Re: What is the purpose of your life?

September 7, 2006

my sharing regarding your posting:

these questions. yes, they have occured over a long period of time.

and many more. i have no more interest in them. i just realised that

i don't have control over my life. i live with the unknown in every

moment.

i had my share in philosophies and bleefsystems. i was a fan of

exquisitly chosen ones.

and yes! i even have had materialisations. wonderful things. and yes

i know there are people who make millions with books like, " you

create your own reality " (how to materialize the world/life you

want). but my experience is: it works s o m e t i m e s . not

always. what always works is, i have no control over it.

l learned that through my physics (body), and by observing my mind.

can you (i) absolutely know that any statement of any

religion/philosophy/teaching is true? even the most worshipped ones,

like buddhism, hinduism, judaism, christianity, metaphysics, ... .

is it your (my) o w n experience?

as long as it isn't my own experience i say " could be " today. i am

fine with not knowing. giving up the grip to all concepts feel

rather fine for me.

just rose's sharing r

> Can you share that answer with us?

September 7, 2006

Dear AC,

Life has a purpose? Is that true?

I can not find any proof of that.

Can we find something real and meaningful in an illusion? We can

think that there is, but it is only more illusion.

I have heard say that the first lie was " I " .

So, I live? I work? I do?

They are all really good stories, but for me, they are simply

stories. They are all part of this illusion we call " our life " . All

just part of the complex story we have written to avoid the Truth

that we are Peace, Love and Happiness.

I do not expect anyone else to believe this, for it is based upon my

own experience. When I first did The Work on " I am " and found that

the turn around was at least as true, if not truer " I am not " , my

mind was literally blown. I also found that " I am not " was the most

peaceful of the two choices. If " I am " was true then " doing " seemed

to go along with that and that doing brought with it responsibilities.

I can assure you that it took awhile to become comfortable with the

concept that my life has no purpose, but once I did, I became much

more peaceful.

Now, when it appears that I have all these preferences, it seems

really insane. How can " no one " have preferences? So, I inquire

into these preferences of mind and I see that they are merely habits

of thinking.

I notice right now that I prefered to type this post rather than to

take a walk? And I am aware that non of that is true.

Love, Steve D.

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> What is the purpose of my life?

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> Why do I live?

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> Why do I " work " ?

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> Why do I " do " ?

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> These are the questions I have asked myself many times.

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> I can't say I have found any " real " answers

> because none of my answers have stayed.

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> Why do I " work " ...

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> Why do I " do " ...

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> when paece, happiness, inner love is not

> dependent on things outside, on the results

> of what I do or what I accomplish...

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> Why do I " do " ...

> when all that is really important to me is

> paece...

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> and, when peace is not dependent on anything that

> I do?

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> Do these questions occur to you too?

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> Have they EVER occured to you?

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> Have you found any real answer to them?

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> Can you share that answer with us?

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September 7, 2006

Thanks for your reply, SD!

Please allow me to ask it another way.

What are the guiding principles in your life?

When presented with choices how do you

make decision on which one to choose?

What guides and dictates your " goals " ?

What guides and dictates your " objectives " ?

What guides and dictates your long

and short term planning?

When faced with situations that

are not 'pleasurable' and comforting

to the body... what makes you

bear them... for what end?

Regards,

Arvind.

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> > What is the purpose of my life?

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> > Why do I live?

> >

> > Why do I " work " ?

> >

> > Why do I " do " ?

> >

> > These are the questions I have asked myself many times.

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> > I can't say I have found any " real " answers

> > because none of my answers have stayed.

> >

> > Why do I " work " ...

> >

> > Why do I " do " ...

> >

> > when paece, happiness, inner love is not

> > dependent on things outside, on the results

> > of what I do or what I accomplish...

> >

> > Why do I " do " ...

> > when all that is really important to me is

> > paece...

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> > and, when peace is not dependent on anything that

> > I do?

> >

> > Do these questions occur to you too?

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> > Have they EVER occured to you?

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> > Have you found any real answer to them?

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> > Can you share that answer with us?

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September 7, 2006

Core Belief: My life should have a purpose.

Is it true? Yes.

Can I absolutely know that it’s true? No.

How do I react when I believe the thought “My life should have a purpose?” I

experience fear because I don’t know what my purpose is and I think I should

know. I try to figure it out, and I experience a great deal of stress and

anxiety. It feels like I am letting God and the world down. I am wasting

not only everyone else’s time, but my own life as well.

I believe that what I actually do is small and that I need to be important.

I need to do something big. I feel like some greater outcome depends on me.

This is stressful and confusing.

I make plans, actually many plans, that I think will serve this unknown

purpose. My plan rarely matches what actually happens.

I feel urgency when I believe this thought. I feel great internal pressure

to complete a worthwhile purpose before I die. Since I can’t know when that

will be, I have to get this purpose (that I have no clue about) accomplished

quickly. I experience a sense of stupidity and failure. This leaves me

depressed.

Do I see a reason to drop this story? Yes. When I believe this story, I

envy some people. I think they have found their purpose and are clear about

it. I imitate these people and I try to impress them. I even pretend to

take on their purpose as my purpose. I come at them in a very phony way,

and actually keep myself very separate from them.

Do I see one peaceful reason to keep this story? No. They are all

stressful. When I believe the story, I am very hard on myself. I discount

all the parts of my life that I think are not serving what I think my

purpose should be. I am rarely available to enjoy life. I believe that

there are right and wrong ways for me to live out this phony identification

as “someone with a purpose.” I make a lot of rules for myself that match my

definition of “someone with a purpose.” I think every thought, feeling and

action has to serve my purpose, e.g. What I wear, what I eat, who I talk to,

what I read, etc. I limit my experience of life and then wonder why I am

left wanting. All my reasons are stressful.

Who would I be without the thought that my life should have a purpose? I

could really experience a lot of joy in my life. When I imagine myself

without this thought, I feel self-accepting, as though that were my purpose.

I am peaceful, doing the thing in front of me, no goals, no decisions, not

trying to impress anyone or live up to any imagined expectations. I see

myself as energized, fearless, loving, and purpose-full.

Without attachment to this thought, I am on permanent mental vacation —

living my purpose, doing what I know to do, each and every moment.

The turnaround. My life should not have a purpose. Or my life as it is

already lived is the purpose. That’s not only equal and ordinary, but is a

lot less stressful. Could peace be my purpose? It seems as true. One

answer feels as intelligent as the other, and the turnaround feels less

stressful to live with.

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