Re: Flea ()

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Hi, ,

I definitely do want to validate your experience with homeschooling--I have

seen many families in which I think the kids would be better off in the long

run (in my opinion) attending school. I have seen that phenomenon " up close and

in person " so many times, that I feel sad to think of " little " going

through that experience.

I also hear this: the way you are seeing it, for you, it's not really a " nada

issue " . It's okay for you to interpret things however yo usee them. Yet if I

had been homeschooled by my nada, I think it would have been a horrible thing

for me BECAUSE it was nada. To the extent that I DID have any role models or

adults who were interested in my life, it was people in school, usually the

teachers. That was where I saw mature adult behavior.

Those folks, just by me being able to observe them (even when they were not

taking an active interest in my life), had a role in preserving a small piece

of mental health somewhere in my mind--that, and Mister ! (NOT

kidding--as a preschooler, I thought Mr WAS speaking to me from the tv,

and this was very comforting: " I like you just the way you are " etc.). I cried

when Mr died!

Anyway, like I had been trying to " get at " in my first post, there is a whole

subset of women (the ones I called the " nada-types " ) who are using the

homeschooling, in my opinion, as a way to control and restrict and smother

their kids. They also manage to cause misery in the larger group. So, it's okay

if you see homeschooling as not a nada issue; I see it, when it is not working

to the kids' benefit, as precisely a nada issue--or other dysfunctional parent

issue-- (with the related issues of control, separation, and identity). It's

okay to disagree. But that's why I initially asked for help with it here.

If there is one thing in my life that is extremely important to me, it is

ensuring that my children grow up happy and strong, and are able to follow

their chosen path.

Anyway, thanks for your post. Peace to you.

Flea

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