Re: To Trish

[Guest guest]

, thanks for the book reference. I'll have to look into that sometime--I

definitely have

made myself physically ill meeting my nada's demands before, so it sounds like

it could

apply.

Trish

>

> Hmm. This is something that makes me very sad: my distrust of other

> human beings. It comes and goes, but it doesn't feel good. I'm

> surprized at how sad I feel writing this; I've known about it for a

> long time. Weird. Trish

>

>

> .............I also recognize this in myself and on my journey to

> self discovery I read the Doormat Syndrome by Lynn Namka (she also

> has a GREAT website - just google name of book or her name. What I

> noticed is that I was actively SEEKING approval from others ALL the

> time in my conversations. I used words and phrases that labeled me

> a victim and VERY needy. I used this book as a guideline to change

> MY speech patterns and to become my own person. Take care, mg

>

>

> Doormat Syndrome

> Lynn Namka, Paperback: 180 pages, Publisher: Authors Choice Press

> (December 1, 2000), Language: English, ISBN: 0595160603

>

> Book Description

> If you have ever given to the point of exhaustion, felt dumped on or

> ripped off, and puzzled to find yourself coming back for more; if

> you are involved with people who don't appreciate you, if you equate

> love with doing for others, you may be experiencing The Doormat

> Syndrome.

>

> Are you.....

> a people pleaser? addicted to dysfunctional love relationships?

> preoccupied with meeting the needs of others? hooked into feeling

> good by pleasing someone else? blame yourself when things go wrong?

> feel your self sacrifices are not appreciated? have trouble

> accepting love?

>

> There is no fix like the fix of trying to fix someone who is

> perceived to be broken! That is the heavy part. Now for the

> lightness, cheer and happiness part. What has been learned can be

> unlearned!

>