Re: Memory of trip to nada's den

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Oh, going " home! " So many weird things have happened to me on visits

home. I'm finally getting to the point where I don't go or I try not

to stay long--you'd think I'd learn faster.

My nada typically " forgets " the dates of my visits too. She starts

freaking out and getting abandonment anxiety BEFORE I come. She'll

call me repeatedly or accuse me of not wanting to spend time with her.

.. .tiring, isn't it?

It's funny because I'm always surprised by the behavior when I go

home--it's usually freakish, but I don't know why I let it surprise

me! At least something is always consistently weird.

Trish

>

> The posts about nada coming to visit reminds me of a trip that I

> took to see nada and stepfather about 15 years ago. I purchased an

> airline ticket six months in advance to get a good price. I sent

> nada the EXACt dates that I would be flying.

>

> One week before I was scheduled to depart I could not locate nada; I

> called several relatives and finally located them 300 miles from

> their home. They were very annoyed that they HAD to go home and

> wait for me. Remmeber I told them six months earlier what my

> schedule would be for my visit.

>

> The entire visit I had to listen to how inconvenient it was for them

> to come home and see me.

>

> I have cold induced asthma and there was no heat in my room

> (October) until the last day because nada forgot to turn on the

> heat. I am still scratching my head to think that I trusted nada to

> provide me with the basic necessity of heat. Silly me.

>

> They complained constantly about my eating habits. My older brother

> eats a lot (he is 6' 2 " for goodness sake) and I my food consumption

> was compared to him at EVERY meal. And of course I have weight

> issues so my weight was a BIG topic for them to discuss - as if I

> was not in the room.

>

> They had company come over at one point and the people where so

> delighted to visit with nada and stepfather. I watched the

> interaction and realized that NEITHER of them would EVER be that

> cordial to me.

>

> GAD, they are so sick. thanks for listening. take care, mg

>