Rose

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Dear Rose,

Your experience reminds me of the one I have with Lynn, my sister.

You might remember me doing The Work on her...especially when I was

very honest with her and Lynn got angry and hung up the phone on me.

It seems that my honesty was just the ticket and the right thing to

do. Although Lynn has not called me back, I found out that she is

still planning on visiting my parents (after all the drama and

threatening).

I am also a softie and hate to anger others....but I took the honest

route because I was tired of tiptoeing around her anger. I was not so

afraid of hurting her or wanting her approval. I do love her and

support her but couldn't listen and support her " poor me " and " Mom and

Dad are evil " story anymore. My motivation was to be honest for my own

sanity.

Love you peaches,

nne

> now what is my motivation in this?

> i see that she suffers. she's not happy. no one of her family seems

> to be happy. it's kind of getting like felting. the tension

> increases.

> if i can be of any help i'm willing to do it. but how could it be?

> i am in a process of letting the answers coming.

> it's not that i want her to change for me. i'm willing to let her

> go. i'm willing to let her die. they, her husband and herself, say

> they take us (my darling and me) as a role model, for they feel that

> we are like a soul bonded pair, and they just admire how we coped

> with our story (my disease/and damaged body).

> it's kind of weird. we're there with them at the table. one couple

> happy, the other in stress.

> i thought i might take a last attempt, asking her that i would have

> to share something, and if she's interested. but to be honest, i

> have difficulties to decide if i want to do that to me.

> her " energetic attacks " are intensive. i'm a softie. i like it

> peaceful. i know the term spiritual warrier. hm. i like being clear,

> being frankly, being open, signalising boundaries, but i'm not

> interested in fighting.

> what is it, she's teaching me?

> to live with the fact to love a person, that doesn't want to talk

> about " it " .

> i got a lot of benefits out of her refusal to talk about the lasted

> dissonances. so it's like an unanswered letter, i get a benefit.

> so i am grateful.

> i could go to her and just share, without asking, like as if i had

> no idea that there could be a thought that someone doesn't like to

> listen. but isn't that the ultimative overwhelming/interfering in

> her business. and would it do any good to her. she's dealing with

> traumas.

> so? any ideas from you?

> thanks for reading this far! this is all i can collect in this

> moment, to make the puzzle somehow complete, as far as i can see it

> in this moment. i'm sure i forgot something.

> r

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