Aging Nadas and the wake behind them... (Re: Re: Happier without her)

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As Nada ages... she is in her 60s now... I'm noticing that she is

getting worse, super nutty and depressed at times (I'm going to hell...

I wish she'd just off herself already...) BUT, as a result, now OTHERS

are noticing that she " isn't right. " Of course, this is my

sisters-in-law not my brothers who are so dysfunctional they wouldn't

know what is normal really.

So, I have one brother... workaholic and suspected pedophile brother

married to a doormat (lovely woman who apparently hates herself), one

undiagnosed OCD angry brother married to a BP witch, one undiagnosed

depressed ADHD brother married to a diagnosed and treated bipolar /

anxiety sufferer (I think they're the most healthy couple I think but I

hardly see them... they stay FAR away from Nada! I hope once we get out

of here that we can see them more because we'll be moving closer to

them.) AND I have a much younger brother who is an angry budding

alcoholic and whose fiance wrestles consciously with an eating disorder.

He was too young to really witness Dad's alcoholism... so he wasn't

afraid to drink like the rest of us. Funny thing... Nada actually

FINALLY realized this about my youngest brother and made her obnoxious

comments to his fiance comparing him to our father and this has seemed

to wake up baby brother. Fiance told me the other day that since she

relayed Nada's comments about his drinking (and how he's becoming an

alcoholic like our father), baby brother hasn't had a drink since (that

was almost a week dry at that point.) I'm hoping that if he can't keep

it going that he will get help finally.

Then there's me... angry, anxiety/depression (bipolar? PTSD?? Not

diagnosed yet... T's haven't really been that good though), workaholic I

think.... worked myself into the ground because I was sick and ignored

it... and definitely a food addict (thankfully 90% under control but

under stress and I'm grabbing the food)... Being addicted to food sucks

because it's not like to you just NOT eat food anymore! I think I'm a

little OCD. I've been in therapy since my teens (first put there by Nada

insisting I was the most horrible teen in existence... (straight A's,

virgin, not allowed to leave the house and yet I was a horrible slut on

drugs walking the street? Nada was creative!) Hubby is a very calm,

non-confrontational... almost apathetic. OCD definitely... won't throw

much away without extensive discussion but pretty benign problem all in

all. He isn't a threat to me and when I'm at my worst I'm controlling

like Nada. If you yell he is surprised and upset... we argue like

rational people which was a nice change from past horrific relationships.

Wow... it's weird to see it all written out neat like that!

Ramblin on,

Jen

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Nope you aren't going to hell... if she did top herself... it would save

someone else from doing it...

I *frequently* had thoughts of murdering the old bag myself, before I went

NC. It was about the same time that I started thinking that Mum was not

exactly like other people's mothers.

Aging Nadas and the wake behind them... (Re:

Re: Happier without her)

As Nada ages... she is in her 60s now... I'm noticing that she is

getting worse, super nutty and depressed at times (I'm going to hell...

I wish she'd just off herself already...) BUT, as a result, now OTHERS

are noticing that she " isn't right. "

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