Bridget and College

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Bridget,

It's so wonderful to see you post this. The exact same thing

happened to me, and I have yet to resolve it. You're the only

person I've seen that this happened to:

'I was like I might get a scholarship and she

felt that was ridiculous b/c I would clearly be abandoning her. I

settled

on a state school I didn't even want to go to- I got into the better

school,

but couldn't go b/c it would be rude to my whole family to show off

and go

to the better school.'

This is exactly what they did to me. I also was supposed to be some

amazing achiever, yet got terrible resistance (and no HELP, god

forbid) when I started applying to out-of-state schools. Some of

them, they promised they had mailed in my application fee when they

HADN'T. Two of them, I got into, but they wouldn't let me go,

accusing me of the same thing--thinking I was better than them!

They also offered me a luxury car if I would stay in state.

If they had supported me and sent me to the schools I could have

gotten in to, that I belonged at, my life would be completely

different today, and, ironically, I would most likely have the

things they want me to have now--money, job, marriage etc. This is

something I have been unable to resolve, especially dishrag's

participation. To me it felt like the ultimate denial of who I am.

They just didn't SEE me, they didn't accept I could have an earnest

desire to go to a competetive school.

I am still angry w/dishrag for this, and he is still angry w/me.

When he pulls bullshit comments about why I'm not famous or in the

top of my field, I am always tempted to say, you wouldn't send me to

the right school to get me there, you (expletive). In fact next

time, I think I will.

Thanks for posting this.

Charlie