Re: nada gift

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OMG !!!! What a dorkette ! I gotta think about a funny gift story; I am

too tired to think right now

Theresa

>

> Thought others might " appreciate " the thought that went into this:

>

> I've been NC since...November? Right around that time I (foolishly

> in retrospect) agreed to let nada /stepfada send my kids Xmas

> gifts. " We've already bought them, blah blah. "

>

> Anyway, since she had " authorization " for the Xmas gifts, nada took

> it upon herself to send the kids a package for Valentine's Day,

> addressed to the kids so they saw it was for them (well, DS saw it was; DD

> can't read yet!).

>

> My son loves to draw and spends hours a day drawing

> cartoons...and remember he is ADHD--if none of you folks has an ADHD kid

> who loves to draw, let me tell you: he doesn't mean to, but he's

> enthusiastic and messy: the ink gets everywhere. (I ought to invest in the

> companies that make carpet-cleaning spot solution and those magic-erase

> sponges, ha.)

>

> But...even if he's careless and leaves an uncapped purple marker

> on light carpet...well, I don't like that part of it, but it makes

> me happy to see him cultivating a talent for something he loves so much.

>

> HOWEVER....nada's " gift " to my son? A set of 24 PERMANENT-INK markers.

>

> Now...nada is not one of those

> " laid-back, let-a-child-loose-with-permanent-ink " kind of gals. (She

> wouldn't let anyone under 30 into her home with ONE permanent marker, fully

> capped.) And she's not a space cadet, who buys sets of permanent markers

> for children by mistake.

>

> The woman bought my messy ADHD child a set of permanent ink markers,

> in the hope that either (1) I wouldn't notice, and he would ruin a

> bunch of stuff with permanent ink; or (2) I would confiscate the markers

> and be the Mean mama.

>

> I did the latter... He would have " understood " in any case, but

> the timing made it even easier... I had just spent half the

> afternoon tracking down special " animator's clay " for him (he also does

> clay animation and other kinds of stop-frame animation), so he was in

> an appreciative frame of mind.

>

> I'm sure others have funny stories about wildly inappropriate nada

> gifts.

>

> Flea

>

>

>

>

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My nada, for Easter one year, decided to absolutely INSIST on buying my daughter

a HUGE lollipop. Now, mind you, I had asked that she not be given any candy

until she was at least a year old because 1:she couldn't handle that amount of

sugar, 2. I was having a tough enough time getting her to eat her baby veggies,

3. Diabetes(esp type 1) runs in our family, and I didn't want to give her a ton

of sugar without knowing. 4. She had GERD, and the pediatrician didn't want us

to introduce new foods too quickly.

Of course, nada didn't listen to me, and gave my then 8 month old baby this

huge lollipop! What did she do? She promptly puked. ON nada. It was hilarious.

And as soon as we were out of nada's house, the lollipop disappeared into a

trash can at a gas station.

Flea Bitten wrote:

Thought others might " appreciate " the thought that went into this:

I've been NC since...November? Right around that time I (foolishly in

retrospect) agreed to let nada /stepfada send my kids Xmas gifts. " We've

already bought them, blah blah. "

Anyway, since she had " authorization " for the Xmas gifts, nada took it upon

herself to send the kids a package for Valentine's Day, addressed to the kids

so they saw it was for them (well, DS saw it was; DD can't read yet!).

My son loves to draw and spends hours a day drawing cartoons...and remember

he is ADHD--if none of you folks has an ADHD kid who loves to draw, let me tell

you: he doesn't mean to, but he's enthusiastic and messy: the ink gets

everywhere. (I ought to invest in the companies that make carpet-cleaning spot

solution and those magic-erase sponges, ha.)

But...even if he's careless and leaves an uncapped purple marker on light

carpet...well, I don't like that part of it, but it makes me happy to see him

cultivating a talent for something he loves so much.

