Re: Ron/Our day

[Guest guest]

Hi Ron:

There is a calmness that surrounds you now and I love reading the things that

are happening in your life. You are more content and not letting things bother

you so much as before. Even your brother wanting the Van for free seemed to be

something that you could handle and I think you handled it very well.

Ron, I honestly thought you would have a break-down and not survive keeping your

mom at home as you are determined to do. You are proving me wrong and I now have

an entirely different opinion. You are surrounding yourself with all the right

stuff and whatever it is you are doing keep it up! It really comes across that

your life is going in the right direction now.

Hugs, Jan 

Our day

; Hi all, I just thought Id share a little from our day here.The morning began

with the usual getting mom up, breakfast, meds and coffee and watching the

news.The home care aide called and said shed be over at 2;30 to help me bathe

mom.I called my brother who wants my dads Van and told him that we would sell it

for 500 dollars.Which is a major steal.Before I go any farther , I have to say

that my brother wants it free, and my family came in and toulk everything I

could not bring with mom and I once we left the old house.He thinks that since

it was Dads old van that he should just have it and Im all for keeping it in the

family but Mom is still here and needs to be taken care of and that cost

money.She needs clothes really bad and the move into the appartments wasnt cheap

for me , and I havent been able to work outside since before the gathering

because I cant find reliable coverage.They dont understand that stuff.But

anyway, he grudgingly said he would

talk to his wife and tell me and I told him to hurry and let me know because if

he doesnt buy it Im putting it up for sale for a thousand dollars.

The aide came, and she seems like a really nice lady.Her name is Robin, and moms

seems to like her and she did a great job but I think mom will have to take some

time to get used to a stranger helping.She will be here Tuesdays and Fridays

from now on and in between I will give mom sponge baths.Mom and I watched " A

never ending Story this afternoon and she seemed so relaxed and so at peace.

At 5 came over and wanted to make us dinner and Moms favorite food is

taco salad, so we all three had taco salad and watched 's favorite movie,

" The notebook " .I dont know if Ive ever seen a more awesome story before.A true

testiment to the power of love and how it truly is the most powerful thing on

the face of this earth.I cried my eyes out at the end of the movie and looked

over at and she was crying as well.The biggest thing is, mom understood

the movie, she didnt know we were even crying and when I looked at her she had

big tears rolling down her beautiful face.Needless to say the rest of our

evening was filled with lots of heartfelt hugs and just a togetherness and

loving feeling that filled this little appartment up like never before.Mom

started to get tired and I got her meds and got her ready for bed around

10;30.Once in bed I always hug her tight and kiss her forehead.Tonight she put

both of her arms around my head and she

hugged me tightly.Again I had to fight back more tears.She has a great deal of

trouble talking and saying much of anything anymore.But as she was hugging me

she said to tell Andie night for her.Once she was all tucked in and I

just sat and talked until just a bit ago and it was so hard to let her leave

here.She called just a few minutes ago and told me she made it home safe and we

talked for a few more minutes on the phone.

Mom and I both needed today with so much of my family turning there heads and

forgetting about mom, she sits here day in and day out most of the time only

seeing me.Sometimes it just seems like things are happening because of a much

higher power than anything we can comprehend.I cant take moms disease away.And I

cant make my family wake up.But some how some way theres always a silver lining

in everything that happens.One of s favorite songs is " I believe there are

angels amoung us " ...I believe that too.Heartfelt hugs to all. Ron