call from nh

[Guest guest]

I received a call this morning from Mom's nh to inform me of a painful, swollen

bruised

elbow that had elicited a call to the retirement area doctor to diagnose,

possible x-rays.

I booked off work and drove the over hour distance to find that the doctor had

termed it a

" bump " injury, thankfully not the dislocated or broken bone scenario I was

imagining that

might require surgery. I had to get my mind into gear to think about scenarios

and how to

question them while highway driving.

Thankfully her doctor is scheduled in tomorrow to confirm the diagnosis. By the

time I

arrived the swelling had subsided, she was comfortable with her arm on a pillow,

HUGE

bruise evident.

Evening staff have expressed difficulty undressing her due to rigidity, open

back tops are

on their way. However, a very caring day person claimed that with gentle caring

and time

that undressing should not cause injury. I told them that if necessary, to cut

her top off

this evening.

Now I have to lodge a complaint that will be followed up. With that kind of

injury Mom

would have elicited a verbal OW I am sure. Undressing, getting caught in the

bathroom

doorway via the lift, bed rails, not sure.

I hate to see her hurt, know that some if it is due to her fighting care. This

goes beyond

that.

The day off work gave me the opportunity to join my husband and his family in

the vigil of

FIL's demise. He is actively dying, should not still be here, a fighter.

Difficult times.

All happening in the same city, thank goodness, albeit an hour from our home.

, Oakville Ont.

Mom 92, 12 1/2 years " Parkinsons "

3 1/2 years ago LBD diagnosis, evident much longer in hindsight.

Encouraged to give up her licence 6 years ago.

Currently immobile, in tilt wheelchair, spoonfed pureed food. Spends most of

days behind

closed eyes.

Eltroxin, Tylenol twice a day.

Off Aricept since Feb./06