HOWEVER....nada's " gift " to my son? A set of 24 PERMANENT-INK markers.

Now...nada is not one of those " laid-back,

let-a-child-loose-with-permanent-ink " kind of gals. (She wouldn't let anyone

under 30 into her home with ONE permanent marker, fully capped.) And she's not

a space cadet, who buys sets of permanent markers for children by mistake.

The woman bought my messy ADHD child a set of permanent ink markers, in the

hope that either (1) I wouldn't notice, and he would ruin a bunch of stuff with

permanent ink; or (2) I would confiscate the markers and be the Mean mama.

I did the latter... He would have " understood " in any case, but the timing

made it even easier... I had just spent half the afternoon tracking down

special " animator's clay " for him (he also does clay animation and other kinds

of stop-frame animation), so he was in an appreciative frame of mind.

I'm sure others have funny stories about wildly inappropriate nada gifts.

Flea

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[Guest guest]

I have a good one. My nada (I've been NC about 6

months) sent my 8 year old son on his birthday a weird

" prayer candle " along with a card that said " light

this candle on every birthday and think of me. Pray

that your mother will get over her coldness and learn

how to love others. " Needless to say, the candle went

into the trash as did the card.

LM

--- Flea Bitten wrote:

> Thought others might " appreciate " the thought that

> went into this:

>

> I've been NC since...November? Right around that

> time I (foolishly in retrospect) agreed to let nada

> /stepfada send my kids Xmas gifts. " We've already

> bought them, blah blah. "

>

> Anyway, since she had " authorization " for the Xmas

> gifts, nada took it upon herself to send the kids a

> package for Valentine's Day, addressed to the kids

> so they saw it was for them (well, DS saw it was; DD

> can't read yet!).

>

> My son loves to draw and spends hours a day

> drawing cartoons...and remember he is ADHD--if none

> of you folks has an ADHD kid who loves to draw, let

> me tell you: he doesn't mean to, but he's

> enthusiastic and messy: the ink gets everywhere. (I

> ought to invest in the companies that make

> carpet-cleaning spot solution and those magic-erase

> sponges, ha.)

>

> But...even if he's careless and leaves an uncapped

> purple marker on light carpet...well, I don't like

> that part of it, but it makes me happy to see him

> cultivating a talent for something he loves so much.

>

> HOWEVER....nada's " gift " to my son? A set of 24

> PERMANENT-INK markers.

>

> Now...nada is not one of those " laid-back,

> let-a-child-loose-with-permanent-ink " kind of gals.

> (She wouldn't let anyone under 30 into her home

> with ONE permanent marker, fully capped.) And she's

> not a space cadet, who buys sets of permanent

> markers for children by mistake.

>

> The woman bought my messy ADHD child a set of

> permanent ink markers, in the hope that either (1)

> I wouldn't notice, and he would ruin a bunch of

> stuff with permanent ink; or (2) I would confiscate

> the markers and be the Mean mama.

>

> I did the latter... He would have " understood " in

> any case, but the timing made it even easier... I

> had just spent half the afternoon tracking down

> special " animator's clay " for him (he also does clay

> animation and other kinds of stop-frame animation),

> so he was in an appreciative frame of mind.

>

> I'm sure others have funny stories about wildly

> inappropriate nada gifts.

>

> Flea

>

>

>

>

> ---------------------------------

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>

>

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[Guest guest]

OMG!!! I would have flipped. Wow, certainly teaches us to check

these gifts before passing them to the kids, huh?

I actually ran into this problem with gifts aobut 6 months after going

nc. I moved, so nada and foo didn't know how to get send anything to

me. After hearing that they bought ds a beautiful (read:expensive)

wooden train set for Christmas they were inquiring how it could be

sent to him.

I mailed my fada a letter respectfully declining any gifts for my

dk's. I asked him how I would explain to ds where these gifts were

coming from. And what would he learn about my values if his

grandparents aren't good enough to be around - why should we accept

things from them.

