Thank you, everyone

[Guest guest]

I want to thank all of you from the bottom of my heart for such a very warm

welcome...indeed, in just a few short days I feel so safe and welcome here..

i really, really appreciate all the wonderful warm messages.

I have ordered the " Understanding the Borderline Mother " book...and I have a

funny story for all of you. My BPD mother got my mail and brought the book

over to my house. Big shock, right? A BPD mother nosing through your mail..

..openly admitting that each and every piece is a nastygram because she is

sure I'm not paying my bills. At first I just cringed...then I kind of

chuckled to myself...mainly because I am a big believer in Karma. Anyway..

she hands me this book, and says " oh...this looks fabulous...will you lend

it to me when you are finished " ? I just kind of said " ummm...sure " ...Get

this...she thinks I ordered the book to better understand my FATHER...that i

have figured out that it was my GRANDMOTHER who had BPD and I am researching

the effects it had on my father!! Part of me wanted to smack her in the

head with the book and say " what is the matter with you " ? But that is

classic BPD eh? ( Granted...BOTH of my parents are BPD...they tag team my

brother and I.) I'm not sure if I was more shocked at the ignorance or the

disbelief that she was calling ANYTHING i did or had fabulous....although my

mom has a way of giving those backhanded compliments. She says something is

" nice " or " wonderful " the way a parent is in awe of a mashed potato

sculpture that a 2 year old makes....anyway....she was reading the back of

the book and the entire time i was thinking " i wonder if she recognizes ANY

of these things " ...apparently not, surprise surprise.

Anyhooooo....it's laugh or cry and i thought it was particulary funny for

some reason and thought i would pass it along....my nada...what a tool!

Kisses and Nibbles,

Bunny

-- Re: Hello everyone, I'm new

Welcome Angel! Glad you found us. I have only been a member for a

few months but it is really a great place and now that I found it I

am so grateful. I to didn't relize that bpd had a name until talking

to my moms Dr. 4 years ago. And it really didnt sink in until last

summer when I read Understanding the Borderline Mother. It is good

of you to be able to help your brother when he needs it. Welcome

again Lizzy

>

> I just wanted to take a moment to introduce myself to the group. My

> name is Angel, and I am a married mom of 2 teenage children

learning

> the trials and tribulations of being a child of parents who have

BPD.

> All of this is new to me, so please excuse me while I lurk a bit

and

> learn the lingo. I've known for years that my parents

had " issues " ,

> but haven't learned until recently that those " issues " have a

name.

> At a very young age, I managed to pretty much put my life on the

line

> and get some help with getting out from under it all. The entire

> situation is a very long story that I will share over time, I am

sure.

> As you all know, it is an on-going process. Currently, I live

across

> the street from my parents (who both, in my humble opinion have

> BPD)....yes, that in itself is a product of being brought up by

> parents who have BPD...but I still have a brother living at home

with

> them...my residence is actually so that I can offer him a safe

haven,

> and emotional support.

>

> I have learned how to, over time, deal with many issues put in

front

> of me by my BPD parents. I'm looking forward to sharing some

things

> that have worked for me. (And some that haven't) It's very nice to

> know that we all share the same hurdles. That it is ok to set

> boundries, and feel good about ourselves. Through friendship and

> support, it may be a little easier to get through it together.

>