Guest guest Posted October 22, 2004 Report Share Posted October 22, 2004 Liz This is how it sounds to me. You are experiencing withdrawal symptoms obvious and part of that will be irritation etc. That part will pass. It will not only be this though, you are feeling your feelings, feelings you may not have felt for a long time and so their might feel alien to you. Here's a thought: maybe your husband IS irritating! That being the case, and only you can know, then your response is perfectly valid. You say you come from a long line of irritated women. That is one perspective. Here's another: maybe you come from a long line of powerful women who resent having to put up with irritating behaviour from others. Your present perspective seems to demonise your own emotions and those of your forebears. Anger, what is the problem with anger. Anger is God's gift, anger is there to PROTECT us. Anger is not negative. RAGE, which is negative, develops when healthy anger/irritation is kept in over a long period and then it explodes intermittently and in an unfocussed way. We all have rage to some extent because we are all brought in in a dyfunctional society, where emotional intelligence is undervalued or not valued at all. I, for one, was never shown ways to be at ease with my emotions, any emotions. I learned this 'on the hoof' so to speak. Men are used to women being submissive, traditionally. For submissive you could substitute 'calm' ! Also traditionally, men tell us women that we are being 'hysterical' and 'irrational' when we have a healthy response to oppressive behaviour. I view oppressive behaviour as any behaviour from another to whom I relate that tries to prevent me from being my real self. I would suggest you continue to be your REAL self, because that is all we have ultimately, when you strip away everything else, and that then has to make it the most precious thing in the world to you. Perspective is important so maybe you could avail of a few sessions with a counsellor/alone. Alone. For you. If couples counselling is on the cards then that could be a separate activity maybe? It is horrendous in its implications that your husband prefers you 'drugged'. Go girl! All the best from Mo x ps the menopause can tend to amplify feelings but only when they are there in the first place, signalling to you, guiding you, which is their right and their purpose. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 22, 2004 Report Share Posted October 22, 2004 I don't have that wonderful CALMNESS I had when on Prozac. It seems I am constantly irritated and everything that usually doesn't upset me, upsets me. On Prozac everything was calm and I could handle anything. . . . I'm ok with my children (grown) but my husband and I need marriage counseling more than ever now. He does not like me off Prozac ) Dear Liz: First of all, 25 days is nothing in the scheme of jettisoning these drugs. In fact, with Prozac, the half-life is so long that it stays in your system for 7 weeks after your last hit. So, from what you are describing, it seems like you are just NOW starting to go through withdrawals. I'm lucky I STILL have a husband after the verbal abuse I gave him while I was getting off Paxil. That "calm" you felt while on the drug is an artificial state. You were in a chemical straitjacket, and the fact that your husband likes you like that is alarming to ME! Even at this point in time, you cannot assume that your are NOT being affected by this drug, but I'm sure that has some tips on what you can take to alleviate some of these symptoms. "Blind Reason" a novel of pharmaceutical intrigue Think your antidepressant is safe? Think again. It's Unsafe At Any Dose Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 22, 2004 Report Share Posted October 22, 2004 Thanks for the thoughts and ideas Mo. I am in counseling, and it's time for him to go too. I am being my real self but I don't like her much. Liz > Liz > This is how it sounds to me. You are experiencing withdrawal symptoms > obvious and part of that will be irritation etc. That part will pass. It will not > only be this though, you are feeling your feelings, feelings you may not have > felt for a long time and so their might feel alien to you. > Here's a thought: maybe your husband IS irritating! That being the case, and > only you can know, then your response is perfectly valid. You say you come > from a long line of irritated women. That is one perspective. Here's another: > maybe you come from a long line of powerful women who resent having to put up > with irritating behaviour from others. Your present perspective seems to > demonise your own emotions and those of your forebears. Anger, what is the > problem with anger. Anger is God's gift, anger is there to PROTECT us. Anger is > not negative. RAGE, which is negative, develops when healthy anger/irritation > is kept in over a long period and then it explodes intermittently and in an > unfocussed way. We all have rage to some extent because we are all brought in > in a dyfunctional society, where emotional intelligence is undervalued or not > valued at all. I, for one, was never shown ways to be at ease with my > emotions, any emotions. I learned this 'on the hoof' so to speak. Men are used to > women being submissive, traditionally. For submissive you could substitute > 'calm' ! > Also traditionally, men tell us women that we are being 'hysterical' and > 'irrational' when we have a healthy response to oppressive behaviour. I view > oppressive behaviour as any behaviour from another to whom I relate that tries > to prevent me from being my real self. > > I would suggest you continue to be your REAL self, because that is all we > have ultimately, when you strip away everything else, and that then has to make > it the most precious thing in the world to you. > Perspective is important so maybe you could avail of a few sessions with a > counsellor/alone. Alone. For you. If couples counselling is on the cards then > that could be a separate activity maybe? > It is horrendous in its implications that your husband prefers you > 'drugged'. Go girl! > > All the best from Mo x > > ps the menopause can tend to amplify feelings but only when they are there > in the first place, signalling to you, guiding you, which is their right and > their purpose. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 22, 2004 Report Share Posted October 22, 2004 > > Dear Liz: First of all, 25 days is nothing in the scheme of jettisoning > these drugs. In fact, with Prozac, the half-life is so long that it stays in your > system for 7 weeks after your last hit. So, from what you are describing, it > seems like you are just NOW starting to go through withdrawals. I'm lucky I > STILL have a husband after the verbal abuse I gave him while I was getting > off Paxil. That " calm " you felt while on the drug is an artificial state. You > were in a chemical straitjacket, and the fact that your husband likes you like > that is alarming to ME! Even at this point in time, you cannot assume that y > our are NOT being affected by this drug, but I'm sure that has some > tips on what you can take to alleviate some of these symptoms. I read that you can experience symptoms even after 6 months. I try to not spend a whole lot of time with my dh right now. We seem to inevitably get into an arguement over something...anything. It's easier just not to talk much right now. I'm hopeful things will get better eventually. Liz Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 23, 2004 Report Share Posted October 23, 2004 I like her, because she is honest and thoughtful of others, and sensitive and kind... and.... and..... and.... Love from Mo x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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