Re: Disowned

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> I forget where the word " Yeti " comes from....is that one of the

> characters in Star Wars? It's an interesting name.....I like it.

A Yeti is a (some would say mythical) human-like critter who lives in

the snowfields of Eupoe and Canada. It's " common name " is the Abominable

Snowman, but in Mummy Dearest's case, it is the Abominable Snowmum.

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Hi ,

.....Sort of like that children's book about the " Ice Queen. "

I remember that book....hmmm....I wonder if the book is metaphorically

about being raised by a nada.

-Lula

> > I forget where the word " Yeti " comes from....is that one of the

> > characters in Star Wars? It's an interesting name.....I like it.

>

> A Yeti is a (some would say mythical) human-like critter who lives in

> the snowfields of Eupoe and Canada. It's " common name " is the Abominable

> Snowman, but in Mummy Dearest's case, it is the Abominable Snowmum.

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> My mother has had people fired from jobs. She turned my brother into

> zoning, tried to have his ex-girlfriend fired, called the house using

> profane language, and did everything she could to break them up. She

> was successful. Did he forget this?

>

Hi Jewelry,

My Yeti has tried to get ME fired from jobs. I used to work with

children; apparently she rang up the school and told them what a

horrible beast I am, God she wouldn't like to be a child around me, I

had been investigated by Child Protection - apparently I was an unfit

6-year-old, etc etc etc... (This was just after I had been Officially

Disowned; she was trying to get me to rage at her so she could say I was

the BP)

It is true that I have been interviewed by the child protection

services. They were trying to be certain whether I should be completely

removed from her. A teacher of mine had noticed bruises. I must have put

them there myself. All 6 year olds do that, don't they. (This might

sound a but familiar to KOs:) Just one of her " cognitive novelties " is

how everyone else has abused her. She's a *GIFTED* woman at shattering

reality and turning it on it's head, then making it appear

ever-so-believable. She used to punch me so hard she would bruise

*HERSELF*.

I saw the schools counsellor and told them some of the things that went

on during my childhood. I wrote on a piece of paper the single word

" Borderline " . (I gave her Dad's phone number if she needed verification)

she was like OMG OMG OMG Ahhh now the pieces fit together...

Even so, that job did not last all that long after that. And she wonders

why I want nothing whatsoever to do with her...

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> She has had a problem w/ every boyfriend, friend, coworker of

> mine...so I guess the short answer to your question is yes.

I'm sensing colossal enmeshment here. I'll bet she fears, at some level,

that they are going to 'steal' you away from her. It's other people who

steal people away from her, isn't it. Couldn't have anything to do with

her... The fact she tortures them for years, of course, hasn't entered

her mind. Nope, not her.

If she pushes you away, she doesn't have to see you *choose* to be with

her (or not).

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Ah, yes, there was the time he bought her alcohol for her birthday

and being an alcoholic (which I never told him) she felt he was

slighting her.

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Right, I'd say she will never forget that. He had been split black

because he was a threat before he committed the mortal sin of being sane

(I'm assuming he is).

As for your father and brother, I think there might be hope. However,

you don't really have much control over the situation at the moment. I'd

just let things play out for a while.

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> So how do you get past all this?

>

>

OK, you are feeling empty. *N*O*R*M*A*L*. You will for a while no matter

what.

When I both left, and let the cat out of the bag, I was petrified but I

was sick to death of her bullshitting to her new family, blaming me for

bullying/tricking her into breaking my leg (no you read right) while

watching them swallow every single bit of it and more, and look at me

like i was some sort of monster. According to her, what she did to me

was what *her mother* did to *her*, or so she has told them. so I'd be

talking to them, and they'd be anti-me because I dont WORSHIP Yeti, I'm

ever so ungrateful, how they felt sorry for her, Nan did XYZ to her and

Id be like " Huh? WTF? Huh? What? " TALK ABOUT BEING INVASIVE HUMILIATING

AND INVALIDATING ALL AT ONCE. Has anyone else had the " subject

transfer? " Can I have her charged with - like - identity theft?

And why do I sit there and take it? Because Ive learned that this is the

way to a) stay in one piece, and avoid her dragging me through her

psychopathic ultra-hell.

Even though she has no power over me, or at least it was MINIMAL since I

could leave at any time, I was, for years, still like the 3 year old

*petrifed* that she might kill me, the rabbit, Dad, 2 brothers, or do

God knows what insanity. BPs have you constantly terrifed of them. And

you dont begin to notice it when it starts but your abdomen (and arse)

gradually gets so tight that it's pretty well all you can feel.

One day in my bathroom, I noticed something so startlingly glaringly

obvious I damned near fainted. I was a) 30, was bigger than her, and

c) she wasn't there.

And I thought (something along the lines of) " Bugger me, sod you

Yeti!!! "

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