Re: Illusions (cut)

[Guest guest]

Hi Myrna,

I see that you live in Missouri. I'm originally from Arkansas, so

that's not too far away.

Yes, my FIL has had paranoia for about a year or two. It started

with him insisting he lock every single door in the house each time

he and my MIL stepped outside. They could just go out on their

backporch and he'd have to lock all the doors. It was a routine he'd

go through. Then, he became paranoid about needing guns all over the

house. My MIL would find loaded guns he'd hidden in drawers,

closets, under the bed, etc. She finally collected them all and had

my brother-in-law lock them in a gun safe. He now asks my MIL time

and time again, " How will I protect you if someone tries to harm

you? " His latest episode of paranoia is that he thinks the lady who

lives next door is looking at him with her binoculars. So, he keeps

the blinds in their bathroom shut all the time. He'll say, "

is on her perch again " . Very strange how this has evolved.

Best wishes,

April

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> I don't know if Jerry will ever like adult day care. He has been

going once a week now since December and every Wednesday night

before going on Thursday, he tries to reason and temper tantrum ways

that he doesn't have to go. I just keep insisting and taking him

regularly. I need it so badly. A day of quiet is so wonderful.

Just to be able to run to Wal-Mart to pick up something without

helping him into the car, belting him in and hearing the complaints

of how long I will be is so great. I feel so selfish. Lately he

has had this illusion that there is a man at the home who has the

same name as he has and lives down the street from us and that he

might be taking money out of our bank account or that I am seeing

him. I called the day care and while there is another man there

named Jerry, he does not have our same last name and he is not from

our city. This is always such an argument when I try to assure him

that this is not so. I didn't mean to write a book, but wanted to

know if any of the rest of you have this sort of paranoid/illusion

event.

> Myrna (68) in Missouri

> Caregiver for Husband Jerry (70)

> Diagnosed AD 1997, LBD 2004

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[Guest guest]

Myrna,

Maybe he needs to go more than once a week! He would be more use to it if he

attended 2 or 3 days and if you can afford it, it may help him to be more use

to it.

They often have support for people who use daycare and it may not have to cost

all that much more.

I believe you are doing him a favor by taking him to day care. If you are

better able to cope with take care of him, you are doing him a favor. He also

need to " do " some things to socialize and there is no better place than day

care.

When I was taking care of Mom, they told me she did fine and liked day care,

until I showed up. Then she complained to me and acted as if it were miserable.

So they can be pretty manipulative.

YOU ARE NOT BEING SELFISH!!!!!!!

You have right to some spare time for you.

Hugs and lots of " GO GIRL " to you.

Donna R

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Illusions (cut)

[Guest guest]

Donna: That's an idea. I don't know if I am strong enough to approach the

twice a week to day care subject. But will think about it. Thanks for the

suggestion.

Myrna (68) in Missouri

Caregiver for Husband Jerry (70)

Diagnosed AD 1997, LBD 2004

Donna said: Maybe he needs to go more than once a week! He would be more use to

it if he attended 2 or 3 days and if you can afford it, it may help him to be

more use to it.