Re: Nada Tricked Me

August 14, 2007

After I hung up on my nada (for the first time!), she had my father

address the envelope of a card she sent to me, in the hopes of

tricking me into reading her card.

>

> Hi KOs!

>

> I'm NC with my nada, have been for about six years now. I guess I

> must be quite far along in my healing process, because I let my guard

> down and she snuck past my defenses!

>

> Today I got an envelope in the mail, addressed to me in large block

> letters (think ransom-note type letters), and no return address. I

> thought " huh, that's odd " , but opened it anyway. And, whaddya know,

> inside is a card with a " Miss You " on the front, and a picture of a

> pomeranian (my dog, who lived with her but died a few months ago, I

> believe she had something to do with his death but have no solid

> proof). Before my warning bells can go off, a slip of paper falls out

> of it - a bible verse, with " a time to heal " circled. Ack.

>

> I usually have my husband intercept her letters, and either she

> figured this out or else guessed that I'm not reading them. But what

> kind of person sends an anonymous (ransom note) card to trick someone

> into reading it so they can send bible verses and " miss you "

> messages? Oh yeah, a nada.

>

> Funny, in a yucky sort of way.

>

August 14, 2007

I went NC with nada years ago always hangnig up the phone ect. this went on

for couple years year after she divorced dad. For a while thereafter I dabbled

with trying to get to know my grandma nada's nada. I was visiting my real dad

and the phone rang. She called me granada did and i just could feeeeel nada

listening in on another phone. lo and behold xmas arrives and nada sends two

packages via UPS to my dad one for me and one for brada. We didnt sign for

them. they went back to her. two cards showed up in the mailbox form her as

well. I promtly took them to the post office and had them sent back unopened.

Granada calls me a few days afer Xmas wanting to know this and that and why

we sent them back and she fells the kiddos abandoned her and shes still your

mother blah blah blah, find it in your heart, all that crap.

Granada doesnt really care for nada that much either but knows shes sick and

kind of puts up a front of the loving mother. Has this " You need to have a long

talk with God mentality " when i explain that i didnt deserve to have nada for a

mother. She changed her tune when i told her that nada said things about her

and has " always wanted to put you in a nursing home " . Then she mentioned

how she hadnt realized i went NC with nada and wished i would have called

her up to tell her what all nada was doing with insane behavior etc... (i

learned

long ago not to because they run and tell nada who then explains away

excuxes herself and discounts my side of the story)

She called me up several times having a " casual conversation " which wasnt

that bad really. I even went to visit her after surery and few months before

she passed away. she always expressed a desire to see nada and I back to

gether again. But i never felt forced to be with her against my will. She

respected my decision of NC to the end, granada did.

It still kind of irks me that she hoodwinked her own mother whom she

despises to find out where i lived therefore giving her the go ahead to send

unwelcome packages and correspondence to the family she worked so hard

to alienate. I mean if someone refuses to talk to you over the phone wont send

a forwarding adressss etc and doesnt tell you where you live. I would take

that as an " I dont want to have anything to do with you "

Yep if someone is to the point of " tricking " you into contact it is oooooover!

Ann

> >

> > Hi KOs!

> >

> > I'm NC with my nada, have been for about six years now. I guess I

> > must be quite far along in my healing process, because I let my guard

> > down and she snuck past my defenses!

> >

> > Today I got an envelope in the mail, addressed to me in large block

> > letters (think ransom-note type letters), and no return address. I

> > thought " huh, that's odd " , but opened it anyway. And, whaddya know,

> > inside is a card with a " Miss You " on the front, and a picture of a

> > pomeranian (my dog, who lived with her but died a few months ago, I

> > believe she had something to do with his death but have no solid

> > proof). Before my warning bells can go off, a slip of paper falls out

> > of it - a bible verse, with " a time to heal " circled. Ack.

> >

> > I usually have my husband intercept her letters, and either she

> > figured this out or else guessed that I'm not reading them. But what

> > kind of person sends an anonymous (ransom note) card to trick someone

> > into reading it so they can send bible verses and " miss you "

> > messages? Oh yeah, a nada.