As far as I know they kept buying things for a while but I didn't back

down. I won't accept any gifts from people who I don't have a good

relationship with.

>

> > Thought others might " appreciate " the thought that

> > went into this:

> >

> > I've been NC since...November? Right around that

> > time I (foolishly in retrospect) agreed to let nada

> > /stepfada send my kids Xmas gifts. " We've already

> > bought them, blah blah. "

> >

> > Anyway, since she had " authorization " for the Xmas

> > gifts, nada took it upon herself to send the kids a

> > package for Valentine's Day, addressed to the kids

> > so they saw it was for them (well, DS saw it was; DD

> > can't read yet!).

> >

> > My son loves to draw and spends hours a day

> > drawing cartoons...and remember he is ADHD--if none

> > of you folks has an ADHD kid who loves to draw, let

> > me tell you: he doesn't mean to, but he's

> > enthusiastic and messy: the ink gets everywhere. (I

> > ought to invest in the companies that make

> > carpet-cleaning spot solution and those magic-erase

> > sponges, ha.)

> >

> > But...even if he's careless and leaves an uncapped

> > purple marker on light carpet...well, I don't like

> > that part of it, but it makes me happy to see him

> > cultivating a talent for something he loves so much.

> >

> > HOWEVER....nada's " gift " to my son? A set of 24

> > PERMANENT-INK markers.

> >

> > Now...nada is not one of those " laid-back,

> > let-a-child-loose-with-permanent-ink " kind of gals.

> > (She wouldn't let anyone under 30 into her home

> > with ONE permanent marker, fully capped.) And she's

> > not a space cadet, who buys sets of permanent

> > markers for children by mistake.

> >

> > The woman bought my messy ADHD child a set of

> > permanent ink markers, in the hope that either (1)

> > I wouldn't notice, and he would ruin a bunch of

> > stuff with permanent ink; or (2) I would confiscate

> > the markers and be the Mean mama.

> >

> > I did the latter... He would have " understood " in

> > any case, but the timing made it even easier... I

> > had just spent half the afternoon tracking down

> > special " animator's clay " for him (he also does clay

> > animation and other kinds of stop-frame animation),

> > so he was in an appreciative frame of mind.

> >

> > I'm sure others have funny stories about wildly

> > inappropriate nada gifts.

> >

> > Flea

> >

> >

> >

> >

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> >

>

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[Guest guest]

OMG!!! How incredibly inappropriate...yet very nada-ish. *sigh* Even on

occasions that are supposed to be happy for other people somehow become

occasions for nadas to assert their beliefs that we split black children are

treating them horribly and that they are martyrs. Ergh.

redoit2000@... wrote:

I have a good one. My nada (I've been NC about 6

months) sent my 8 year old son on his birthday a weird

" prayer candle " along with a card that said " light

this candle on every birthday and think of me. Pray

that your mother will get over her coldness and learn

how to love others. " Needless to say, the candle went

into the trash as did the card.

LM

--- Flea Bitten wrote:

> Thought others might " appreciate " the thought that

> went into this:

>

> I've been NC since...November? Right around that

> time I (foolishly in retrospect) agreed to let nada

> /stepfada send my kids Xmas gifts. " We've already

> bought them, blah blah. "

>

> Anyway, since she had " authorization " for the Xmas

> gifts, nada took it upon herself to send the kids a

> package for Valentine's Day, addressed to the kids

> so they saw it was for them (well, DS saw it was; DD

> can't read yet!).

>

> My son loves to draw and spends hours a day

> drawing cartoons...and remember he is ADHD--if none

> of you folks has an ADHD kid who loves to draw, let

> me tell you: he doesn't mean to, but he's

> enthusiastic and messy: the ink gets everywhere. (I

> ought to invest in the companies that make

> carpet-cleaning spot solution and those magic-erase

> sponges, ha.)

