Re: updates on my progress (some ups and downs)

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In a message dated 6/28/2004 3:13:17 PM Central Daylight Time,

dotterofthemoon@... writes:

well, thanx all for letting me ramble. sometimes i just need to get

it all out!

love ya all!

nancy in reno

and this is a wonderful place to do that,sweetie...but,you worried me..mental

abuse is abuse..period...he has no right to do that to you,and it is not ever

your fault..you do not control what comes out of his mouth...i pray that he

will seek help,sweetie,and soon...i hate to think of you being treated this

way....(((Hugs)))) Carmen

[Guest guest]

Im sorry to hear about your husband, but Im so glad you found

Alanon, it can help you stay sane through it all. Ive been around

alcoholics all my life and I consider myself a recovering one today, I

havent drank since I was 23, Im 43 now. I so much admire the women in

Alanon, they have the patience and love of saints I swear!!

--- Pea wrote:

---------------------------------

dear friends,

seems like sometimes nothing but downs hit you and i swear that has

been what it seems like has been happening for the last month. first

of all i have an ear/sinus infection that just won't leave. talk

about uninvited guests and the lease agreement being up. i'm on the

last of my 3rd set of antibiotics (i call them eviction notices for

bad tenant germs) and i woke up this morning w/a fever. who knows if

its the same old thing (my ear still hurts) or something new! either

way, these germs are harder to evict than a drug dealer in

california.

our camping trip went ok. but, the augmentin really put me thru my

paces. where we went had no bathroom facilities and i had to perch

on rocks. i will tell you, rocks do not make the best toilet.

then i just finally admitted to myself that my husband of just over

one year is an alcoholic. luckily for me, he is only mentally

abusive and only if i harrass him about it. he has been on edge

lately and it started to escalate before the camping trip and really

finally hit rock bottom when we got back. well, the whole thing

brought out the problems i wasn't willing to admit were there and

got me going to al-anon meetings, (if i hadn't i probably would have

just left and never seen him again). but, they helped me see that

alcohol is a sickness and that deep down inside is a sober man that

wants to be free, he just is scared.

i know i can't make him quit drinking or do it for him. but, i can

stand by his side and be supportive w/o enabling him as i was doing.

no buying him alcohol, no fighting w/him when he is drunk, no

harrassing him about his drinking and no stressing myself out about

it either. the ppl at Al-Anon have been totally supportive of me and

i have gone to 2 meetings so far. they have been very educational

and also have helped me in other facets of my life. i swear they are

the best anger management class i ever went to.

also they have a chat group here in yahoo groups and i subcribed to

it. its really helpful at times like today when i cant get to a

meeting but need one.

also thursday i got a letter from SSA (just after i talked to a

lying b-word on the 800 number) saying i was denied for SSD. well,

im getting a lawyer and a new rheumatologist. i think she told them

that i have my fibromyalgia under control. im gonna petition them to

send me copies of what they recieved. then throw that back in the

rheumy and the insurances face.

well, thanx all for letting me ramble. sometimes i just need to get

it all out!

love ya all!

nancy in reno

1. While it is wonderful to share our experiences with everyone on the

list as to what treatments do and don't work for us, pls always check

with your dr. Some treatments are dangerous when given along with

other meds as well as to certain health conditions or just dangerous in

general.

2. If you are in a difficult situation (doesn't matter what it is) pls

don't be afraid to ask for help. It is the first step to trying to

make that situation better.

Have a nice day everyone.

[Guest guest]

,

I am sorry that things seem to be going rough right now. I hope that

your infections clear up soon... sometimes don't know what's worse -

the infections or the side effects of the antibiotics.

I am glad that you found al-anon. I went there for awhile when I was

with my ex-husband. I hope you can get the support there that you

need - it is a difficult road to travel.

((((HUGS))))

a

> dear friends,

>

> seems like sometimes nothing but downs hit you and i swear that

has

> been what it seems like has been happening for the last month. <

[Guest guest]

Hi , Alanon is a great organization. I went for a long time.... but now do

not go. Dh is sober and dry for about 25 years. There is a lot of stuff with

alcoholism, and I am just glad u have the Alanon group. If you ever want to

talk you can email me off line. dash

Re: updates on my progress (some ups and

downs)

Im sorry to hear about your husband, but Im so glad you found

Alanon, it can help you stay sane through it all. Ive been around

alcoholics all my life and I consider myself a recovering one today, I

havent drank since I was 23, Im 43 now. I so much admire the women in

Alanon, they have the patience and love of saints I swear!!

--- Pea wrote:

---------------------------------

dear friends,

seems like sometimes nothing but downs hit you and i swear that has

been what it seems like has been happening for the last month. first

of all i have an ear/sinus infection that just won't leave. talk

about uninvited guests and the lease agreement being up. i'm on the

last of my 3rd set of antibiotics (i call them eviction notices for

bad tenant germs) and i woke up this morning w/a fever. who knows if

its the same old thing (my ear still hurts) or something new! either

way, these germs are harder to evict than a drug dealer in

california.

our camping trip went ok. but, the augmentin really put me thru my

paces. where we went had no bathroom facilities and i had to perch

on rocks. i will tell you, rocks do not make the best toilet.

then i just finally admitted to myself that my husband of just over

one year is an alcoholic. luckily for me, he is only mentally

abusive and only if i harrass him about it. he has been on edge

lately and it started to escalate before the camping trip and really

finally hit rock bottom when we got back. well, the whole thing

brought out the problems i wasn't willing to admit were there and

got me going to al-anon meetings, (if i hadn't i probably would have

just left and never seen him again). but, they helped me see that

alcohol is a sickness and that deep down inside is a sober man that

wants to be free, he just is scared.

i know i can't make him quit drinking or do it for him. but, i can

stand by his side and be supportive w/o enabling him as i was doing.

no buying him alcohol, no fighting w/him when he is drunk, no

harrassing him about his drinking and no stressing myself out about

it either. the ppl at Al-Anon have been totally supportive of me and

i have gone to 2 meetings so far. they have been very educational

and also have helped me in other facets of my life. i swear they are

the best anger management class i ever went to.

also they have a chat group here in yahoo groups and i subcribed to

it. its really helpful at times like today when i cant get to a

meeting but need one.

also thursday i got a letter from SSA (just after i talked to a

lying b-word on the 800 number) saying i was denied for SSD. well,

im getting a lawyer and a new rheumatologist. i think she told them

that i have my fibromyalgia under control. im gonna petition them to

send me copies of what they recieved. then throw that back in the

rheumy and the insurances face.

well, thanx all for letting me ramble. sometimes i just need to get

it all out!

love ya all!

nancy in reno

1. While it is wonderful to share our experiences with everyone on the

list as to what treatments do and don't work for us, pls always check

with your dr. Some treatments are dangerous when given along with

other meds as well as to certain health conditions or just dangerous in

general.

2. If you are in a difficult situation (doesn't matter what it is) pls

don't be afraid to ask for help. It is the first step to trying to

make that situation better.

Have a nice day everyone.

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 6/28/2004 10:15:27 PM Central Daylight Time,

campiano@... writes:

Carmen, your letter was excellent and I agree with you. Mental abuse is

abuse and probably will lead to physical abuse. Love, Cam

thank you,Cam...i have been through all the types of abuse,and i know that

the mental abuse is there still,in my head,constantly...(((hugs))) carmen