know I have the least intrusive of all the MS's, and for that I am grateful beyond words.

[end blog copy]

I feel that those of who have MS have a singular blessing...we have a "dis~ease" that teaches Patience and understanding. I think we are here to learn it so we can, in turn, teach it. It is a unique challenge, and the people I have met through it are my new, and in many ways my true, family. There's a reason we were chosen for this. Maybe your Mother needs to pray more for herself, so she can let go of this self-imposed guilt.

MS shows us how to appreciate what we have, yes we mourn what we have lost but we learn to adapt and appreate or daily blessings.

Hugz!~*~Akiba~*~

MY MOTHER

Dear Group,

I do not want to offend anyone but I do feel the need to share this.

I have been thinking about my mom since my last post. She was saying that it was her fault I had MS and that she had been praying and had ask her church to pray with her for God to heal me of my MS and that I should be praying for that too. To this I said "Yes, I know God can heal because He has healed me before. But NO I will not pray for a healing of MS because I feel God allowed me to get MS for a reason." I still feel this way.

I do not know why I feel so compelled to share this but I will not question that feeling. I hope this is of some comfort to someone here.

Happiness and Butterflies

Lynn

your Mom, Sister, Aunt, Gramma or Friend

Live each day as if it is a memory in the making.

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[Guest guest]

Personally, its my belfief that every generaton has the chance to make it better. It is really up to the individual to follow through on that. For Jerry and I, we recognize and accept that our childhoods were not the most pleasant or idyllic, but we have learned from them and so will make the childhoods of our offspring that much better for it. Love is the key and with the amount of love we are spreading to these two little peanuts, I know that they will turn out at least twice as good as me. At least that is my hope.

The mistakes will not be repeated, cannot be repeated. That is the one thing I will solemnly vow for all of my days.

Akiba wrote:

I could go on and on, not only about the things *she* did to me, but the things his parents did to Rob...I think that is one of the things that bonds us.

He is color blind. His sister and (today is the 12th anniversary) diseased big brother had/have CF (Cystic Fybrosis). So, Rob's parents didn't let him participate in things like decorating the house for Christmas, since he couldn't see color anyway so what's the point? And his siblings were "sick" and he healthy...so holidays were for them and he was not really allowed or included. I could gp on and on but I think you get the jist. We've been together almost 11 years, married for over 9 and have a son who deserves Christmas, and all Holidays *grin*. and I have only in this LAST year gotten Rob to celebrate ANY of them. He was SO hurt as a child he prefers to ignore them so as to not re-live the hurt. I ache for him! My family Did the Holiday thing almost to extreme...of course, since mother was/is perfect, we had June Cleaver Christmases. She *was* a good mother to me when I was a child...it was when I became an adult that she...turned...

Hugz!~*~Akiba~*~

MY MOTHER

Dear Group,

I do not want to offend anyone but I do feel the need to share this.

I have been thinking about my mom since my last post. She was saying that it was her fault I had MS and that she had been praying and had ask her church to pray with her for God to heal me of my MS and that I should be praying for that too. To this I said "Yes, I know God can heal because He has healed me before. But NO I will not pray for a healing of MS because I feel God allowed me to get MS for a reason." I still feel this way.

I do not know why I feel so compelled to share this but I will not question that feeling. I hope this is of some comfort to someone here.

Happiness and Butterflies

Lynn

your Mom, Sister, Aunt, Gramma or Friend

Live each day as if it is a memory in the making.

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I sure did blame myself for Charity's problems. I think about all the things I didn't do right and could have done better, right down to having to deliver her by c-section. I had alot of guilt about her speech delay, her failure to thrive, her lack of motor skills. I have had to try and move on from that tho and as hard as that has been, it is getting easier to see that I am a good mom and that I did not "DO" anything to her other than love and nurture her.

Sharon Marsden wrote:

I can understand your mother's thinking though and I don't think it's all self-centered. I understand because I have gone through the same thinking myself. Yes, I have MS. But I have gone through the whole thing about "what did I do to my kids??? and my grandkids???" My daughter and my son both have neurological problems--Challis is here on the group and it seems that she has MS. My grandkids have a variety of neurological/neurobiological problems and I often think that it came from me and therefore it's my "fault". I think it's normal for a mother to have those feelings. Now if a mother obsesses on it or if it truly turns into a "look at me--I feel so bad about my children--so LOOK AT ME" kind of thing... lol... then that's different.

A little bit of a mother's feeling of guilt is normal I think. A lot of it is different and not helpful, is it???