>

> But...even if he's careless and leaves an uncapped

> purple marker on light carpet...well, I don't like

> that part of it, but it makes me happy to see him

> cultivating a talent for something he loves so much.

>

> HOWEVER....nada's " gift " to my son? A set of 24

> PERMANENT-INK markers.

>

> Now...nada is not one of those " laid-back,

> let-a-child-loose-with-permanent-ink " kind of gals.

> (She wouldn't let anyone under 30 into her home

> with ONE permanent marker, fully capped.) And she's

> not a space cadet, who buys sets of permanent

> markers for children by mistake.

>

> The woman bought my messy ADHD child a set of

> permanent ink markers, in the hope that either (1)

> I wouldn't notice, and he would ruin a bunch of

> stuff with permanent ink; or (2) I would confiscate

> the markers and be the Mean mama.

>

> I did the latter... He would have " understood " in

> any case, but the timing made it even easier... I

> had just spent half the afternoon tracking down

> special " animator's clay " for him (he also does clay

> animation and other kinds of stop-frame animation),

> so he was in an appreciative frame of mind.

>

> I'm sure others have funny stories about wildly

> inappropriate nada gifts.

>

> Flea

>

>

>

>

> ---------------------------------

> Brings words and photos together (easily) with

> PhotoMail - it's free and works with Yahoo! Mail.

>

> [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

>

>

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[Guest guest]

> I have a good one. My nada (I've been NC about 6

> months) sent my 8 year old son on his birthday a weird

> " prayer candle " along with a card that said " light

> this candle on every birthday and think of me. Pray

> that your mother will get over her coldness and learn

> how to love others. " Needless to say, the candle went

> into the trash as did the card.

> LM

>

Ahem after that little number, did she get to see her grandchildren?

Funny how for people so unstable they are ever so wonderfully

predictable. Abuse the kids. That's what they've *always* done if any

adults tell them they've had enough abuse.

Thank you for making my resolve absolute with regard to Yeti seeing any

family I make.

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[Guest guest]

Nada has not seen the kids since last March. I

finally made the cut from her to protect my kids from

what I went through. The last thing she said on the

phone to my daughter was " Mommy doesn't love Nana

anymore " and was crying hysterically putting my little

girl in a very bad position. My husband grabbed the

phone and hung it up. I set the kids down and told

them we would no longer have contact with her. Prior

to that, when she would visit us, she would start

fights that always ended with me being " so cold and

hollow " and my husband was always stupid and a liar.

In front of the kids! She told the kids they were

going to hell because of their video games. She is

vile and evil and was confusing my kids. I realized I

had to go NC to protect them from her influence. She

left horrible phone messages for a while and tried to

call me at work. She sent Christmas cards to the kids

which I opened. They contained checks and messages

about how she wanted to visit them but I would not let

her and for them to call her secretly when I was at

work. I ripped up the checks, the kids never saw the

cards and quite frankly don't seem to miss her at all.

While I do feel occasional guilt, my advice to all is

protect your kids!! That's all that counts.

LM

--- Hutton wrote:

> On Wed, 2006-02-08 at 08:36 -0800,

> redoit2000@... wrote:

> > I have a good one. My nada (I've been NC about 6

> > months) sent my 8 year old son on his birthday a

> weird

> > " prayer candle " along with a card that said " light

> > this candle on every birthday and think of me.

> Pray

> > that your mother will get over her coldness and

> learn

> > how to love others. " Needless to say, the candle

> went

> > into the trash as did the card.

> > LM

> >

>

> Ahem after that little number, did she get to see

> her grandchildren?

> Funny how for people so unstable they are ever so

> wonderfully

> predictable. Abuse the kids. That's what they've

> *always* done if any

> adults tell them they've had enough abuse.

>

> Thank you for making my resolve absolute with regard

> to Yeti seeing any

> family I make.

>

>

>

> Send instant messages to your online friends

> http://au.messenger.yahoo.com

>

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