Pandy

[Guest guest]

Hi Pandy

We have expectations of people and when they don't 'live' up to them we are

angry, disappointed etc. We tell ourselves they are not exhibiting normal

behaviour.

I'm sure if I'd had the conversation you had I would initially have been pissed

off. But it would have been my expectation that I would be talking to a loving

human being, soaked in the Work, with a beatific smile and only endless time and

patience. What I would have got was a human being, probably doing a full time

job, plus organising a big event (usually unpaid), maybe tired and hungry, maybe

just got off the phone for the umpteenth time and maybe even had a row with his

girlfriend.

Question one is where we confront our relationship with reality/ He should have

been ? He wasn't. He should have been exactly as he was because that's the

reality of the situation. The rest is just our thoughts and beliefs.

You don't need to get hung up on the first two questions - even if you answer

yes in your heart to both, just carry on to the other questions and see what

comes up. When I look at my belief that People shouldn't eat meat - I can't

find a genuine yes to that, but by doing the rest of the Work I realised that I

could allow people their own beliefs without raging about them in my mind all

the time.

And I'm sorry you didn't have a good reaction to your enquiry about the Work -

you could always do a full work sheet on the guy and then ask him if he would

like to see it? And you might be amazed about what you find out about yourself

and the times when you maybe aren't as helpful as you might be!

With love

Helen