SharonWestie wrote:

I agree with Akiba on the guilt issue. Death and “dis~ease” have been in our world for a very, very, long time.

Although we may not understand why we were blessed with this situation, the way we live with MS is a big

testimony to others of our faith, courage, and integrity.

It’s hard to move past the WHY ME? Harder still for family that have guilt thinking they “gave it to you”.

My Mother also struggles with this and I find her to be a little self-centered in that thinking.

It’s not all about ME in this life. I choose to think that my life plan is being altered to use the best parts

of the MS me in a way that shows love and value in this world.

WestieLuv

From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of AkibaSent: Saturday, September 24, 2005 11:49 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: Re: MY MOTHER

It is her fault? Howzzat?

I posted this to my blog not long ago:

I'm going to write this, and there will be typos, because it is late and I am tired, but oh well...I Bless my MS. Why? Because of it I have met So many wonderful people that I would have never met without it. I am SO fortunate that mine is quite quiet, I have not gotten the symptoms So many MS'ers have, I can still drive, walk unaided, basically my main symptom is the crushing fatigue and occasional numbness. I know I have the least intrusive of all the MS's, and for that I am grateful beyond words.

[end blog copy]

I feel that those of who have MS have a singular blessing...we have a "dis~ease" that teaches Patience and understanding. I think we are here to learn it so we can, in turn, teach it. It is a unique challenge, and the people I have met through it are my new, and in many ways my true, family. There's a reason we were chosen for this. Maybe your Mother needs to pray more for herself, so she can let go of this self-imposed guilt.

MS shows us how to appreciate what we have, yes we mourn what we have lost but we learn to adapt and appreate or daily blessings.

Hugz!~*~Akiba~*~

MY MOTHER

Dear Group,

I do not want to offend anyone but I do feel the need to share this.

I have been thinking about my mom since my last post. She was saying that it was her fault I had MS and that she had been praying and had ask her church to pray with her for God to heal me of my MS and that I should be praying for that too. To this I said "Yes, I know God can heal because He has healed me before. But NO I will not pray for a healing of MS because I feel God allowed me to get MS for a reason." I still feel this way.

I do not know why I feel so compelled to share this but I will not question that feeling. I hope this is of some comfort to someone here.

Happiness and Butterflies

Lynn

your Mom, Sister, Aunt, Gramma or Friend

Live each day as if it is a memory in the making.

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Thanks . So glad to see you posting again. And Congrats on your newest blessing! Tristajerry plows wrote:

Trista,

Perfectly put

Trista wrote:

lynn,

I for one am not offended. I think I know where you are coming from. I sincerely believe that difficult things come into everyones lives at some point. We may not like it or understand it, but it brings us growth and teaches us lessons we may not have otherwise learned. My 2 oldest boys have Autism. It has been hard and I have grieved over it. But, I would not wish them to be anyone other than themselves. I would not wish them cured. That would change who they are. Their disability has taught me so much and helped me find love and made our family whole. I was a single mother and met my sweet husband, who fell in love with me and my boys. No one would ever guess that they aren't his flesh and blood. That has created a bond so great between us all. To find someone who was so selfless to take on a single mom with 2 special needs kids is not an easy thing. I am blessed. I am

ill, but I am blessed. I no longer have to parent alone, and now I don't have to go through this illness alone. If I wasn't ill, I wouldn't need to depend on him as much. I used to be very prideful and hated to need anyones help. Now I see that I am not a burden. We do for eachother out of love and caring. I have become a better person, because of all the hardships I've had in my life.

lynn, you can turn MS into a blessing in your life. You are an inspiration to others when you encourage them, when they think you should feel defeated. You decide what your life is like. I appreciate you. Trista

Lynn wrote:

Dear Group,

I do not want to offend anyone but I do feel the need to share this.

I have been thinking about my mom since my last post. She was saying that it was her fault I had MS and that she had been praying and had ask her church to pray with her for God to heal me of my MS and that I should be praying for that too. To this I said "Yes, I know God can heal because He has healed me before. But NO I will not pray for a healing of MS because I feel God allowed me to get MS for a reason." I still feel this way.

I do not know why I feel so compelled to share this but I will not question that feeling. I hope this is of some comfort to someone here.

Happiness and Butterflies

Lynn

your Mom, Sister, Aunt, Gramma or Friend

Live each day as if it is a memory in the making.

Take care always,

Trista

"Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved." - Helen Keller

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Take care always,

Trista

"Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved." - Helen Keller

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