Re: Home schooling

[Guest guest]

We're going to homeschool. I suppose if you had experienced the

public school and private school route you'd maybe have a different

view. In the end, I think these issues listed seem more like

borderline issues vs homeschool issues. I've met lots of nice young

men and women who were homeschooled who seem to fit in society just

fine- not some weirdos who missed some staged of development.

Furthermore, there's no literature to support your assertions in so

far as socialization. Even though we do tend even at this young age

to have our boys involved in lots of various things where they have

much exposure to other kids. In fact this week I was thinking too

much exposure as one of our friends whose boys are both a year older

than my two boys just came down w/chicken pox and yours truly never

had it (and I went to public schools! ha!). We don't sit around the

house much. But I found public school very boring and the social

systems I learned in public school are not indicative of true

life/reality when I tested them out. I did learn some good things and

made a few lifelong friends, but again I've got my kids involved

w/outside stuff where they have ample opportunity to meet others.

We've weighed the pros and cons and considering two of my dearest

friends are public school teachers who say if they were in my shoes

they'd homeschool, well, we are quite comfortable w/our decision.

Sorry you had such a bad experience. It is truly my assessment that

these issues seem more KO related than homeschool in isolation. I'm

sure being a homeschooled KO would be even harder and in that regard

I do think it is sad that some kids are homeschooled by neurotic

parents. That would be hard to overcome. In the end though, I think

all mentally ill families are hard to overcome and no matter what

school you went to, you simply mess important developmental processes

just b/c of the ways we were raised.

Kerrie

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> Someone recently posted on homes chooling. I was home schooled.

I

> as a child loved it. I as an adult regret it. I was very smart and

I

> refused to go to school due to the stresses of home life. That fed

into

> nada's hand. She had me around more. I thought it was great. I did

> about 90 minutes of academics 5 days a week and did my homework on

my

> own. That was one of the reasons that I am very independent. I know

> all the problems within public shools and all the reasons why alot

of

> people like home schooling, but I was the kid who lived it. Like I

> said as a kid I though it was great, but I missed out on the

natural

> progression of things. There are so many lessons that going to

school

> teaches you that goes beyond a class room. A child needs that

social

> intermingling, all the good and bad. A child needs a sense of self

> seperate from even the most well intentions of parents. No matter

how

> much you think you can give a child a more perfect experience being

> taught at home, there are things they lose. Things that good and

bad,

> rightfully belong to them. Home schooling creates a sense of safety

> but int robs you of the reality of the real world. I never felt

like I

> fit in growing up, as a kid it is important to belong, to be one of

> the crownd, away from mom and dad. Only than do we pull away from

> everyone and create our own idenities. Being independent is

important,

> but so is belonging and feeling like you belong.

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