Re: diagnoses?

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Oh my gosh -- that's a great one: The BPD sees the world as full

of " Functioning Attention Providers " . That's exactly my role to my

nada!!! I am not to be an object of attention, my role is to

provide it for the BPD.....

Brilliant!

>

> I'll agree that projection is probably the main issue Boarderline's

> have. Any feelings they have that they will-not or can-not express

> themselves is put on someone else, but I don't think it's just the

> negative feelings.

>

> I mentioned in another post not long ago, my Fada would say " your

> mother misses you " when he hadn't seen me in a while. But also,

when

> he likes something, or think's he's done something well, he always

> justifies it by what someone else has said about it. Fada says

> " So-n-so said my car looks brand new! " referring to a mid-90's POS

> mini-van.

>

> I think this goes along with any relationships a BP has is based on

> how that person gives attention to the BP. My brother once said

all

> my dad is looking for in someone to have a conversation with is a

> " functioning attention provider. "

>

> But I have little experience with BP's outside of my own father.

>

> Oh yea, and if any of my friends thought it should be an ok thing

for

> him to bring home any woman, let alone an 18yr old female who's " in

> love " with him, and have any kind of conversation with her behind

> closed doors while his wife wasn't at home, I'd tell him he was f-

ing

> nuts! That's just skeeeeeevvyyy.

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