> >

> > Funny, in a yucky sort of way.

> >

>

August 15, 2007

there is a passage in the bible that says honor thy mother and father, but it

also says do not tempt your children. i do not know exactly where it is but i

would send it back with that message attached in bright red colors!!!!!!!!!!!

lol

lisa m

sherby2k wrote:

Hi KOs!

I'm NC with my nada, have been for about six years now. I guess I

must be quite far along in my healing process, because I let my guard

down and she snuck past my defenses!

Today I got an envelope in the mail, addressed to me in large block

letters (think ransom-note type letters), and no return address. I

thought " huh, that's odd " , but opened it anyway. And, whaddya know,

inside is a card with a " Miss You " on the front, and a picture of a

pomeranian (my dog, who lived with her but died a few months ago, I

believe she had something to do with his death but have no solid

proof). Before my warning bells can go off, a slip of paper falls out

of it - a bible verse, with " a time to heal " circled. Ack.

I usually have my husband intercept her letters, and either she

figured this out or else guessed that I'm not reading them. But what

kind of person sends an anonymous (ransom note) card to trick someone

into reading it so they can send bible verses and " miss you "

messages? Oh yeah, a nada.

Funny, in a yucky sort of way.

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August 15, 2007

i got tricked too! the last time i had heard from my mother was on my birthday

in feb. i went to the mailbox on that day and she had sent me a card. when i

opened it there were the two birthday cards i sent to her on her birthday.

nothing else said. her birthday was in aug. she held onto those cards six months

then sent them back to me! anyway i guess i had it coming because when i sent

them to her along with a gift i also sent this letter:

Mom,

Had this present for you and i have no need for it, so i am sending it on to

you.

It is obvious your decison has been made to not have contact with me. Exactly

why, i don't want to know, nor will i try to find out or continue to try to have

contact with you. I do not wish you any ill will. Although, i am very hurt and

disappointed with your decision, just as i am with Shaun and to condone

it and act on it too. I am sure it really doesn't matter to any of you anyhow.

I will no longer burden you or them with me and my families " behavior or drama "

again, as i have been told that is what I do. How fortunate and wonderful that

you and they are so ABOVE that and always have " Great Behavior " and " No Drama " !

Families-what a JOKE! I never believed in the saying " Blood is thicker than

Water " because, all of you have proven to me IT IS NOT! I should have done this

a long time ago, as then i would have saved myself from being in such toxic

relationships with the three of you. I completely respect and understand my

older brothers detachment from all of

you. I will continue to surround myself with those who love, and respect me,

as there are many in my life. How unfortunate for all of you that you choose

not to be included. I will continue to pray for you though. I wish you better

days ahead and hope that you are happy and continue to stay healthy.

lisa

as you probably would have guessed shaun and carrie are my sisters. i guess

there was a problem at christmas before that aug. with my older sister and her

son with another siblings child?? everyone had a fight and because i continued

to speak to my older sister after the arguement, when my mother was hospitalized

all three of them stopped talking to me. i kept on calling to find out about her

conditon only to be told they will let me know on a need to know basis-punishing

me for taking sides apparently. i was very upset and we had an email show down

so to speak. after all that i got an email from shaun telling me how much of a

burden i was through out her life and how i am always full of drama. so i

stopped trying to contact them and when the time came for my nada's bday sent

this to her. after that i recieved a letter from my two sisters telling me it

was i who have made my mother ill(she had copd-from chronic smoking) and that

they were showing the letter i sent to her

to her doctor. they also told me that they would be forwarding it to everyone

whom i think loves and respects me. well i didn't hear from them after that

except to get the cards at my bday. i live in arizona and have gone home once

and not gone to see my mother. i am going back home again this oct and again

will not try to see her. it is liberating!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! this aug is

her bday again. i will have NC.

lisa m

vegdeanna wrote: