Guest guest Posted June 9, 2010 Report Share Posted June 9, 2010 Agree. The work on compassion that I have been doing has really helped. Instead of beating myself up I encourage & support myself, whilst being firm - just as a good parent would. Parenting oneself is essential. The Gilbert book on compaasion helped a lot. Simone To: ACT_for_the_Public Sent: Wed, 9 June, 2010 5:11:15Subject: Re: Loneliness the great thing is that we can now be unconditional to ourselves...unlike as children who weren't emotionally capable or mature toI have often thought that anxiety is like a child who just wants to be loved and to feel secure....which you can be to yourselftry it out next time you are feeling anxious...instead of resisting, try to love the child, allow whatever comes up to come up...and love, accept, be compassionate, etc...it has worked wonders for mebest,vc> >> > > > > > Hi Kaivey, > > > > > > > > Is this the same girlfriend who you said loved you unconditionally a few months ago (perhaps longer)? You often write about the wonderful girlfriend who really appreciates you and I was just curious if this is the same one as before.  Either way, you are one fortunate guy to have either one or many loving women in your life! > > > > > > > > I'm so sorry that your parents didn't love you. I know what that feels like. > > > > > > > > Helena > > > > > > > > > > Loneliness > > > >  > > > > > > > > > > > > I have this lovely girlfriend who really cares about me. Philosophers, > > and some psychologists, say unless you know the opposite, you will never > > be able to appreciate the good things. I have always had trouble with > > that, because I'm sure that relentless beautiful sunny days would never > > get boring. But my girlfriend loves me and so now I know that I have > > never been loved. Wow! Unconditional love is so weird - I don't deserve > > it and yet I am loved! And it doesn't really make a lot of sense to me > > either, because although it's really nice, surely by mathematics - I > > give and then you give - you have to earn it? But perhaps not, I'm loved > > for just being me. Weird hey? No one has ever done that before. > > > > I used to think that to be successful you needed to be individual and > > then you can kick some arse and be better than everyone else. But when > > you see all those monkeys up in the trees all hugging each other it's > > really cute, because they are with their freinds and they don't want to > > be anywhere else. Now that's nice. > > > > Kaivey> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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