telling the truth

[Guest guest]

i have tried the 'honesty is the best policy' and i found it to be

rather cruel. my fiance is always telling me to be honest with her, but

when i tell the truth sometimes, we get into a fight, or she cries,

etc. so now i am living by the policy that says that lying to others is

okay, so long as we do not lie to ourselves. i find this one much

easier and less cruel. at least it helps me maintain my integrity to

myself.