Guest guest Posted March 12, 2006 Report Posted March 12, 2006 In a message dated 3/11/2006 5:58:33 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, olli_26@... writes: Dear , where is it, that the pain kicks in? ***well, until i talked w/ danny last night and got it all straightened out, the pain came from a feeling/thought/belief of not being good enough. not having that 'whatever' that made me valuable, and i felt disposable and 'disposed-of'. we talked last night, and i found out that they are not looking to replace me w/ anyone else, danny just wants to be the only guitarist in the band. now that could provoke a lot of stories about arrogance and self-aggrandizement, but it doesn't. i feel just fine about the whole thing. thank you for asking me, jeremy I am asking, because it doesn't sound like it's a " they made the wrong choice " . Do you feel they made a mistake you wish to correct, or is it... what is that, wich makes you feel uneasy, ? Love, Am 11.03.2006 um 22:48 schrieb jmknapp74@...: > i got fired from my band today. they were very gracious and > polite about > it, and it still hurts. > > i shouldn't have gotten fired. > IIT? no. > > HOW DO I REACT? when they told me, i reacted w/ complete > equanimity and > understanding. i told them to relax, that it was totally fine w/ > me. inside i > felt embarrassed and humiliated because in general they told me > i'm not good > enough to be in the band. i hate that they will be taking my > guitar tracks > off of our recordings. i feel like a loser, a failure. it feels > like another > opportunity lost, and another proof that i don't have what it > takes to > 'succeed'. these feelings are familiar to me. i don't want to > tell R about this. > > WHO WOULD I BE W/OUT THIS BELIEF? indifferent. possibly happy > and looking > forward to what life brings my way next. laughing about it > because i am > completely aware that i wasn't up to par with the other guys in > the band. they > are pros and i'm an amateur. not pinning the meaning 'failure' on > to it. > not taking it too seriously. > > TA's. > > i should've gotten fired. apparently yes. > > i didn't get fired. ??? > > my thinking shouldn't fire me. yes. it's my thoughts that are > painful. > very harsh and critical and always watching my every move w/ a > microscope, > punishing me when i screw up. > > > > > danny makes me feel like a loser = i make me feel like a loser = > my thinking > makes me feel like a loser. > > hm. > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been removed] > > > > > Yahoo! Groups Links > > > > > > ___________________________________________________________ Telefonate ohne weitere Kosten vom PC zum PC: http://messenger.yahoo.de Quote
Guest guest Posted March 14, 2006 Report Posted March 14, 2006 Dear , Didn't get my hands on the computer the last days, now I found I still had a mail ready for you. Here it is, enjoy! So what I hear is that you felt not-being-good-enough, until you found out that's not the reason for you being in that band anymore. And how would you feel, if they actually DID throw you out, because their take is that you are not good enough? How do you feel towards the group? And what you worte about that rock buisness... do you think it may be worth filling out a jyn-worksheet about it? Love, Am 12.03.2006 um 17:00 schrieb jmknapp74@...: > In a message dated 3/11/2006 5:58:33 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, > olli_26@... writes: > > Dear , > > where is it, that the pain kicks in? > ***well, until i talked w/ danny last night and got it all > straightened out, > the pain came from a feeling/thought/belief of not being good > enough. not > having that 'whatever' that made me valuable, and i felt disposable > and > 'disposed-of'. > > we talked last night, and i found out that they are not looking to > replace > me w/ anyone else, danny just wants to be the only guitarist in the > band. now > that could provoke a lot of stories about arrogance and self- > aggrandizement, > but it doesn't. i feel just fine about the whole thing. > > thank you for asking me, > > jeremy > > > > I am asking, because it doesn't sound like it's a " they made the > wrong choice " . Do you feel they made a mistake you wish to correct, > or is it... > what is that, wich makes you feel uneasy, ? > > Love, > > > Am 11.03.2006 um 22:48 schrieb jmknapp74@...: > >> i got fired from my band today. they were very gracious and >> polite about >> it, and it still hurts. >> >> i shouldn't have gotten fired. >> IIT? no. >> >> HOW DO I REACT? when they told me, i reacted w/ complete >> equanimity and >> understanding. i told them to relax, that it was totally fine w/ >> me. inside i >> felt embarrassed and humiliated because in general they told me >> i'm not good >> enough to be in the band. i hate that they will be taking my >> guitar tracks >> off of our recordings. i feel like a loser, a failure. it feels >> like another >> opportunity lost, and another proof that i don't have what it >> takes to >> 'succeed'. these feelings are familiar to me. i don't want to >> tell R about this. >> >> WHO WOULD I BE W/OUT THIS BELIEF? indifferent. possibly happy >> and looking >> forward to what life brings my way next. laughing about it >> because i am >> completely aware that i wasn't up to par with the other guys in >> the band. they >> are pros and i'm an amateur. not pinning the meaning 'failure' on >> to it. >> not taking it too seriously. >> >> TA's. >> >> i should've gotten fired. apparently yes. >> >> i didn't get fired. ??? >> >> my thinking shouldn't fire me. yes. it's my thoughts that are >> painful. >> very harsh and critical and always watching my every move w/ a >> microscope, >> punishing me when i screw up. >> >> >> >> >> danny makes me feel like a loser = i make me feel like a loser = >> my thinking >> makes me feel like a loser. >> >> hm. >> >> >> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed] >> >> >> >> >> Yahoo! Groups Links >> >> >> >> >> >> > > > > > > > ___________________________________________________________ > Telefonate ohne weitere Kosten vom PC zum PC: http:// > messenger.yahoo.de > > > > Quote
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